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Originally Posted by tame_deuces
It is very common to blame the victim like you do here (albeit indirectly). The view that if the victim had just changed something - her hair, lost some weight, been less shy or held some other belief - then the bullying would never have occured in the first place.
This is the same error as someone did earlier when looking at the bully video "what happened was that the kid went to far." Like you have removed the bully and the environment from the equation, that poster removed the victim and the environment. However, harassment is social interaction, not monologue.
Such simplistic views of conflict and harassment are counter-productive. The biggest reason is that an extremely important party in these case always tends to be left out of the equation: The school.
Yeah, whatever. That's not the case. I think I'm seeing this pretty clearly.
#1 There will always be bullies in every school and neighborhood.
#2 Not everybody gets bullied.
What does that tell us?
Bullies discriminate. They harass someone who is different, most times, from everybody else.
They harass the kid with the curly hair or the overweight girl or the Indian kid who "smells like curry."
Therefore, if you are going to raise your child to "be different," then you shouldn't be surprised when your 11-year old-- who is spouting atheist dogma while the other kids are fiddling with their Ipads-- gets treated differently from others in the school.
I am not justifying bullying of said child.
I'm just saying that I think in this case the parent might be somewhat culpable, and perhaps feigning naivety, as well.
The attackers are 11 year old "theists." Not bullies, but theists.
That statement is a rather strange one to begin with, and should set off an alarm.