MLY is the PHB?

racener

M,

I wonder whether or not you've actually heard what your boss is telling you. It seems to be a common theme that your perception of things is often very different than reality. I think a big reason for that is you're not a good listener. Also, when describing things, you tend to recast narratives in ways more favorable towards you.

You should try to go beyond the literal words your boss said and think about what you could be doing better besides just walking around and waving at people.

Also you'd get better and more useful feedback if you posted this discussion in OOT. Yes, there would be some trolling as well, but that would be accompanied with specific tactics you could implement to better your situation, from people with lots of experience managing situations like yours.

Today's exercise:
10 min walk @3.2, 5°

Squats:
3x10x90

Leg extensions:
3x10x90

Lat pulldowns:
3x10x90

Db rows:
3x10x30s

Db incline bench:
3x15x25s

MLYLT, it sounds like you're simply too good at your job.

It really sucks that your supervisor took all the credit for you saving the company $100k/year with your baller idea. She sounds like a real bitch too.

You deserve so much better than this.

Allin,

This forum/thread is not for trolling. Save that for the OOT threads.

I don't know man. I seem to recall Howard advocating cheery waves at the work place so much that I started to think it could cure cancer.

citanul,

1. STFU

2. ok

3. STFU

Mon log:

Not really what I said, but it'll suffice for these purposes.

I would really worry not about being told off by your boss, but about that someone reported you to the boss. It is soooooo big sign, that you are doing something wrong with relationships to your coworkers at your job. I have done a lot against company policies, have seen a lot of people breaking a lot of rules, plain because the rules made no sense. But I never heard of someone reporting such stuff to the higher management.

I would really somehow try to build true connections with your coworkers. I mean not just going around making superficial chit-chat, but trying to get involved, finding something interesting for you, trying to really like your coworkers.

I mean alone your comments here..... I am completely sure, that you can't hide your attitude at work. People sense that you don't like them. You have to change that.

A 1.2kcal day is great and all, but are you actively trying to eat the ****tiest food possible?

You could always try eating 1.2kcal of Skittles daily too, I guess.

I'm sure she has a list of excuses ready for her choices

Yeah, thanks Lapka.
I'm not really sure what to do with this woman. Ive tried showing a genuine interest in her and I've tried talking to her before and I've listened to tons of stories about her grandchildren and how she was planning her nieces wedding and her how her mother that passed handed down the special ornaments to her and looked at her Christmas tree photos, etc.
Do you have any suggestions of what else I should do? Should I try to make sure to say hi to her every morning?

I've been staying in my office and reading during lunch, maybe I could start eating in the break room and talk to people.

Eating lunch with your co-workers would probably be a good start. What's the age difference between you and this woman in question, I get the impression it's something like 15-20 years between you?

25 years

With such big age difference no one should expect you to be super best friends then, but as lapka said, it must really takes some special dislike to make her report you to the boss.

I can certainly understand not liking the "office politics" and stuff, but just a bit more natural interactions with your co-workers should do the trick. Forced chit chat might hurt your case more than help as it's pretty easy to know when someone is being a phony and not really interested.

Some people are just *******s. You could show you are a better employee than her so she should just stfu and that's about it other than being nice. Posting on 2+2 doesn't help.

M,

Of course you should say hi every morning, are you serious?

And isolating yourself away from everyone during lunch in a small office is not generally seen as a friendly behavior. I could understand if you were super busy and needed to work at your desk or just needed a few minutes break time from the stress. But you work all of two hours a day.

It sounds like you show active disdain towards your co-workers. Of course they are not big fans of you and your boss thinks this might not be the right place for you.

well, I did cook chicken for dinner last night, but when I wasn't looking my daughter poured dish soap all over everything I cooked for dinner because she was making "magic potion"

Leave some nice/useful things around the office. Leave snacks in the breakroom for people to eat. Smile more, cheery waves.
Be more outgoing. People will notice and ask what's gotten into you. Make up something positive in your life. Spread the love. Tell jokes. Show humility. Help people with their problems. This isn't rocket science.

Well I wish it was rocket science, then I'd be good at it.

Code3 gets away with not having to interact or speak with anyone. I'm so jealous. I miss my job when I was a project engineer, I didn't have problems with not being liked, and I got to work with guys I went to school with and knew me, and we all had similar personalities.

Just gotta be observant. The tools are visibly expressed by the people around you. Ask yourself what they are doing that you aren't, then adapt accordingly.

Everyone has weaknesses by the way. Reading How To Win Friends or some Warren Buffet could be helpful.