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Originally Posted by AdamSchwartz
This right here
+1
I had a friend who had kids before we did who suggested that some amount of solo time was really important, for both of you. They did "mom's night out" where his wife had one night a week that was hers, end stop. She couldn't pre-make dinner, had zero family responsibilities, etc. Dad + kid 100% were self-sufficient. Time to yourself matters.
We've taken that a step further and both my wife and I take one night a week as a "night out". Our kid is now 12, and we're still doing it. It is so easy to get into the habit where both of you are together all the time, centered on the kid. If you both work from home (like we do), doubly so.
As others have mentioned, the kid in the bucket is really the easiest time (other than lack of sleep
), and T, you should look forward to a few months of easy transition. If you run OK in the colic/other issue department, the first 6 months will let you ease into things... if this isn't just memory blackout speaking.