Well, there are convenient buzzwords 'grey-sexual' / 'on the asexual spectrum' that describe anyone who's intermediate between sexual and asexual. (Similarly, there are 'grey-romantic' people 'on the aromantic spectrum'.) I think that someone who has an permanent irrational repulsion for sex/romance, despite enjoying the process physically when it does come to the act, does fall on the ace/aro spectrum.

And it actually doesn't matter if that permanent repulsion is by nature or nurture - what matters is the result.

P.S. Swimmin, in case you (or anyone else) want to start posting on AVEN to research your sexual, romantic, etc. orientation, feel free to PM me on 2+2 so that I become your guardian angel on AVEN (i.e. assist with your integration into the community) even though I don't post normally there any longer, but please never mention there that I play poker and how you found me, and don't troll people there - they get offended much easier that an average person. If you do troll there, you'll get IP-banned very fast because the mod team is very professional. (This especially applies to the Tea and Sympathy subforum.) Whenever you're unsure if something that you're going to post there is acceptable, you'd rather ask me first.

And be prepared to that you'll be considered an ally at least at first (i.e. a sexual person who is solidary with the asexual spectrum community or even is or would like to be in a relationship with an ace spec person).

You know your human history!

The problem is I get wayyy less value from sex than most every other guy, theres less friction, its simply less enjoyable for me, I refuse to sacrifice the same (or more due to not having a big D that attracts women) I refuse to sacrifice the same time/energy/money/resources to getting laid when im getting a wayyy ****ti3r deal than every other guy, thats called getting exploited and is a form of being p1mped out, I simply opt out, its really not that great for me
Having a 5.0 inch dick (standing up measurment) is literally the worst possible situation for a human, doomed to be asexual, its not ALL doom and gloom though, LITERALLY every aspect of my life automatically improves by removing women from the equation so I 'leveled up' in every other regard

An introduction to dating grey-/asexuals

I thought it would be a good idea to make an x-post from the Thai thread for better visibility. Those who have read that write-up there don't need to read the rest of this post (the almost verbatim copy of the write-up).
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Disclaimer: what follows represents my personal opinion; 'official' info about asexuality can be found on AVEN or in some Tumblr pages; also, there was an excellent OOT AMA about it years ago.
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Cliffs: grey-/asexuals are very diverse, quite open-minded and, as a rule of thumb, very vulnerable human beings.
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Asexuals (aces) are, by definition, those who don't experience sexual attraction (but some of us even enjoy sex, it's just not a basic need for them).

Gray-sexuals are those who're somewhere between sexuals and aces, i.e.still don't experience sexual attraction as often as most people.

The dating sites where aces and graces are easy to filter are OKCupid (where these orientations can be selected) and specialised ace dating sites, the most popular of which is Asexualitic.

The majority of the ace community are from the US (which, I assume, is not good for you if you want to play at ROW poker sites), but there are a lot of Canadians and British there as well.

Here are a few population tendencies that you should expect if you go this route (we, aces, come in a lot of varieties but are taught to understand the differences and be very tolerant to each other):

- The best part is that the vast majority of us are female, and most of those women do desire romantic closeness and are open to potentially being in a relationship with a sexual person, as long as that person is caring and understanding.

- Most of us are monoamorous, i.e. won't let a partner have any romantic encounters on the side, demand that the partner is invested emotionally into no one but 'the one and only'. Some of us, however, do allow an 'open relationship', i.e. allow the partner to have sex on the side, which is up to negotation.

- The sex frequency is also up to compromise, though it's usually going to be lower than the majority of people would be comfortable with. Some are sex-repulsed and won't let you penetrate them ever, whereas some are neutral or even positive about that and will let you penetrate from time to time.

- The same applies to other displays of affection like open-mouth kissing with all that saliva flowing (FYI, kissing with mouths closed is just as good). Most do like cuddling, though.

- Curiously enough, as many as 60% of us want to have children, either adopted or conceived by artificial insemination or even in the natural way (!)

- Contrary to the popular belief, we're generally not ugly, and some of us like wearing makeup and beautifying in general.

- Moreover, we're generally much like other people ('too human' to my taste ), except that we're kinder and less greedy on average. Because our dating pool is really small, we generally don't look for sugar daddies, we look for just anyone who's affectionate and caring.

- We tend to have 'childish' hobbies, though, for obvious reasons, e.g. there are a lot of anime otaku among us because anime / manga / videogames are pretty much the best of the media content that is not overly sexualised nowadays.

- Cake is the unofficial symbol of asexuality (which is believed to be better than sex), but some aces aren't fond of it.

- We hate being told to change our beliefs on any matter. Either tolerate or get out.

- Due to the natural inclination to deep self-inquiry and taking every societal norm with a grain of salt, we're more likely to have a non-standard gender identity (incl. demigirls, demiguys and agender) than the general population, though most of us still identify as a belonging to a standard gender (male / female).

- Because of being misunderstood by the society, we're unfortunately prone to anxiety and depression, though a significant part of us are totally sane.

- Our median age is 23 (as of November 2014) because the concept is relatively new and spread mainly over the web, and thus it's hard for older aces to get familiar with it and discover their true nature.

Asexuality is not a disaster (with the right attitude), not a mental disorder either, it's just a rare personality trait. I'm glad that you've discovered it and given it a thought, possibly even found your true self

Also, sexual people with even worse genital conditions manage to find happiness. E.g., thanks to a repost in ACR's blog (out of all places ), I've learned about the touching story of a Britishman who lost his member at the age of 6 but is now set to lose virginity.

Well, the thread has pushed me to do a bit of research on manhood lengths; here's a comprehensive list of medical studies on this matter.

Ironically, one of the earliest studies was done by the team of Alfred Kinsey, the same sexologist who is renowned for introducing a sexuality scale that included asexuality (according to that study, 1.5% of participating males were labeled as asexual, and a recent British study showed an asexuality rate of ~1%, but the consensus is that this number is an overestimate, especially because there must be a lot of latent aces who haven't discovered the concept or applied it to themselves).

A recent study of 1661 US male at the same Kinsey institute has shown (see Table 3) that over 25% of participants had manhoods 4-12 cm long (due to rounding, that includes lengths up to 12.5 cm ~ 4.9 in, as 1 in = 2.54 cm).

Alas the study included very few people of 'Other' orientations (apparently because aces weren't very interested in taking part), but anyway, the length distribution among sexuals shows that lengths below 9.5 cm (3.7 in) are extremely unlikely biologically, and that the expected length / girth don't depend much on the relationship status and the sexual orientation (see Table 1), therefore I don't believe there's much correlation between manhood size and sexuality.

You can find happiness with even worse genital conditions than a 5.0"er, so there's that lol

5.0" feel pretty nice in a non prostitute vagina.

thanks for this positive insight but you have no idea what its like, every girl wishes i was packing what you are, zero women on the planet want a tiny dick,

ignoring their happiness (assuming they dont cheat on me if were talking relationships)

I experience significantly less vaginal friction, its 10% of the experience you experience, it ****ing sucks, i dont see a way i can possibly be happy being a sexual being

Have sex with midget?

I'm sure you can make some man very happy Swimmin.

Last week you said you were 5.75". Now, you're suddenly exactly 5. Stop looking for pity here.

I agree with whoever above said that it isn't the size that's turning woman off. I believe in the Thailand thread you said it makes you insecure and that the woman sense that.

Find something that makes you happy and focus on that. Maybe then you'll find someone who loves you for you.

i think swimmin is a cuckhold

its a legit 5.75 if i lie down and contort my body just the right way w the strongest erection of my solo masturbation life, i cant get that measurment every day

its about 5.0 if im standing up and measuring like every other guy on the planet




the hot prostitutes had tighter pussies than my tinder lays

No, it just means you're a quitter

You measure it way too much.

I mentioned this earlier as well. There's a pretty decent chance, not even making fun of him or anything.

Since this thread is mostly about sex issues, I wonder if I'm the only one who needs at least a good 30mn of hardcore fast barebacking in order to finish in a vagina? No issues with HJs (self-performed or not) or BJs (self-performed or not), can do it quick.

not to that extent but I have that same correlation yeah.

What's your deff of cuckhold, all I can think of is the bdsm toy.

You're a heck of an acrobate if you're capable of this

Speaking of intercourse, it's well-known that those who had spent a lot of time pleasing themselves have problems adjusting to pussies (that are very different from hands), it takes some practice to get used to doing it with women.

There was a micropeen contest on Howard Stern and all of the competitors were married.

Gotta double down on the oral sex I guess.

could someone explain to me how 5.75 is 'tiny' and to be rejected and called the smallest or second smallest D a mega slut(9/10 of my last lays said this) has ever seen yet, just 1.25 inches bigger is 'huuuge' and 'big size'?

i think 7 is actually regular size cock in white guys. Seems like thats about the average of people who wouldnt bs say about their cock size. What this tells me is thats the average for a regular size white guy.

When you read online stats they say 5.5 or whatever is average but thats all BS to make the average guys feel like are 7inches is big. Turn on porn guys with big ***** are 9inch+. Look at the reactions your 5.5 inches gets from girls.

Internet is full of BS. Theirs forums of people who think the world is flat FE. The 5.5 inch cock being average is just another crazy internet conspiracy.

It's like you don't understand how statistics work

Your dick size seems to range from 2 inches to just short of 6 inches. I think most doubt the 5.75 inch number you throw out there.

Also if what you are saying about the girls is true then there's almost no way you are 5.75.

There's only def of cuckhold. A cuckhold is a man who's wife/partner is being ****ed by someone else. (traditionally it means without their knowledge, but there is also a "cuckhold fetish" where men get off on watching other dudes **** their wife.)

The word derives from "cuckoo", who lay their eggs in other birds nests, and make the other bird look after them until they hatch.