i actually feel like my worst time is the first 10 minutes of any session.... and not only that if i start out being to active then it carries on through the whole session

this was even more important when i was playing live PLO...... if i sit down and am limping a 10763 in the first round well its gonna be a long day and i hope im hitting some flops...... but if i can nit it up for the first 30 minutes then open it up a bit things go much much better

If the first 10-30 minutes of every session is worse than the rest, find some sort of warm up routine. At least start with only playing your lowest stakes and later add higher stakes.

OP, I'm utterly disappointed about your lack of expertise on writing Facebook / dating profiles in the case of looking for serious lifetime friendship (like at Christian sites, though it's not my case)

What would you write about the occupation (of a pro online poker player)? Just 'self-employed'?

Well, they're gonna find out when he means by self-employed eventually (as in the first time they meet). Best just to cut those people out so you don't waste time justifying your career choice.

I know, but I think it's important to make the best sides of my personality more visible but turn its worst sides (such as having to play poker for a living in lack of a better option) into surprises for which people need to be gradually prepared.

And I really want to stress that my exact occupation doesn't matter that much for relationship purposes because I'm not going to agree to merge the personal budgets anyway except for pooling a few hundred bucks for very basic spending such as utility bills and a humble food allowance (which I'll pay for entirely only if the partner is officially bankrupt, which shouldn't happen too often for too long because she'll then be forced onto the labour exchange). The only thing they need to know is that it's a legal freelancer job that however requires total immersion and thus leads to my unavailability despite being physically at home.

I'd say under 5% of girls ask any further questions if you just say you 'work online'

Under 1% ask for specific examples if you throw in 'internet marketing/freelance writing' or whatever.

What kind of relationship do you have in mind C00n?

Basically, any kind of friendship that is even more comfortable than my current cozy solitude, which is in fact a strict requirement, but I'm afraid I miss 100% of the shots that I don't take. In particular, it has to be not very -EV financially, and it can involve only as much sex as the partner agrees to pay for, in cash or kind, according to the local male hooker tariff.

In general, I like to think in terms of what it should not be, not in terms of what it should be.

i have a warm up, its called spew $50 and then come here and vent about it..... then im good to go

online home based

well here is an example of a huge difference between phils and thailand then, because if you say work online here its almost a certainty that you will get more questions........ questions which i hate answering whether its poker (cuz i dont really like to say that) or other online work because then you get more follow up questions

i generally just say online home based, then if they ask more i say i work for a friend who emails me work to do for him


im sure the difference is because of the english spoken here, and since some people have made money on places like odesk many are now interested

I guess, the big problem in Phils is that there are so many telecommuters that, when you say you work online at home, the thing that comes to locals' minds is that you might be doing one of typically Filipino jobs.

Yep, pretty much 100% of women in Philippines follow up asking more questions if you answer "I work online" in my experience.

I think the reason is women here almost always have marriage/money on their mind here.

The few girls who didn't follow up with a question were short term flings who were obviously just in it for a short term fling.

Also, a big issue with developing countries is that, in my limited experience, almost anyone who's smart enough is dreaming of emigration to a better country.

That's because salaries for offline jobs are bigger in the developed world, and it more than compensates for the higher life expenses.

I'm afraid this discrepancy between what online and offline workers consider to be 'ideal countries' is so deep and it's so hard to find a mutually satisfying compromise that I can safely limit the target audience to online workers or, simpler, declare myself being 'in romantic celibacy for economical reasons' no matter what my actual (rather unknown to myself) romantic orientation is.

Ah fair enough makes sense. Seems Filipinas are a lot smarter, or at least more worldly

Saw one found your blog the other day and commented basically calling you a scumbag

c00n am I understanding that you want some kind of friends with benefits relationship where your partner pays YOU for any sex you two have together?

Are you some absurdly good looking guy with a great body, great skin and a big di ck?

I'm guessing probably not.

Or are you going to go the older lady route, get yourself a sugar momma?

You see, I don't do things that I hate doing unless I'm paid for that. If she doesn't 'pay', I won't do the 'job', and we'll both be contented... and separated.

Again, I'm not desperate; instead, I treat desperate ones as an extra opportunity.

They don't necessarily have to be older. As I said above, the male-to-female ratio in the asexual community is 1-to-5 or so; it's worse in its Hispanic part (3-to-7), but I still feel that I can push the edge. However, those asexual women are not very desperate on average (they keep dreaming about someone better than Shrek even if they're utter Fionas), so I thought that adding some heterosexual childfree women (about the same number of women, actually ) to my target audience would be a bit +EV.

Ok, then why are you calling it a relationship.

Just call it a friendship.

Of course I am aware that all friendships are a variety of relationship, but when people talk about relationships they have with opposite gender it usually implies a sexual or romantic relationship.

If you don't want it to include any sex at all, isn't it just a friendship.

Or do you want it to include say cuddling and hand holding and intimacy of that level but no sex?

If you want something like that I'm guessing there is only one type of person you can find that with, and that is a girl who had the same distaste for sex that you do but still longs for an intimacy deeper than a standard friendship.

Most likely that means a girl that had a traumatic sexual experience as a child and now can't stand sex.

Yes, surely. I'm not sure if I desire that, but I definitely don't mind that and that's what they usually want (and call 'more than a friendship').

NB: never ever tell them that it's necessarily a result of a traumatic experience. The origin for asexuality is unknown, but they'll never acknowledge that they weren't born with it already. And it's not a disorder, it's just a rare peculiarity that shouldn't be an obstacle in life, the same way as autism.

I don't think asexuality is the same for everyone that is one though. Maybe it's kind of nurture vs. nature here. People that have had such a horribly awful sexually traumatic experience as a child that it makes the entire act repulsive to them for the rest of their lives, that might be a kind of asexuality brought around by nurture, not nature.

Conversely, I have a step brother I think is essentially asexual and aromantic. But I can say for sure he didn't have any such traumatic sexual experience in his past. He is though, as roll with the tide, 'eh whatever' kind of guy as you'll ever meet. He is just naturally very ambivalent and apathetic about things. I think that leads him to not bothering to chase after anyone for sex or love, probably just decides to take the simplest route to sexual gratification (masturbation,) and be done with it at that. He would be more a a case of some one who is asexual by nature, nothing to do with nurture.


I must say too, it's amusing that you were the one to take this thread from Dante as you are polar opposites when it comes to sex.

Dante clearly has a very high sex drive and is thinking about it almost all the time, whereas you don't want to have sex at all and even hate it.

I wasn't sure if Dante had a drive for specifically partnered sex or for any kind of stimulation leading to orgasm. I had been mistaking the raw libido for sex drive for so long, and was wondering why I didn't want to have any sort of contact with girls whom I was regarding as faptastic. So I thought Dante might have been levelling himself into interaction because that's what the society tells to do.

Well I can't speak for Dante, but I can speak for myself.

I definitely find sex with a partner to feel much better than masturbation does. Although I definitely do enjoy masturbation too.

I think most men are in the same boat as me on that.

saying online poker > online work. Way less questions. Most people just think youre an online dealer and dont say anything. Only people i say online work/travelling is to taxi-scum. Dont see point of lying. In my whole time in phils, the only annoying/stupid follow up question i got from saying i play online poker was from a foreign guy who said "so how do you play AQ then? all in or not?" and asked a few times.

Nvm, I had a fit of anxiety triggered by the Russo-Turkish incident and a Telegraph article about the influence of isolation on immunity; I'm more or less back to the normal aromantic state now

Being a misunderstood poker player is a quite unique experience. It's an individual sport, not only at the tables, but away from them too

I tell females I work in a bank. They ask what job I say sales, for some reason this is totally acceptable and never had follow up questions after that. They see me multi table stars and continue watching their soaps (or the game show with the fat girls two stepping which I think is so very LOL).

I tell taxi drivers in PH I drive a taxi at home. This confuses the **** out of them and the ride is either very quiet or totally about taxi.

legit lol'd. might have to try this