I like her (appearance) too much, I want her for myself. I'm just the type of person to prefer relationships, even if they're temporary and lead nowhere. It's just a way better experience to me personally.

Girlfriendsex > ONS > hookers

imo

Valid point... Except youre forgetting about the other 95% of the day you're not having sex.

To each their own though I guess. Just don't expect that girl to suddenly stop lying.

if there is one immutable law in this universe, it is that crazy girls always give the best sex

she clearly doesnt give a **** about you at all, you are like a girl writing essays and she responds in 1 liners.
And why would she not have other guys on the side, not like you give her any upside to stay only with you

This, including regarding her cheater vibes. If she's a cheater the only way she won't cheat on you is if your value is massively above hers in the dating pool. Tbh though you're clearly not planning to wife her up so her not cheating on you is just an ego thing. Nothing wrong with that but if you start seeing it that way it might soften up your stance. And a side bonus is that by not giving a **** more your value actually goes up cuz you're not being a needy kunt.


man lots of hating itt, props to still putting your life out there and handling it like a boss.

Inb4 Joseph was her pet dog

1) She didn't know I found her facebook and learned about her ex and real age so she didn't know what lies (if any) to admit to.

2) I was confronting and calling her a liar which is one of the biggest loss of face that has Asians running and avoiding the confrontation.

But what am I doing with my time replying to a troll that claims 50 users have been clicking on this thread 10 times a day consistently for the past 500 days straight. You blew your cover with that math, mr troll. No baller winning poker player comes up with statistics like that.

Pet dog as her needy foreign bf or you literally meant a pet dog?

im going with theres a dude called joseph in the mix and the girl told him its a pet dog

It's actually not that big of a loss of face for them. There's a reason there's so many public or social media shaming. Loss of face has to do with shaming, not with guilt. Loss of face/shaming comes from the outside and having people see the person doing something wrong.

Holy mother of Autism

No offense OP but loss of face is completely irrelevant in that situation. That's something you should take into account in certain situations especially in the more xenophobe places like Japan, Korea or China. That girl probably loses her face more than as with your confrontation on a daily basis

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# of people who has commented in your thread is 132.

His throwaway guess of a random number of "50" regulars probably isnt thaaaaaat far from the truth.

unless im being super stupid here. likely am. brain is fried rn

I still haven't grasped the concept of face, I thought you can lose face in front of one person. Anyway, fact is Filipinos avoid arguments and confrontation like the pest, whatever the reason

Not that numbers matter, but there are more lurkers than commenters in any thread and the amount of people only seeing some posts is greater than the amount of people seeing all posts.

If our high stakes crusher took more than 3 seconds to come up with his numbers there's no way he believes what he says. Have you been refreshing this thread 10 times a day consistently for the past one and a half years? It can't even be half of that, ridiculous even if he was exaggerating.

This is dace:

Move your blog to wordpress and we will see some real numbers - doubt you'll like them.

It's less about the numbers and more about dace being a troll

how the hell do you take number 50 as literal is beyond me.
I understand that what I have written lately sounds as hate to you but I genuinely believe what I wrote based on my experiences, its not my intention to hurt your feelings but to give my reads on the situation whether you will like it or not. Im not rooting against you, did I write 1 negative word about your ex girlfriend?

I was thinking the exact same thing haha.

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That post probably didn't clear up much lol. I was pretty tired when I wrote it.

Losing face is almost always a type of shame that is familial or public. The point is that other people see that her behavior was inappropriate (or not up to standard) and then she is ashamed of that.

What you were attempting to do here was appeal to her conscience for acting like a ****ty person. In my experience usually girls in Philippines just get defensive (like in this case) and then later, once they've calmed down, maybe they realize they need to act differently because you aren't buying their bull****.


Here's an example:
If there's money on a table and you can steal it without any legal consequences but decide not to because you know it's wrong then it's your conscience. If you decide not to steal it because you are afraid someone will see you and you'll then be labeled a thief, then you are afraid of shame or losing face.




As an aside, a lot of girls in Asia like foreign guys because the threat of losing face is much smaller. If they want to put on a pig nose and have their head stuffed in chocolate pudding while getting ****ed from behind, chances are that the foreign guy won't tell anyone that could tell her family about this, and also he is less likely to tell her circle of friends. If she has a bad breakup with an Asian guy, he could very easily do both of these things resulting in shame and loss of face.

Of course for some girls just being seen in public with a white guy could be a loss of face so it depends, but these are both extreme examples. I'm sure you know what I mean.

Except you're not. If you want to set boundaries, you should text her: "You've been telling me lies, crazy beach" and go radio silent for 24 hours or more

Women ENJOY the drama! The only punishment for them is to lose your attention

Interesting read, it's starting to make sense. Would you say losing face is all imaginary and just in their head? I doubt anyone judges them for not behaving as expected in one instance, yet they feel ashamed over that one instance.


I wasn't trying to appeal to her conscience to 'guilt' her into acting differently, I was trying to make her scared I'll leave if she doesn't change.

I don't think she'd understand that and might think I lost interest because of something else (her appearance, found another girl, etc). This 18 year old Filipina has the brain of a 14 year old in the West and I have to make it very clear for her to understand what's my problem and what I want her to change.

I didn't plan to send 2 lengthy messages, just 1, but her reply in Tagalog ("I'm sick, that's why I couldn't come yesterday") told me she didn't understand me at all so I explained what I know she lied about. In hindsight I wish I put all of that in just one message and go radio silent for a bit longer (I managed to wait 7 hours lol) but I'm too soft and attached for that ****.

Stuff people search on YouTube These are exact quotes of what people typed in the search bar to find my mall video.







I wonder what's the deal with "sexpat philippines writes on girls"

There's some demand for what you want to do, I see potential. Now stop being lazy and putting excuses and start broadcasting twice a week!

Imo if you put the goal of broadcasting everyday you'll never achieve it (at least at first) and you'll get demotivated and quit. Is like those guys that want to go from sedentary fat balls to work out every single day of the week: they'll go a couple days and then give up. Start with a realistic plan of two live broadcasts per day and go from there.