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Poker graph?

CANNN'TTTTT because of work, man but I'm still daydreaming of quitting and moving to Asia and make scraps teaching MMA. You and BGP should come to Brazil and stay at my place (bring your bubble butts)

Yikes... maybe a fleshlight or something similar would be a good investment for you.

op, are the only people you communicate with in philippines people you try to have sex with?

yeah I got that impression too. I tried to meetup with OP but he flaked on me.

I suggest that you make some friends, dude! For what we see in the thread here, you're not a boring guy to talk to.

When I've been to the Philippines, I've made a lot of friends. Because people love and worship foreigners so much, you can actually choose cool guys to go out with and do not need to hang out with losers. Try out Couchsurfing. It's main purpose is to be hosted, but they also give parties and do meetups. (there are also girls there, I banged one milf)

imo

Based on many of the "youtubers", "influencers" and "digital nomads" from first world countries that I met in SEA, and given op's reluctancy to answer this question, my guess is he gets money from his parents on regular basis. Not saying is a bad thing, wish I was that lucky too

Ill use my 5000th post to say that Id like to own one of these.

Can't believe people are making me out to be some evil person or sociopath that doesn't feel love based on those quotes. If sex wasn't a factor, do you really think guys in their 20s would pursue or court women with the goal to have a platonic relationship? What a ridiculous thought. Guys pursue girls because they wanna get in between their sugar walls. I can fall in love too but the initial chase is 90% sex.

If half year into the relationship she can't have sex anymore I'm sure this won't work out. I enjoy a girlfriend's company beyond sex, but sex is the main motivation.

Sex is a powerful motivating force for men to do a lot of things, it even makes them travel to the other side of the globe.

I just think it's a bit strange to basically say that women have zero value beyond sex. That plus showing little motivation to earn money or improve your situation seems like the profile of someone who eventually just says "screw it, I'm getting a doll/pillow gf".

I think you've said yourself a few times that you would like a girl who understands your culture a bit, who is smart and educated, and who you can have deep convos with. There are plenty of girls out there who could hold your attention beyond just being an object for sex, that you will actually want to be with and do things with. The problem is that these are higher value girls and as such are attracted to higher value guys. You seemed interested before, but no longer seem to care. Admittedly, most guys are trying to earn money to impress girls. I think by saying "all girls suck", it's just a way of rationalizing doing nothing to improve yourself because then in your mind there's little reason to improve, so it doesn't matter.

Also, it seems weird your obsession with getting a gf "just for sex" when you don't even actually want a real gf and it's just gonna end anyway. If you just wanted to sex as many girls as possible, or focus on quality over quantity and sex a couple and hang on to them as FWBs, well that would be perfectly normal. I think it's just your approach that seems odd along with your propensity to constantly plan and then do nothing that's throwing people off.

I'm not sure your present situation is all that healthy for you. You're just ingraining really bad habits and destroying your work ethic and it's gonna be hard as **** for you to turn things around you need to make a real change. Maybe it's time to **** or get off the pot, so to speak. Set a monetary goal by 6 or 12 months from now that would all you to move to a location better suited for you, where the girls challenge you, you enjoy going out and being social, etc. And if you don't reach it, then you have to go home.

I dunno, you're still young and figuring things, so I'm probably off base here, but you're on an awesome adventure and instead of exploring, discovering new hobbies/passions, meeting interesting people (guys and girls), you're just content to do nothing all day and occasionally pick off some low hanging fruit from Tinder or wherever to get your creampie fix.

Where did I say that? I said I wouldn't pursue relationships if sex wasn't a factor because sex is their biggest value to me. That doesn't mean there's no other value.

I would very much like that, but I'm not saying no to more superficial relationships either if the sex is amazing.

I think your post as a whole is solid advice, but the first thing I quoted is you guys' biggest misconception of my words. I said "If girls didn't have vaginas I wouldn't pursue them", you pretend I said "All they're good for are their vaginas". I enjoyed the time I spent with my ex outside of the bedroom.

You should pursue money dude, and then vaginas will pursue you.

Yah, I interpreted your statement incorrectly then.

Good luck on the rest, always interesting to read your updates, and I appreciate you doing this.

Is it true OP? How old are you? How long it takes for mom and dad to realise that you're à pathetic loser and cut you off their lives to make you man up?

By the way you can have FWB live with you and have sex only with you - it's just agreement between two of you. Don't be such a liar! Instead of shaming pinays about lying, try not to be pathological liar yourself.

I personally think perusing relationships for sex is just straight up wrong. (Assuming the way that you do it). You were a proper **** to your ex where by the looks of it, she had no idea if she was coming or going just depending how horny you was. It wastes their time a ****ton and nothing good comes out of it for them. 99% of these women arnt going into the relationship for sex and arnt expecting it to live or die depending on if you had sex for a week. It almost came across you was having fun messing your ex about because it ended up with better sex. Just weird / selfish behaviour if you ask me. It isn’t good.

The latest girl is having sex with you already and she isn’t being mind ****ed and you arnt giving her false hope. Just keep it that

Nah this is kinda silly. We all kinda forget how we were and what we felt when we were younger. For most of the guys their sex libido spikes in early 20 and thats the age of OP here so his behaviour is just normal for a healthy young male. There is nothing wrong with this at all. Imo many of us simply grew into deeper relationships and commitment with girls.

OP as long as you treat them with some respect it is fine. And tbh I think having a GF and just enjoying the time with her would help you a lot. I mean having consistent good sex would help you focus on other stuff cause you would have it taken care of. Being at your age and not like being in a deeply commited relationship is fine. And being **** buddies is also just fine. Don't listen to some BS that you are some terrible human being for the stuff you do or say.

OP is 22-23? This is just the time to have time of his life and as long as he doesn't BS them with some marriage promises or other silly **** it is just fine what he is doing. And thats the age that you kinda think about girls mostly in terms of wanting to **** them.

maybe. but its pretty clear he doesnt want a relationship the same way majority of people want one. Just seems best for everyone involved to have a bunch of FWB and not waste peoples time

NO, you clearly don’t get it.

Meh, the sex aspect of it isn't that concerning. I think maybe he isn't wording his intentions quite correctly and also people are misinterpreting things. Noone would bat an eye if he: A) Was just wanting to bang as many girls as possible B) Wanted to keep a stable of a few FWBs or C) Wanted the stability of a gf and LTR. It's just wanting an exclusive thing with a girl he doesn't even care about just for the sex (and possibly leading her on when he knows he doesn't even respect her as a person), that seems a bit strange. But whatever, like you said he's young, still experimenting, and he'll figure out what he wants later.

The concerning part is just floating along aimlessly and doing nothing. Most people who do these sort of things at least are working towards some other goal/passion along the way. Some people grind a ****load and save cash while enjoying the fruits of SEA, some people want to travel and see a lot of SEA, some people want to bang girls and party for a year, kinda like a "gap year" before getting back to reality. OP's been here like a year and a half with almost nothing to show for it. Has barely left his apartment, is probably in a worse financial position than before, doesn't have a hobby, hasn't made a friend. He's banged a few girls and that's basically it.

Having good sex with a girl you don't care about is fine, but it's like the only thing going for OP at the moment. I don't even get the impression he enjoys his current location all that much. He's just scraping by on poker or money from parents stuck in limbo and probably needs some catalyst to propel him to something better for him. He talked about moving somewhere else in Asia, which I think would be a good idea, but then lost interest in that too. 1.5 years getting used to Philippines and the culture seems fine, but I think another 1.5 years of spinning his wheels in the mud would be very bad and leave him in a spot where it's even more difficult to motivate himself to make changes.

He's still very young and has time to figure things out, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't have some direction or be working towards something. I can't think of too many people who did essentially 0 for 3 years of their life in their 20s who turned it around, other than I guess trust fund babies. Maybe he gets a lot of money from his parents, but is too embarrassed to say. If so, more power to him. I think the whole thing would make a lot more sense if that were the case.

It would not surprise me if Pooter had a collection of these dolls.

I don't see why you go through all this effort just to bang a "a little hotter or better in bed" girl. I personally prefer to bang the ones that require low maintenance and accept hanging out with me even when it's just sex