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Originally Posted by Black Aces 518
Great post, thanks. I have tried to do that forever, but have never been able. When I became single again, I decided on trips to Vegas I was just going to approach random women, because who cares. I live 1500 miles away, no one knew me. Couldn't do it.
And to me there is a difference in saying "ugh that makes me uncomfortable" vs "I want to avoid adding any more layers of inferiority/inadequacy because I am already suicidal due to the existing layers".
I mean what can I say, Ive been there. I cant approach random women still lol. Thats a rather large first step anyways.
The latter paragraph is pretty much textbook anxiety logic. Youre telling yourself this logic statement to prove your anxiety, and thereby confirming your negative thought pattern. Blah blah psych mumbo jumbo but you should:
A) see a therapist, anxiety is no joke and very hard (impossible) to contain just by reading some text. This isnt like an insult or something, its a really really good thing in your life to have someone help you work towards changing negative thought processes.
B) stop telling yourself your anxiety is correct as a first step. General process is to try and step back and notice when youre having an anxious thought, something like "ok I notice someone is on the tee behind me and Im thinking about them watching my shot". Then you ask yourself why this bothers you and dive into this tree of questions and honest answers.
Its a lot of work but its way better than just throwing up your hands and saying "Well I cant do this because it makes me feel inadequate." Youre going to miss out on a lot in life with that. I dont really know what else to say as RandomInternetDude1023924 but maybe Krunic will show up and tell you positive steps are worth it.