Yeah these.

She's def hot and it's great that it wasn't awkward. Condoms are the actual WOAT. I've had many peens shink immediately upon condoming up. Coulda just been a bad fit. I know that was the deal with me for a bit until I tried a new brand. But...since you weren't hard before it probably had a lot to do with anxiety and then the condom just made things 10x worse instantly. Hopefully she's really cool (she sounds it) and you guys can try some more w/o pressure. That would be ideal. Get dem practice reps in. gl!

I figured I'd have more of a hangover this morning but I woke up feeling pretty mint. Def had to shift my mental focus away from the women stuff though, so I registered for USAW and my first weightlifting competition. I don't think we have anyone from Orlando around here, but if people are in the area on October 12th, come down and watch me lift some weights.

http://crossfithighperformance.com/c...l-championship

Must be GOAT to be Soulbro in Broway. Everyone already has AIDS. Condoms irrelevant. Rawdog just cause.

Fredd time to get those gains back that u lost, nom sayin?

Mornin' brahs!

I thought this. And it's not like people would stop assigning a quality to the measurements. Switch out numbers so that Size 4=Radiant, Size 14=Beautiful, people would talk about that instead. Look at that bitch, thinking she's hot because she's radiant. Well beautiful people are hot too!!!

I didn't lose any gains. Bulgarian Method is a helluva training stimulus.

I would drive up for this, but I'm a little too lazy to do a ~5 hr drive.

You are doing it wrong bro. This sounds worse than whisky dick

Genital problems. Well, uh. Let's just say something was off at the time. Smelly cat. Not important for the TR.

I can find myself in the bolded part. I did not like or dislike this girl. She didn't annoy me, so that's a start. I would never want anything more out of her though. The attraction is purely physical. Not emotional. But I didn't get aroused when she was naked and on top of me. Strange. I didn't feel anything.

I really don't know how I can describe this, or what the source of the problem is. I just know it's psychological. I sat here thinking, writing, re-writing and re-thinking stuff to share with you guys. But I cannot come up with anything conclusive. Thinking about my past, the only thing I can think of is that I need a sex experience to be spontaneous. I am physically attracted to a lot of girls, but I have never had great sex before with someone I already knew, if it was arranged beforehand.

I guess I will never be a great gigolo.

Wait, I think I just had an eye-opener. Whenever I have to perform and I feel like I am going to have to meet certain expectations, I cannot seem to get it up.

I seem to be about turned on by Syndy's story as he was irl. I could try and dissect it but I really don't have any idea. I think it's weird what happened, but I'm not really judging. Like 'that's weird' not 'you're weird'

Random thoughts from JonFon:

Racquetball is fun, but extremely skill intensive. I actually think that the amount exercise you get from it can go down as you get better.

Basketball can be similar but doesn't have to be. Some people can put hardly any effort into offense because they are so skilled. But you still gotta bust your butt on D.

My GF got me a new guitar, I think I would like to write a song. 'You you even lift?' Might be good, but kind of an old meme. Any other suggestions? Maybe a funny song about my weiner dog?

Currently on this 300g protein/day kick. I like it. I gotta say that I have to burn +500 calories on a regular basis to make it work tho. It's easy to get 300g protein. But If I want it to taste omnomomonom, having a 3k calorie budget goes along way.

I got back into writing my novel today. Pretty sweet. I was on page 105 when I left off, a year or so ago. I read the last 5 pages and wrote 7 more tonight. The cool thing is this: you know how it's really fun to read and go into another world? Well writing is like doing that but creating your own world. Pretty awesome. Maybe if I have enough WIM I can squeeze in time to finish writing it by the end of the year. Between Work, NFL, NBA, 2 Minute Reviews, playing basketball, and even lifting. Time management is key.

WAT. Why are you thinking about performance etc? Isn't your mind full of all sorts of exciting thoughts?? Just find girls who make you horny and really if you feel getting soft at any point just do some stop-gap stuff that pleases her and gives you time to realize "hey we are both turned on souls who want to ravage each other any which way and I am ****ing worried about performance?"

Sounds like you are reading too much Cosmopolitan

JonFon,

Whatchoo writing about?

If nothing else, commit to writing at least 300 words a day. That's NOTHING, and you at least have a finished draft at the end of the year instead of telling everyone about this great novel you wish you had time to write.

Agree about racquetball. The better you get, the worse the workout. Fortunately, I never got very good, so I never had to worry about it not being a good workout. The guy I used to play against had me chasing the ball everywhere. Id be sweating like a pig and he would look like he barely even moved.

I am talking about arranged sex dates with friends here. This has different dynamics than spontaneous sex. Spontaneous sex is all about dem feels and "turned on souls". I can enjoy sex a lot. It just never happens when I feel like "I have to". It's like I'm not "in the moment" and I don't want it badly enough.

On the other hand, I've had arranged sex dates with complete strangers before, and they were GOAT.

Good strategy. I was thinking about devoting an hour a day but somedays will be hard and yes 300 is super easy.

It's about 30k words long now.

What I'm writing about? Meh I don't have high hopes for anyone liking it, it's more of something I just wanna do. Publish a novel, sell it online for 99 cents. I guess it would be fantasy but its super mild. I would just call it fiction.

I like it so far but it's super rough. It'll be easier to clean up when it's finished and I have a clear understanding of what I want it to be

Very much this. But people know that I think. I was surprised to find out somewhat recently how ridiculously huge of a difference THIS makes though. Total game changer.

(ETA trojan ecstasy)

Syndr0m,

That sucks bro; perhaps just have her peg you if things aren't going so well on your end?

saw,

LDO. Gotta get that chick on the pill

Saw you use a lot of font modifiers

I wouldn't do that either, except I'm forced to drive at least 5 hours to even compete.

shots fired

Yes that's exactly why I wrote "you are doing it wrong"

You just went in there, and what seems a bit unnaturally, just got on with it. Have a beer or two...just imagine how that beer would have tasted with her sitting next to you with her bare thighs. Smoke a spliff, play some mario kart with her sitting in your lap. That way, you'd have broken some ice the right way and then some, and not through small talk either. If that doesn't make you wanna **** her brains out then probably nothing will and she's not the right booty call for you.

Syndrom - I used to have the same problem. If I felt comfortable and was properly wined and dined then no issues, but if it was a random one night thing or "meeting up for sex" I'd freeze up.

Annnnyway, what helped me the most in those cases was to take control of the foreplay and make sure there was more of it and more of it focused on what I wanted. Either a fantasy so I would stop thinking or do something fun to focus on that wasn't sex but involved playful escalating until I felt comfortable. The problem with the latter is that it kind of requires a deeper connection than you likely already (or will) have.

So I recommend the former. Set up some role play for the entire evening or something where you can just get in a different mindframe and roll with it the whole time. My guess is she'd be super into it as long as dem chesticles were involved at some point and you can distance yourself mentally from whatever is hanging you up.

Not sure I'd recommend spliffing (unless you know from experience that somehow helps) but the rest of Sensei's advice sounds fine to me. Easing into it can work really well even if men are conditioned to think "hey, we want sex 100% of the time, if sex is offered I should be able to sex right away erryday."