This log: the chicken and waffles was actually at Chilies

ED is right, it's about finding those 7-10 dishes that are go-to moves.

I too have been struggling to find motivation to drop weight again. I think you trying to have a more optimistic outlook for future options in men would help spur yours.

Ok, I need some more realistic goals and baby steps to get back on track.
How bout tomorrow I don't have fast food and then Sunday I don't have fast food and have a calorie deficient.

That's going to be hard to do. I love code3 and will for a long time. It's hard for me to let go and I'm not ready to let go yet. I just want things to go back to normal. He and I were doing so great, I don't want it to be over.

Whatever you do with this dumpster fire of a relationship stop dragging your daughter into it

Stop lying and do it

M,

Maybe the 8th time's the charm?

MLYLT,

No fast food tomorrow is an excellent goal, much more realistic than your usual ones. Do that and then post the log here on Sunday morning

It's Saturday so it doesn't even count, she ain't driving to work. Plus she has a secret stash of cinnamon rolls, biscuits, and pancakes.

Did you even *try* switching to cigars?

M,

Wait, were you doing so great, or was he almost never putting any effort in to come to you, never making you a priority, never standing up for you with his family, never supporting you and being understanding, hurting your daughter emotionally yet again, and putting all the burden of trying to see each other all on you?

Because that's what you've been posting about for the past couple of days re: how this relationship has been. It's hard to reconcile all that posting with you now saying the relationship was doing great.

MLYLT,

How about making a goal of "eating a healthy breakfast" tomorrow and seeing how things go from there?

M,

Talk about how you ended up eating all that stuff at Chili's. Which things did you order specifically for yourself? Were some of them shared apps with others? Were some of the things you tasting part of or eating leftovers from someone else's meal?

Were there two different trips to Jack in the Box and Chili's? If so, how did that come about?

There are tons of easy baby steps you can take. Here are three easy ones to start with:

1) No more jelly on your breakfast sandwiches.
2) No chips of any type.
3) No eating/trying a little bit of other people's food. Only eat the stuff you make or order specifically for yourself.

Just try not to think about Code for the weekend; put it away on a shelf till Monday and keep busy during the weekend. Plan your breakfasts so no fast food. Enjoy the baseball game and the company of your friends and family at the game. Try to be upbeat for K. Fake it till you make it.

M,


I believe you've said you'll be at baseball all day? Like 8a through late afternoon I think it was?

Instead of just going and making decisions there, make a plan today for what you're going to eat tomorrow.

Saturday breakfast: ???
Saturday lunch: ???
Saturday dinner: ???

MYLYT,

Congrats on not putting jelly on the breakfast biscuit.

Finally a good suggestion ITT.

He was putting the burden of seeing each other on me. I feel confident that he would have gotten a car when he had the means to do so though. No he didn't tell his family that we were still together and never planned on bringing me around them again, but that didn't bother me because I really never liked being around them in the first place.
There were positive changes with him though. When we would go play poker, he started being really considerate of me and what i wanted to do. In the past, I would express I was ready to leave and he would get all mad and say "you came here with ME! I came to make money" instead of viewing it as something we were doing together and he wouldn't be able to do it at all without me taking him. Like the other weekend, he let me play the women's tournament on a Sunday and waited around all day for me.
There wasn't much improvement in the affection area, but some. He generally keeps his hands at his side when I hug him or he will just pay me on the back, but when he was here last weekend, he actually reached out and put his hand on my leg and touched me.....I was so excited and thinking "yes, progress!"
The other weekend, he bought me some food and meals for when I came to the apartment too like he was happy I was coming and being considerate of me.
Just small changes, but they were actually changes. He was considerate of me, sacrificed a little of his time for me, and showed me some​ unsolicited affection for the first time.

Well he sounds hideous.

and it only took four years...

Yeah that is not a relationship in any way shape or form. There is no reason to ever put up with that kind of nonsense.

M,

That sounds like the interaction between an owner and a dog, not a relationship between two people.

Lolled at keeps his hands to his sides when you hug him.

See if there are any single dads at the game tomorrow and report back.

i too am interested in hearing your thought process around the dinner portion of your last food log. i mean this is obv your safe place and all. but it seems like responding to ED question around that dinner is more appropriate than the fat off oot clown show this is inching closer to

I had Jack in the box at about 4:30, then when to Chilli's at about 10:00 last night. Two separate dinners.