Your WIFE. You gave her commitment. And I bet you have sent her flowers before and you do things for her more than 3 days a year.
I don't get commitment or any ****ing thing. He said he would commit to me if I quit smoking. As soon as I quit he all of a sudden never said that. He also said,"you know what you have to do to be my #1" in regards to me not smoking. Well I'm no more his priority then when I was 300lbs and smoking. It's all just ****ing bull****!

It's all me having to constantly change something about myself and do all the work and put all the effort into the relationship while he just sits back and reaps the benifits with no intention of ever commiting to me or giving me anything I want.

And you stay in this "relationship" because...?

MLYLT,

This is brand new information for all of us, but it sounds like a dude you probably shouldn't be with if I'm being honest.

I'll let you have a moment to mull this revelation over.

Also, when was the last time you had a cigarette?

Holy ****, my boss just came to my office so we could go over the EV for an order. Yay!

MLYLT,

What a bitch she is!!

Well almost progress with my boss. She mentioned the day I was explaining EV that she prefers to make decisions from her gut instinct.
Today the risk was 0.0065% and she said how her gut was telling her not to take it.....Another questionable decision.

Just in a meeting a manager was proposing to send some parts to our lab for more specialized testing and she was against it because it might prove her gut decision wrong. On something else I was proposing designing a new test and fixture and one of the managers and I were brainstorming; her gut was against that too. She just doesn't like numbers, data points, and concrete evidence.

I can see how it would be annoying to deal with someone like that.

The EV of your relationship with Code is a bomb emoji and that doesn't stop you. I can relate to your boss.

If you end up getting her something today or doing something special today, I could see it possibly playing out better than getting her something for yesterday after she told you she doesn't want anything.

Today was horrible food wise. I had 2 sausage and biscuits and fajita nachos and chips and salsa. I was just feeling horrible and lost all sense of control.

RJ,

I already did that Phoebe joke three posts up, sorry!

At least you didn't smoke.

MLYLT,

Accidentally missed this question!

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Well, I guess you need Code to marry you and then he can do whatever? I'm not sure how a matrimonial commitment would change your perception of his behavior, or if that commitment would change his behavior, but I dunno. I don't think I've ever brought my wife flowers before, though. Flowers are lame, ya know?



I have a trip to NYC to catch a Broadway show planned. Not for any particular occasion, just will be a time we can ditch the kids and a show she would like to see. I had been planning to drop it on her last night as that would be as good a time as any, but I lol'd her and did as she wished.

Should I tell her tonight? I kind of want to push it out to maybe a week or even wait until Tue 3/14 and stuff the gift inside a box of stale clearance sale Valentine's Day candy for the lols. She has a really good sense of humor, but maybe I'm going aspy or something.

Flowers are awesome.
I meant that when you are dating a woman the man generally tries to win the woman and after you are married, the frequency of getting flowers and stuff decreases because she is sure of your love and affections. He has litterally never tried hard for me because he doesn't want me long term or in any type of committed relationship. I just think I should get something for sticking with a stupid relationship that will never go anywhere. I don't even know how to explain it right. If I am never going to get commitment from him then I need him to offer other benifits so that I can justify staying in a relationship with him.


You should tell your wife now so she has more time to be excited for the trip
Putting it in 1/2off Valentine's Cady sounds fun. I'm so jealous.

Would you mind explaining to code3 that's it okay to do something for me other than my birthday (or the day after my birthday after he takes his sister to basket ball games on my birthday). He litterally doesn't get that he is supposed to be nice to me all the time and do things for me other than when he feels like it's an absolute obligation.
When I asked why he didn't think to do anything for me on VD his reply was, "that's a made up holiday and you complain too much" uggggh. I just want some goddamn flowers once a freaking year.

It's extremely weird that you talk about this relationship as if you're trapped in it or something.

He's just not that into you.

You stalk him. He needs no bait. Occasionally repellent, but never bait.

You're not stupid, you're in denial.

My wife gets flowers every week. At least she does when she's in the country.