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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
There was no break up before. We were carrying on as if we were boyfriend/girlfriend. I was certainly still emotionally connected.
Now, I'm completely emotionally disconnected. No more expectations, no more feeling hurt. I'm emotionally dead towards him. We can have fun and do things if I feel like it. There are some poker tournaments at the end of July, we will probably go play those together and I might need some sex between now and then one weekend. I've never had a problem finding a **** buddy, so I'll just get some replacement sex so I'm not running to code3 for it every weekend. It's different this time and I'm working on myself. The scenario Larry laid out sounds too good. Work on myself for a year and be happy, stop with the bull**** cycle where I never improve.
Obviously there was no
actual break up before, that's why you're still stuck in exactly the same place you were a year ago. But you absolutely were claiming that you weren't going to be emotionally attached to him anymore and focus on yourself, the same as you are now.
Remember this?
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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
This is the way I see it now.
We both really like the sex, playing poker together, watching shows, hanging out. Ok, we can keep doing those things.
He doesn't really have conversations with me, but likes talking to his sister. Ok, he can talk to his sister and I can find a guy that likes talking to me.
He doesn't want to be affectionate with me. Ok, I'll find a really affectionate guy.
He doesn't want to acknowledge or care about my feelings. Fine, I'll find a guy that does.
He doesn't want marriage, I find a guy that does.
He doesn't like going to basketball games with me, but does with his sister. Good, he can go with her and I'll find a guy that wants to go with me.
He doesn't want me, I'll find a guy that does.
He wants sex, I'll give him sex because I want it too, but I'm going to get everything else I what I want.
You could swap that with your post from today and no one then or now would notice the difference, except that today you're saying no sex, which lol, of course you'll be back to justifying having sex with him by this weekend for the same reasons you gave last year.
Last edited by Ungoliant; 06-20-2018 at 10:28 AM.