Jesus Christ, you're already a mentally-unstable, single mom, who has in the past year complained that you didn't have the money for needed mental health treatment, working a job where you've been told you're not a good fit and were nearly fired, with a "partner" who doesn't want kids, who should be spending every bit of your energy just getting your own life together on multiple fronts, but your plan is to go to a sperm bank and get pregnant again? And apparently your biggest concern about all this is whether you're going to get hobo sperm? Wtf is wrong with you?

Yes, I know all of this. I know working on getting my life in order and being there for my daughter is the most important things, buy you have never been a woman. For a woman, the natural desire to have babies is so so strong. Just smelling a baby, hearing a baby on a plane cry or seeing a onesie in a store makes me just want to have a baby in my arms so bad. And knowing that the window to have a baby is so short just intensifies this. Maybe it's the equivalent of a man's midlife crisis.

I also don't want my daughter to be alone when she's older; I want her to know what it's like to have siblings.

Why don't you adopt a stray Labrador for your kid and name him Yellow, instead of having another kid?

That's bull**** and an insult to most women who are more than just irrational sacks of hormones. You could've written a similar paragraph about your insatiable love for cheese and grape jelly, but if you've learned nothing else over the last couple years, you should've learned that you CAN resist those unhealthy, self-destructive urges and actually do things that improve your life instead.

oh...

Nope.

If he won't get snipped, that's why. Otherwise it's like 10 minutes out of his day.

This, seriously.

The window isn't that short, really.

Presumably she'll have her own family, no? Not everyone hangs out with their siblings(or even lives near them) when they are older.

Sounds like you are completely discounting her experience as a woman because it doesn't fit your narrative of how a woman should behave. This post is about as horrible example of misogynistic mansplaining as I have seen on this site.

Lolwat?

Jdock already venturing outside the LC thread, it's the forum next, then the 'ban on sight' catches up once again...

It was a pretty horrible, abusive post. Sometimes you just have to say what you think is right, and let the chips fall where they may.

jdock,

I saw one deeply sexist post, but I think you quoted the wrong one. MLY is approaching lapka levels of bigotry, but for some reason you quoted a response to her absurd sexist generalization.

G4S,

There is obvious ball pain, and a non-zero chance of getting castrated from debilitating pain. And then the .2% that your body ****s you. Seems a lot easier to rely on abortion as a backup plan and just bail on a woman you don't really care about if that fails. While this may seem cruel and absurd to some people, gotta view things from someone else's perspective instead of "What a sane person would do".

Lolmen

I'm guessing you haven't been around, haven't communicated with, or just in general don't have experience with women.

Mikhel,

How exactly does anything I've said make me a bigot?

She is obviously over-generalizing. But there are plenty of women in her position (actually worse, because they are in their late 30s or early 40s and their sexual marketplace value is that much lower) who feel the same way. I don't think dehumanizing and dismissing these women as "irrational bags of hormones" is something that should be condoned.

I am going to put on my psychologists cap and postulate a reason so many posters in this thread are so aggressive and frankly mean towards MLYLT when she talks about her life experiences is because she represents many issues about the modern lifestyle that makes people uncomfortable, and our natural instinct when being exposed to something that makes us uncomfortable is to push back, dehumanize and be dismissive.

who the **** is this gimmick?

Lol, yeah I'm the one without experience around women, says the one who literally has issues with every woman she's ever interacted with in life. Good luck with your impregnation, I'm sure it'll finally bring you true happiness.

I thought it was clear QB was trolling, but I guess he was actually serious.

Regardless, obviously no one is going to quibble that many women develop a drive to reproduce around MLY's age, it's more the fact that she was arguing that she was powerless to resist said urge and she might as well bring another kid into the world while her mental illness is still manifesting. Acknowledging a biological impulse doesn't mean you have to just shrug your shoulders and give in to it.

I once told her that my wife and I trust each other completely and that I was getting ready to leave for Vegas for 6 weeks without her and that she was fine with it, and she told me to come home early to see who was in my bed, lol. She's a big girl; she can take it.

I am sure Louis CK, Matt Lauer and Al Franken used the same rationale. We are all just adults having a little fun and we can all take it. What can the harm be?

Most of us do give into our impulses, whether we acknowledge it or not. It doesn't mean we have a mental disease. It just means we are human.

Hmmm, comparing sexual assault to some bag of hormones comment?

Yeah, what?

I didn't say I was giving into the impulse. What I'm saying is that now I feel a lot of pressure to make a decision to have another child over the next year and I'm exploring options to do so. If you haven't noticed, I'm a planner. My plan is to use the next year to continue getting healthy and going over the advantages/disadvantages of having another child the following year before I get my tubes tied. I've always planned to get my tubes tied around age 35 and I know I definitely don't want to have children past my mid 30's, and haven't really had baby fever until now which is due to the deadline approaching.

What I was meaning by it's too late to find another man is that it doesn't fit my timeline to meet someone to have a child with. There isn't enough time to build a relationship and be sure that I would want to have a child with them. I wasn't saying that it's too late to meet someone else in general.

At the moment though, I'm not really interested in meeting anyone else or getting married. The only reason I would want to is to find someone to have a family with. I think after my tubes are tied I won't have any desire at all for marrage. Right now I'm pretty happy with the way things are. I like having my work week with just myself and daughter and getting to have my alone time, then just seeing Code3 on the weekends and vacations. I like being able to focus on my daughter, my health, and work during the weeks. I do miss Code3 doing my laundry and cleaning house though .....this makes me wish we still lived together when I feel overwhelmed.

Lol, I was joking with you then.
Noone gets my jokes :/

I struggle with this, thanks for the reminder.