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MLYLT learns to love herself and changes her life (for real this time!) MLYLT learns to love herself and changes her life (for real this time!)

01-17-2018 , 01:10 PM
I'm talking meds. I have sleeping pills, but I don't like to take them. They make me really out of it the next day and I don't want to get hurt at work.
The meds make the symptoms less severe. Before I posted my (apparently lol) pie chart and now I'm only going into extreme states 8% of the time and am normal half the time. I don't have the amount and time of my states previous to this year, but it feels 1000x better than before.
As far as coping, it helps now to recognize and be conscientious of each state. I can't control my sleep or moods, but I can control my thought processes and turn those around pretty quickly. It helps to have outside voices to help me realize I might not be seeing things logically when I'm low. For example, I was compulsively texting code and just being really negative and feeling down. He simply responded "That's not a good outlook to have, it's okay" and this helped me see I wasn't really being logical.
01-17-2018 , 05:08 PM
Is your daughter getting any more sleep per night?
01-17-2018 , 06:59 PM
No. I'm putting her in bed and laying down with her at 9:30, but she just tosses and flips around and can't go to sleep.
I cut tv time down after homework and it didn't seem to help. She is just wired all the time. She plays outside riding her bike or scooter everyday and is constantly running around the house, but never gets tired.
They only have PE 3x a week at school and only go outside about one day a week. I'm going to say something if there is a parents conference that they need to increase their play and active time.
01-17-2018 , 07:13 PM
Hey there




Spoiler:
I'm joking
01-17-2018 , 07:29 PM
You better be joking.

Buy generic.
01-17-2018 , 09:52 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
I'm going to say something if there is a parents conference that they need to increase their play and active time.
School administrators have been hearing this for 40+years. Do you really think adding your voice to the chorus is what is going to change things?
01-18-2018 , 03:09 AM
cit,

*its
01-18-2018 , 01:23 PM
We are going to finalize our review at work soon. I have to complete the self assessment today.
The reviews are based on plant metrics as a whole and each metric has a weighted %. The review is 0-5 rating on each metric.

What I'm worried about is my boss being an idiot. When we initially went over the reviews a few months ago I brought up the argument that it is a personal review and we shouldn't be graded as a group. For example, we had different cost savings initiates that my projects contributed greatly to in order to meet, but she won't give me the top rating. I am over one plant and my partner over another. Well the majority of the cost savings was seen in my plant. For instance, 75% of savings in my plant, 30% due to my projects. 25%savings in the other plant, but 0% from our group. So, she looks at the total contribution from our group because "We are seen as a whole and not 2 plants". My rating will be based on the lack of effort from my partner in his plant.

Please help me to convince her that this is just ******ed for a person review. How can I explain this in terms someone who doesn't think logically will get?
Like I need a word for word statement I can memorize and say to her because she doesn't get what I have to say and the way I say it at all.
01-18-2018 , 01:30 PM
M,

Don’t say anything.
01-18-2018 , 01:35 PM
MLYLT,

Haven't you repeatably said that your boss's boss knows what you have done? If so, why do you care about this?
01-18-2018 , 01:50 PM
If she doesn't respond to logic you could try crying.
01-18-2018 , 01:55 PM
MLYLT,

I suggest following El D's advice.
01-18-2018 , 01:59 PM
"not a team player"
01-18-2018 , 02:34 PM
I ran it by the production supervisor and he said if I get the median rating don't say anything. If I get rated low on anything, he said I should bring it up to the plant manager. He has to do the reviews for several supervisors and said there is a standard raise for anything median and above and it doesn't change whether it's median, great, or exceptional, but low scores mean no raise.

He also told me that she has a certain % in raises to give out to whoever she supervises and she gets to decide how that % is divided among everyone. It won't be a shock that I had the best performance in regards to the plants metrics, but will get the least bit of that for a raise if anything at all. Maybe boss^2 will step in again and give me one.
01-18-2018 , 03:07 PM
Acts disrespectful and insubordinate to her boss all year, now worries that her boss will give her a smaller raise, which of course will be all her boss's fault. Sounds about right.
01-18-2018 , 04:12 PM
I don't make 2x as much as my partner and everyone loves me except for my boss.
01-18-2018 , 04:48 PM
define "everyone"
01-18-2018 , 05:19 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
I don't make 2x as much as my partner and everyone loves me except for my boss.
Is that all you got out of the post? Be smarter.
01-18-2018 , 07:13 PM
She warned us.
01-18-2018 , 07:23 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
I don't make 2x as much as my partner and everyone loves me except for my boss.
Does this include your bored, code's jokes loving coworker?
01-18-2018 , 08:45 PM
Yes it includes him. He likes working with me and we trade ideas and information. I was reviewing a program he is writing this week for a DAQ system and gave him some ideas and I have gone to him with things I'm working on to get his perspective and he gave me some data he had spent a lot of time on to use for one of my projects.

Everyone likes me from upper management to the production workers.
People have also started gossiping to me about what they have discussed in their group meetings regarding my boss and her decisions and my partner being a dummy a lot the time lol.

I was also invited to a retirement party last Friday that my boss wasn't invited to.
01-18-2018 , 09:09 PM
She just wanted to review the metrics today and we will go over my self assessment next week.

I asked her how the raises are done, if they are yearly, is there a bonus program, and how the raises and reviews are correlated.
She said she didn't know to all of my questions. She seemed like she was being honest, but I don't trust anything that comes out of her mouth.

She even mentioned changing the metrics to reflect accomplishments of my plant alone and mentioned she remembered how I brought it up the last time. She said she will try to do it for next year's. I was absolutely shocked. I am also so very skeptical of anything she does or says and I'm wondering if she has some information where she knows this might actually be detrimental to me. I don't think she does anything without the motive of getting something for herself or trying to do something negative to me.

In the folder she had my review info in there was also a folder that said "PIP" and another one that said lol "approachability".
I asked her what they were and she said she wanted to put me on an improvement plan(aka documentation to fire plan) when the safety incident happened and the plant manager and hr didn't agree to it. Remember when I was working on the electrical stuff that wasn't actually "high voltage"? Yeah, she thought she could get me fired for it..that *****.

I also sent out an update for the little mini project I'm working on. During the meeting she ask if I could put my spreadsheet/wbs on the public drive. She said that she has been sending out an update on it(to the same ppl I sent it to) and she liked mine better. Like wtf, she isn't even remotely working on it and hasn't sent out anything.
Like her only thought process is to try to latch onto what other people are working on and try to make it look like she is doing something instead of just doing something herself.
01-18-2018 , 09:29 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
She just wanted to review the metrics today and we will go over my self assessment next week.

I asked her how the raises are done, if they are yearly, is there a bonus program, and how the raises and reviews are correlated.
She said she didn't know to all of my questions. She seemed like she was being honest, but I don't trust anything that comes out of her mouth.

She even mentioned changing the metrics to reflect accomplishments of my plant alone and mentioned she remembered how I brought it up the last time. She said she will try to do it for next year's. I was absolutely shocked. I am also so very skeptical of anything she does or says and I'm wondering if she has some information where she knows this might actually be detrimental to me. I don't think she does anything without the motive of getting something for herself or trying to do something negative to me.

In the folder she had my review info in there was also a folder that said "PIP" and another one that said lol "approachability".
I asked her what they were and she said she wanted to put me on an improvement plan(aka documentation to fire plan) when the safety incident happened and the plant manager and hr didn't agree to it. Remember when I was working on the electrical stuff that wasn't actually "high voltage"? Yeah, she thought she could get me fired for it..that *****.

I also sent out an update for the little mini project I'm working on. During the meeting she ask if I could put my spreadsheet/wbs on the public drive. She said that she has been sending out an update on it(to the same ppl I sent it to) and she liked mine better. Like wtf, she isn't even remotely working on it and hasn't sent out anything.
Like her only thought process is to try to latch onto what other people are working on and try to make it look like she is doing something instead of just doing something herself.
I feel like you fundamentally don't understand how a manager/employee relationship works.
01-18-2018 , 09:49 PM
spider,

It has been explained to her numerous times, in a myriad of ways.

Quote:
Originally Posted by citanul
MLY,

Carry on then, you clearly need no advice here, you've got it all under control.
lol, this.
01-18-2018 , 10:26 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by spidercrab
I feel like you fundamentally don't understand how a manager/employee relationship works.
She doesn't wish to understand.

      
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