"I don't talk to fat women or have much desire to dine with them."

You were born yesterday g4s, keep drinking the kook-aid.

The comment is completely ridiculous in an overweight woman's log. It cannot be defended.

thremp literally drove that dude insane. he may have lost his mind but will always have a core of solid granite

I wonder if he still wants to fight everyone?

I shall bow out then loco, thremp certainly doesn't need my help in this situation anyway, lol.

That said, that log could have been a huge success story if any simple food plan would have been followed for the last 18 months. She doesn't listen and doesn't care, and I think that's what causes the environment that exists in there at times. I will try not to go back in there.

I have said it a million times already. It's much more complicated than that. There are real brain chemistry issues going on that are beyond us.

And that comment explains both situations clearly.

Someone recently made a comment in her thread: "Junk binge => admit in thread => get attention."

A big part of me is inclined to agree and its one of the main reasons I've dramatically decreased my posting in that thread. More than a few time's I've typed half a post, then deleted it because I felt like I was wasting my time at best or feeding a pathology at worst.

On the other hand, as an ex-fat, I definitely get this and my fat-loss journey has given me a new-found sympathy and understanding for the obese. This **** is very complicated and multilayered.

I think referencing BMIs that are almost certainly going to be "chubby" to "pretty fat" for most people as "thin" is a trigger for me.

Have had 5 Tinder dates so far, closed the deal on 3 of them.. think thats a pretty good percentage..?

Did you mistake this thread for the online dating thread? heh

Where did you get the bolded from?

Can you expand on what you mean by "brain chemistry"? It sounds like you can invoke that anytime someone doesn't change a behavior (which, to be clear, says nothing of whether it's true or not).

I am going to keep back on this and I think M05 is also keeping back now. Not because we are afraid of each other, or deeply hurt and sulking, but for the general peace, more or less productive atmosphere and I don't know.....for good things happening and everyone getting healthier and more fit.

I mean sure one or other is going to find a flaming war here amusing, I am not one of those, plain because there are other things more productive and interesting. And I would appreciate if everyone tries not to put any grease on the fire.

And on brain chemistry: One simple example is taking certain meds. There are certain meds, that just prevent saturation center in the brain from getting triggered. And I know that M at least claims to take her meds.

Another example is cravings few days before menstruation. Under certain conditions cortisol levels increase on the last days of the cycle, what leads to increased cravings for carbs and sugar. There are also a bunch of hormones that are still not researched well enough.

The trick with such things is as first get mindful of them, to really understand what is going on and then sometimes it is possible to find different ways to regulate them.

Hey, I have a great idea; MYLT loses XX amount of weight, and she wins a dinner date with Thremp! Now that's motivation!

It'd need to be a lot of weight for there to be a conversation.

I don't care for thremp either, but e-stalking and revealing forum posters personal details in a public space or otherwise talking about their personal lives in invasive ways is wrong.

Does this mean I should delete dt's wife's picture or no?

TIL my gym has weighed each "45lb" plate and written the actual poundage on it in marker which is up to 47 lbs. Anyone ever seen this or does it mean I'm in a ghetto gym?

I'll allow it. He posted the pic after all

A good sign. Means someone cares enough about knowing what the weight actually is/evenly loading the bar.

Was that a stone in my direction?

I am somehow pretty sure that yes. So I will try to bring in more clarity: If you try to hurt me, to go for me in any intentional way, be intentionally mean to me, I won't be a victim like this 28 y.o boy was, I will go back for you, I will dig out everything I can on you, and do my best to make you cry and run away. That said, generally I am peaceful. I think one or other knows me from OOT, and I am not one that attacks carelessly.

And I try it one more time: I would appreciate not putting grease on the fire, especially after me and M05 do keep back.

You're a weird one aren't you.

I think, that is totally correct.

lapka,

You are hypersensitive to offense, and it would probably improve your life's experience if you worked on developing a thicker skin. That you were so triggered by a comment like "I don't talk to fat women" was more a reflection of this flaw in your personality than of how much of an insensitive dick thremp was. After all, he could easily have meant that phrase in the literal sense that he just doesn't happen to have any overweight female friends or family members as opposed to the meaning you took from it (that he wouldn't talk to a fat woman).

edit: Note importantly that he wasn't even talking to or disparaging you directly. You got offended for all of the other women in the world that presumably thremp refused to talk to because they were obese. Who has time to get offended by this kind of stuff? (answer: a lot of people unfortunately)

I mean, just keep the e-fights to e-fights. I think it was pretty over the line when he mocked the recent death of a loved one in The Indian vs M05, but the doxxing or messing with somebody's employer is worse.

DUUUUUUUDE!

I don't really believe this explanation, that the remark was meant in the non-degrading way, because the complete remark was "I don't really talk to fat women, much less have the desire to dine with them." I mean.... there is no way, that that was meant neutral in the sense that he just doesn't know anyone fat. And pay attention that he doesn't talk to fat women, not fat people.


But it happens that people don't intent to be hurtfull and things are just said. Normally after the hint that XYZ was not so cool, is something like " Sorry I didn't meant it so". Thremps reaction was wanting to escalate the whole thing in LC or his blog. I just ignored it, but then it came again and again. And don't tell me that the dude had no intention to troll me here into oblivion.

We can continue to discuss this.

And about my personality flaws..... I do have a bunch of them. I thought about if it was the right decision or not to come into LC at all. I mean I could have ignored repetetive wish to see me here and have some entertainment this way.

M05's remark that started all that would have sent me 5 years ago on the edge of eating disorder. I have gained in the last few months 2 kg. So I am fat. Right? I am so terribly fat that no one will ever talk to me. Right?

And that is not only me. There are many women this way. Even if a woman is in your eyes thin and athletic and whatever, such comments in her presence do often damage.

So don't make such remarks, especially if you are hypersensitive about anything in your life.

Duuude..... Fear me..... I like that