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11-21-2018 , 01:20 AM
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Originally Posted by plaaynde
The weight thing naturally has gone secondary now.
No, that's like saying I'm not going to treat my diabetes because I have a broken leg. The two aren't mutually exclusive. Stop enabling.

M, with respect, whatever is going on with other aspects of your health, your weight is still the issue that may cause you the biggest problems in the future and it's the thing that is completely within your remit to control.

You are the person who titled this log to associate your weight loss with your future happiness, and it"s just sad to see you throw away your hard-won loss because you've been distracted by other issues.

You need to control your own destiny where you can. Of course, you ddress the other issues with the medical professionals, but I honestly feel that you're just using this stuff as an excuse to do little or nothing about your weight.
11-21-2018 , 01:39 AM
We all need to try to adapt to new situations. MLY, you have a new situation now.

Maybe not letting the weight increase without control is the way to go at the moment?

There must me things to look after mentally now, even more important than the weight loss.
11-21-2018 , 02:33 AM
Did your neurologist read the imaging or someone else?

Plaay, GnT is right. There are always excuses to not focus on losing weight, but not losing weight doesn't help anything and will continue to negatively affect quality of life.
11-21-2018 , 02:44 AM
As long as you have the mental energy to focus on what may be the most important at the moment. I think our capacity is limited in that regard. But I'd say this situation is not among the ordinary excuses.

One of the tricks in life may be to identify the real game changers. This may be one of them. I think it's beneficial to identify them sooner than through some kind of crisis later. That crisis could include for example "**** it, I eat whatever". Needs to be avoided.

Everybody, lift your eyes from the weight issue, just for a moment. Keeping on pretending nothing has changed isn't beneficial.

Last edited by plaaynde; 11-21-2018 at 03:01 AM.
11-21-2018 , 03:10 AM
nothing has changed in regards to her needing to lose weight though

if anything, it's more important than ever since an unhealthy weight might exacerbate other issues
11-21-2018 , 03:13 AM
Thread needs more practicing logging stage
11-21-2018 , 03:26 AM
In the end, we all know being a bit overweight isn't that serious. These threads may make us believe in it for real. For example smoking is more dangerous. And then you have issues which may have a substantial impact in a few years, not decades ahead.

Proportions, proportions...

Not saying weight loss isn't important. But where to primarily put the mental energy at a particular time? It may be a relief to be allowed to think: "I'll keep this weight for now, can come back to it when having dealt with the issues at hand". And logging stabile weight is very well worth logging. I'm doing it myself.

Last edited by plaaynde; 11-21-2018 at 03:35 AM.
11-21-2018 , 04:57 AM
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11-21-2018 , 05:52 AM
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Originally Posted by plaaynde
In the end, we all know being a bit overweight isn't that serious.
What about being obese, which MLYLT is unless she's 6ft?
11-21-2018 , 06:44 AM
Lifetime smoking is about a 10 year hit to lifespan. Moderate obesity in women is two to three year hit to lifespan.

Unfortunately it's way worse when you combine them. Smoking + obesity + no exercise equals 20 years off future lifespan for a 40 year old woman. Ouch.

For men it's even worse. I don't know what the numbers look like for alcohol + fatty + no exercise, but they can't be good. My bro made it to 42, but he was already a vegetable and they pulled the plug on him a few days after his bday.

Who is next? Not me.
11-21-2018 , 08:29 AM
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Originally Posted by plaaynde
Not saying weight loss isn't important. But where to primarily put the mental energy at a particular time? It may be a relief to be allowed to think: "I'll keep this weight for now, can come back to it when having dealt with the issues at hand". And logging stabile weight is very well worth logging. I'm doing it myself.
She's not logging fool, not to any meaningful extent.

M is definitely not stupid, she's qualified engineer, but she will seek excuses not to control her weight and poor eating habits. I think she kinda lies to herself quite a lot.

You aren't helping by encouraging her to slip back into bad habits.

M, don't waste all that progress.
11-21-2018 , 08:56 AM
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11-21-2018 , 10:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Gin 'n Tonic
She's not logging fool, not to any meaningful extent.

M is definitely not stupid, she's qualified engineer, but she will seek excuses not to control her weight and poor eating habits. I think she kinda lies to herself quite a lot.

You aren't helping by encouraging her to slip back into bad habits.

M, don't waste all that progress.
You are right, thanks for saying it.
I'm mostly lying to myself about smoking. Deep down I know that some of my health issues are probably caused by smoking, lack of exercise, and poor diet.

Researching my blood test results, a lot of the high values can be caused by smoking.
Vitamin D deficiency also caused by smoking.
If my veins are small as shown on the MRI, smoking is just exacerbating not getting enough oxygen to my brain as well as Nicotine narrowing my blood vessels.
I'm lying to myself to believe that's not the problem and I haven't caused my own health issues.
I'm also not drinking enough water, I have gone days only drinking sodas.

I'm not setting any long term goals, but I am not going to smoke for a full week before my blood is retested next week. I have a feeling everything will come back normal.

I'm making excuses everyday not to go to the gym. I left for the gym during lunch last week and seriously went to Schlostskys accrosss the street and had pizza instead. Thought to myself, "you don't know what's wrong yet, exercising and strain my cause a worse problem."
Absolute bull****.

I've made several excuses that I don't have time to log, bull**** again. I'm being lazy and don't want to think about all the crap I ate. I'm also using any stressful situation as an excuse to pig out. It's not emotional eating it's an excuse. I actually handle stress very well and I know it. Anytime something is high intensity, breaks, goes wrong, I've always had the ability to get on it and get it fixed without missing a beat....now I'm ****ing eating just because I want to eat and stuff my face and think I have an excuse to.

I weighed ****ing 232 this morning, my stomach looks disgusting again and my face is getting fat again. Geeze I can't let myself lose control and get back to 300lbs.
It's all lies, excuses, and just straight up being lazy.
11-21-2018 , 10:54 AM
Just a reminder to myself that I have more than a weeks worth of chicken, salmon, tuna, eggs, fruit amd veggies in the house and there is absolutely no reason for me to go out and eat.

I'm on vacation till Monday, there is no reason not to go to the gym and get back into the routine of lifting.

The weather is nice, no reason not to go for a long walk or hike everyday.

I have plenty of time to log and I have no outside sources to keep me from not smoking.

I'm starting off the day by cleaning my messy ass house. I had my lazy day yesterday. It will get me up and moving and always makes me feel 1000% better to have a clean and organized house.
11-21-2018 , 10:56 AM
How about just logging/measuring your weight every day? Do what you can for not letting it go up. That's more than good enough at the moment. And good luck with stopping smoking, that's a game changer.

All the rest is optional
11-21-2018 , 01:17 PM
Btw, your health issues may have nothing to do with overweight, smoking or lack of exercise. No need to blame yourself. Look at those issues if and when you are ready.

Shortly: do the best of the situation at hand. Whatever it is.
11-21-2018 , 01:33 PM
I'm going to do what I can control to improve my health, but it looks like something may still be wrong outside of my control.

Just got back from my primary doctor. He got my MRI results and blood test. He told me there is nothing to be concerned about with my blood counts and that I probably had a mild sinus infection. He also said that everything had been rulled out except a deliminating disease, talked about the gliosis and thinks I should have the spinal tap done.
I hadn't gotten the spinal tap scheduled and didn't ask where I was referred to for it because I was hoping they would find something simple like a vitamin difficency.
My neurologist is going to retest my blood(I don't know why yet) and do some nerve testing next week.
11-21-2018 , 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Brock Landers
I wouldn't jump to leukemia just yet M, it's much more likely you have/had a mild infection


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11-21-2018 , 02:09 PM
I thought you had quit smoking? I guess I'm not keeping up with this log like I used to.
11-21-2018 , 04:09 PM
Just because they rule out everything except for X, Y or Z doesn't mean you have X, Y or Z. Lots of times you end up with a "Well, we've ruled everything out and don't know why you're experiencing that," because most doctors aren't great at diagnosing non-standard things, and because medicine doesn't have explanations for lots of common things people experience. Not saying that's better or worse than knowing for sure you have something seriously wrong that they can at least identify, but it's often the end result of a long diagnostic process.
11-22-2018 , 06:20 AM
If you actually make it a week without smoking just don't start again...
11-22-2018 , 11:41 AM
Lol :Thumb:
It's easier to just tell myself "just one week, you can do that"

11/21 log:

Weight: 226.2
11-22-2018 , 12:17 PM
Those macros don't equal those kcals...

Did you really have 51g of fat? Or is that just a result of that terrible app you use?
11-22-2018 , 02:37 PM
MLYLT,

Daily reminder that you need to post logs, for (among other things) reasons like the post above.
11-22-2018 , 09:26 PM
For me weight is enough. Maybe cals. Go low on both!

      
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