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Originally Posted by Teethwash2
I just know myself.
I'll get to where I want to be and after that, slowly get complacent. Maybe I'm just being a debbie downer but I just don't see anything different happening in reality. The end game here is, unfortunately, surgery. I've already started the ball rolling on it. The only thing I can maybe see happening is a total mindset change due to my partner and I wanting to start trying for a family within the next few years. I'd never forgive myself being a fat Dad so that might spur something on.
The stats on morbidly obese fatties keeping weight off over a lifetime are pretty dire as well.
Having read that back I'm thinking seeing another psychologist wouldn't be the worst idea.
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Originally Posted by Teethwash2
Regardless, I have total faith in 6-12 months i'll have lost a significant amount. Theres lots of real life reasons this has to happen now and it will. The question is whether I'll have kept it off in five years. Unless bariatric surgery happens I highly highly doubt ill maintain a normal weight over a long period of time.
I mean this reply in an encouraging way so please take it that way.
This is bullshit and a defeatist attitude.
I've watched a lot of my 600lb life (I know you're nowhere near that obv) and the underlying theme is therapy to work through issues wrt food. It's a mandatory requisite for the doc on there to approve surgery.
I would suggest finding a therapist that specifically deals with those types of issues. Surely they're doing remote/video sessions atm?
So don't get complacent after you get to your goal? You've demonstrated a lot of the necessary self control and habits needed to be a normal weight in your first month back logging again. I see a huge difference in your log vs other WL logs here, you crushed it.
I appreciate it's harder for some folks than others to eat maintenance calories, but it doesn't take that much effort to actually track cals reasonably close everyday. I do it every day and spend a few mins of mental energy tallying up my cals. So every day I know whether I gained fat or not due to my eating. And I'll do this for the rest of my life, and you should to. Not a big deal. The logic being imo, it's a lot harder to ignore the fact that one is getting fatter everyday when they tally up 3500 cals and they know maint. is 3000.
There's a lot of food paths that work. IF, smaller/more freq meals, higher volume/more satiating foods (feeling full), higher protein, keto/carnivore/vegan. Figure out what works best for you. It really doesn't matter at all which option as long as cals are under control. Leads to sustainability.
Build some muscle. It's a lot easier to not get fat when you have a bigger budget to work with. I've probably increased my maintenance by close to 1000cals by 1.)being more active 2.)adding 25lbs of muscle.
On this note, find some exercise you really like. Doesn't matter much as long as you like it, and this is crucial because if you don't it's probably unsustainable. If you don't like doing cables and dumbells, try powerlifting, or try Olympic lifting. If you hate lifting, try mtn biking, swimming, hiking, rock climbing, etc.
Staying busy helps. When you're bored all day it's easy to let your mind think about food and eventually rationalize eating for no real reason.
Not trying to dissuade you from discussing surgery with your doc, but I doubt it's truly necessary. It's also not without risk nor bulletproof. Some of the folks on that show managed to gain weight post surgery.
Anyways, I know I don't know you, but you can do it imo man.
Btw, I've been fat/overweight for more of my life than not. Never again though.