Facing Mortality at 21 is the nutlow of life
10-28-2012
, 11:54 PM
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I would set the date now. You set the bar and you jump over it. If you set it at 2 weeks from now and the book has not arrived in a week you need to go out to a store and buy it or buy a digital copy to reach the goal on time. I have to audio book. This seems silly but it is learning how to set a goal and reach it. If that book arrives the day before you goal date you stay up all night and read it. 
In all goals we set there are parts we can't control. If the book gets lost in shipping or something you need to be aware something beyond your control is hindering your goal and change your plan to reach your goal on or before the deadline. Goal setting is about learning how to plan and setting the goal normally takes care of all the other steps, you will just do it once you set the goal. If it is a goal you truly want to achieve that is, me forcing you to read a book is not the greatest example.
Now social anxiety is tricky and I an as far from an expert on it as you can get. Is it caused by you being overweight or are you overweight due to social anxiety? Several people have poked at the idea of finding out how you got fat and what has triggered this current change in eating habits. Do you even know? Questions like this are also going to seem silly but if you discover the true source of the problem it will become much more likely you can overcome it.
I would like to see the mfp days of how you ate before the diet. Is it possible you ate even more before you tracked those days? I would say yes. What made you eat so much at that time. Tracking food is great because people never track really bad amounts or types of food. Once they decide to track they just don't eat those amounts or types of food. Similar to social anxiety the cause and effect is a chicken and egg type of thing and very hard to figure out.
So I said a lot and it is getting unclear so let focus on the most important stuff.
What do you think are the reasons you overate in the past? Need a detailed answer to this. Are there types of foods that trigger you to binge? I am assuming you are a binge eater. True? Did you use food to alter your mood? What are the situations you eat the most in? Do you overeat in public or is it always in private? How bad is the social anxiety and is it causing you to overeat or is it a result of overeating? There are an unlimited number of questions I could ask so it is impossible. You need to think honestly about it and try to give the true answer to this one and it will be hard to figure out but try your best.
In all goals we set there are parts we can't control. If the book gets lost in shipping or something you need to be aware something beyond your control is hindering your goal and change your plan to reach your goal on or before the deadline. Goal setting is about learning how to plan and setting the goal normally takes care of all the other steps, you will just do it once you set the goal. If it is a goal you truly want to achieve that is, me forcing you to read a book is not the greatest example.
Now social anxiety is tricky and I an as far from an expert on it as you can get. Is it caused by you being overweight or are you overweight due to social anxiety? Several people have poked at the idea of finding out how you got fat and what has triggered this current change in eating habits. Do you even know? Questions like this are also going to seem silly but if you discover the true source of the problem it will become much more likely you can overcome it.
I would like to see the mfp days of how you ate before the diet. Is it possible you ate even more before you tracked those days? I would say yes. What made you eat so much at that time. Tracking food is great because people never track really bad amounts or types of food. Once they decide to track they just don't eat those amounts or types of food. Similar to social anxiety the cause and effect is a chicken and egg type of thing and very hard to figure out.
So I said a lot and it is getting unclear so let focus on the most important stuff.
What do you think are the reasons you overate in the past? Need a detailed answer to this. Are there types of foods that trigger you to binge? I am assuming you are a binge eater. True? Did you use food to alter your mood? What are the situations you eat the most in? Do you overeat in public or is it always in private? How bad is the social anxiety and is it causing you to overeat or is it a result of overeating? There are an unlimited number of questions I could ask so it is impossible. You need to think honestly about it and try to give the true answer to this one and it will be hard to figure out but try your best.
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As for the rest of your post I'd like to have a think about it before answering and I might do so in a PM. Unless thats a total copout in which case ill grow a pair and post it here.
Edit: Just realised I kind of answered some of your questions below, after thinking more Ill go into more detail though.
People keep suggesting eating more without providing any reasons behind it. From the reading I've done losing weight fast is discouraged for 3 reasons; loose skin, unsustainability and gallstones.
I think loose skin is an inevitability regardless given where I started so that isn't weighing on my decisions too much and gallstones ill risk.
Drastic diet changes being unsustainable is an interesting one though. I know I'm still in the honeymoon phase of this 'journey' but I honestly don't believe (perhaps delusion, perhaps naivety) I'm a normal 'recovering' fat person. Firstly because I'm never hungry which from what I gather is an enormous issue for most people losing weight. I don't have to fight urges to eat copious amounts of anything unhealthy because they simply arent there. Given how easy its been for me to cut out bad foods, I also don't think I have an emotional or psychological attachment to them.
I also enjoy exercise, admittedly not so much cardio but sport and lifting I'm loving. I played team sports pretty much my whole life up until I was 17 and being capable of getting back to that is a huge priority.
I truly believe I got fat because food which is high in fat and sugar tastes good and I was lazy/lacking any reason to change. Simple as that. No metabolism bull**** or genetics or psychological issues or any other excuse people like to delude themselves with, I was 100% to blame for making bad choices.
Anyway, bit of a tangent to a common comment but whatever.
I'm in Australia and Hulu hates us here. Ill look for it elsewhere, thanks.
10-29-2012
, 05:17 AM
10-29-2012
, 07:19 AM
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Congrats on the huge weight loss so far - you seem determined. Keep at it.
Just going to say though that there is no way you have 196lbs lbm. That's like competitive bodybuilding territory and while your bodyfat % is obviously much higher than a competitive bodybuilder and carrying higher bodyfat can help you carry more muscle, there is no way you have that much muscle being a beginner.
http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/mus...potential.html
Just going to say though that there is no way you have 196lbs lbm. That's like competitive bodybuilding territory and while your bodyfat % is obviously much higher than a competitive bodybuilder and carrying higher bodyfat can help you carry more muscle, there is no way you have that much muscle being a beginner.
http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/mus...potential.html
Yeah, it sounded like a lot and pretty unrealistic. Must just be a dodgy calculator.
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Congrats - looks like you've got the right attitude to go far.
I think arguing about what goal weight you should have at this point is like planning your HU strategy the first hand of a big field tourney. Get to that point, and then it will be more clear and your body type more defined.
It was a boring conversation anyway.
I think arguing about what goal weight you should have at this point is like planning your HU strategy the first hand of a big field tourney. Get to that point, and then it will be more clear and your body type more defined.
It was a boring conversation anyway.
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OP - You're doing great, impressive results so far.
Some logs in this forum, usually weightloss ones for some reason, seem to attract a disproportionate number of random posters who all want to chime in with their advice. The problem is that a large number of them have no idea what they're talking about. Try to work out who the decent posters are, stick with their advice and ignore the static all around them. If you have any specific questions it's probably a better idea to post in the beginners questions thread (stickied in the forum) as lurkers tend to stay out of there and you generally get solid answers.
Some logs in this forum, usually weightloss ones for some reason, seem to attract a disproportionate number of random posters who all want to chime in with their advice. The problem is that a large number of them have no idea what they're talking about. Try to work out who the decent posters are, stick with their advice and ignore the static all around them. If you have any specific questions it's probably a better idea to post in the beginners questions thread (stickied in the forum) as lurkers tend to stay out of there and you generally get solid answers.
I've read YTFs thread twice over so I think ive got a reasonable idea of who to listen to.
29/10 food:
Tried pushups again, this time before cardio because yesterday I thought I mightve been fatigued attempting them afterwards. Managed 6ish, probably 4 good ones. Being able to do 50 without pause by the end of the year seems doable.
Also did the standard 45 minutes on elliptical. http://www.healthstatus.com/calculate/cbc says that would burn 1180 cals at my weight, seems way exorbitant. Is there a better calc around?
Last edited by teethwash; 10-29-2012 at 07:28 AM.
