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10-06-2009 , 02:53 PM
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because NLHE is complex and because there are so many different styles and decisions to make people can make nice looking posts with significantly sub optimal advise!!!
one reason why this is true is because the generally accepted model for ''how to analyse poker hands'' is beyond useless versus semi-competent opposition. what is good ''first-order'' (what is probably the best move in this spot given all possible histories/circumstances) advice for bruiser at 5/10nl may be terrible "first-order" advice for someone else. this is a problem of ''levels of description''. more on this another time.

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The problem is to the term 'introverted' is very general.
right, and this relates to just about everything so it's worth commenting on. there is an introversion-extroversion spectrum. where you fall along it is the answer to general questions like, ''how likely are you to be introverted or extroverted at any given point in time?" that's similar to (since we're on a poker forum) "how likely are you to 3bet at any given point in time?" as anyone who has played poker and been successful knows, of those who 3bet 6-10% there is a tremendous amount of variation in when they are likely to 3bet. in the aggregate it comes out as 6-10% for the entire group of players, but when you analyse each individual's play more closely the % chance they 3bet can be anywhere from 0% to 100% depending on history and circumstance. the aggregate description of 6-10% provides some information but not as much as we'd like (it can and does mislead). similarly, knowing that someone is introverted ''in the aggregate'' does not give us very much information about their ''meta-motivational'' system. they may be more likely to be introverted after reading all day, or they may be less likely to be introverted after reading all day. just knowing they're introverted doesnt answer tell us (where they fall along the spectrum will give us a probability distribution for the answer but that information is not worth much).
10-06-2009 , 03:51 PM
I suppose I stand corrected. Looks like I have some reading to do. Sweet.
10-06-2009 , 04:46 PM
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Originally Posted by VanVeen
right, and this relates to just about everything so it's worth commenting on. there is an introversion-extroversion spectrum. where you fall along it is the answer to general questions like, ''how likely are you to be introverted or extroverted at any given point in time?" that's similar to (since we're on a poker forum) "how likely are you to 3bet at any given point in time?" as anyone who has played poker and been successful knows, of those who 3bet 6-10% there is a tremendous amount of variation in when they are likely to 3bet. in the aggregate it comes out as 6-10% for the entire group of players, but when you analyse each individual's play more closely the % chance they 3bet can be anywhere from 0% to 100% depending on history and circumstance. the aggregate description of 6-10% provides some information but not as much as we'd like (it can and does mislead). similarly, knowing that someone is introverted ''in the aggregate'' does not give us very much information about their ''meta-motivational'' system. they may be more likely to be introverted after reading all day, or they may be less likely to be introverted after reading all day. just knowing they're introverted doesnt answer tell us (where they fall along the spectrum will give us a probability distribution for the answer but that information is not worth much).
If someone 3bets 85% of the time, I'd say that alone is relevant information, and certainly there's a meaningful distinction between those who 3bet 5% of the time and those who 3bet 85% of the time. The metrics used to identify introverts classify most people (75% to 80%) as significantly "extroverted," so I think it's relevant when introverts are over-represented. Particularly in a field such as business where social skills are relevant, and particularly given that the traits associated with introversion tend to cluster together. Also, scores among those in the high IQ ranges show very low extroversion, which is the opposite of the general population.

Yes, different people exhibit these tendencies in different ways, but the general bias toward introverted traits means something. Maybe it means that the typical strategy of extroversion is not optimal.
10-06-2009 , 07:07 PM
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Originally Posted by VanVeen
one reason why this is true is because the generally accepted model for ''how to analyse poker hands'' is beyond useless versus semi-competent opposition. what is good ''first-order'' (what is probably the best move in this spot given all possible histories/circumstances) advice for bruiser at 5/10nl may be terrible "first-order" advice for someone else. this is a problem of ''levels of description''. more on this another time.
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not true. i see this all the time on the NLHE forum where people say "need more history, need more reads!!" but this is just a cop out. vanveen there are few people who i disagree with so thoroughly as you. have you considered that you use such dense hard to understand language you trick people into complimenting your ideas?
10-06-2009 , 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
vanveen there are few people who i disagree with so thoroughly as you.
Wow, if this is true.
10-06-2009 , 11:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Henry17
I believe that bashing is rather important. Second only to the growth of computer networking the second largest factor is the increase in socially awkward individuals is the shift to a anti-bulling / self-esteem based psychology model. Bullying at a tween and early teenager stage is important to put people who are going off track back on it.

When it comes to people in their twenties it is still helpful. The greatest barrier to self-improvement for nerds is that they have deluded themselves into believing that while they might not be popular that is ok because they are smarter. They use that as an excuse for not changing when the reality of the situation is if they were actually as smart as they think they are they should be able to learn the fairly basic skills required for fitting in or failing that at least attain sufficient self-awareness to not care about being socially accept.
http://nerd.surpriseimo.tv
10-07-2009 , 12:11 AM
Just to add some thoughts, what VV has written earlier about many top level poker players finding success through a kind of intuitive, reactionary method ,does, from my own playing experience, hold value (until it becomes sloppy and devoid of rational thought) in my eyes.

Secondly, to tie in the social interaction part of this discussion, (from this misfits perspective), after an enjoyable day of reading It may be EXTREMELY difficult to channel extrovertive(word?u get it) desire into something of lasting value. For instance, yesterday I could only find an outlet in pretending to walk with purpose for an hour and a half, crippled to try anything which will lead me closer to achieving a seemingly perpetually elusive 'meta-goal'. eg, domain specific competencies, meeting women, making friends and influencing people in a positive rewarding way(which would loop back and reward my self in return).

yes, i also enjoy writing in an esoteric fashion.
Did you know Einstein prefered the company of women? sigh! twang of guilt there.. (writing soothes though, like many things that require effort)

Last edited by remski; 10-07-2009 at 12:14 AM. Reason: need to continue to practice... good day.
10-07-2009 , 12:47 AM
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Originally Posted by whupthattrick
Wow, if this is true.
Meh. Its like a lock it up for why Bruiser gets uber mad h8 h8 h8 in these threads.
10-07-2009 , 11:16 AM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
have you considered that you use such dense hard to understand language you trick people into complimenting your ideas?
have you considered that your hate for vanveen is simply lashing out to compensate for your inability to understand what he says?

it is mind-blowing to me that you would find what he says so objectionable. you can disagree with some of his claims but the degree to which you protest suggests something more, and it comes across as insecurity.
10-07-2009 , 12:05 PM
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Originally Posted by ceczar
have you considered that your hate for vanveen is simply lashing out to compensate for your inability to understand what he says?

it is mind-blowing to me that you would find what he says so objectionable. you can disagree with some of his claims but the degree to which you protest suggests something more, and it comes across as insecurity.
Insecurity about what?
10-07-2009 , 12:55 PM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
Insecurity about what?
about your inability to understand his arguments.
10-07-2009 , 01:17 PM
this argument is perverse. we are trying to communicate with each other and exchange ideas. so if i cant understand his arguments why isn't that a strong argument against him?
10-07-2009 , 01:37 PM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
this argument is perverse. we are trying to communicate with each other and exchange ideas. so if i cant understand his arguments why isn't that a strong argument against him?
because if you read through this thread you will find that others here have been able to understand what he is saying while having trouble figuring out what points you are trying to make. so when you complain about how not being able to understand him should be a strike against him it doesn't really come off that way (to me at least, i can't speak for anyone else).

he does not make simple arguments but he is a pretty good communicator. try harder.
10-07-2009 , 01:59 PM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
so if i cant understand his arguments why isn't that a strong argument against him?
Really? You're obviously a smart man, bruiser. Why don't you take any pride in becoming better educated?
10-07-2009 , 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
this argument is perverse. we are trying to communicate with each other and exchange ideas. so if i cant understand his arguments why isn't that a strong argument against him?
But you seem to be the minority in this department.
10-07-2009 , 06:36 PM
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this argument is perverse. we are trying to communicate with each other and exchange ideas. so if i cant understand his arguments why isn't that a strong argument against him?
if most people who try to understand my arguments succeed in understand my arguments then i am an effective communicator. i do not have the time or energy to explain myself so thoroughly as to ensure that everyone who might want to understand my arguments will understand my arguments. i have (many) better things to do with my time. with that said, sometimes clarifying for those who complain that my writing is too dense helps me understand what i'm saying better. if nothing else the process of clarifying expands the range of sublanguages i can translate my understanding into, and that often yields unexpected payoffs later on (it is a ''general skill''; see elsewhere).

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i see this all the time on the NLHE forum where people say "need more history, need more reads!!" but this is just a cop out.
what do you mean it is just a cop out, bruiser? if history influences our opponent's strategy (it does), and if our opponent's strategy is an important variable in our decision-making algorithm (it is), then history matters. thanks for playing.
10-07-2009 , 08:29 PM
thanks for playing? you demolish my arguments in just one sentence so i shouldn't bother arguing with you?
10-07-2009 , 09:16 PM
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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
thanks for playing? you demolish my arguments in just one sentence so i shouldn't bother arguing with you?
I thought you didn't have any arguments cause you can't understand what he wrote?
10-07-2009 , 10:17 PM
no i understand most of his arguments despite his convulted rambling and i think they are uninteresting, nitpicking, and often flat out wrong. i was saying "okay let's pretend i don't understand them, are you sure that is a great argument?"
10-08-2009 , 12:13 AM
Beat it, Bruiser
10-08-2009 , 12:51 AM
this thread definitely got really interesting...
10-09-2009 , 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by pokerd-o
this thread definitely got really interesting...
real fast...
10-09-2009 , 06:28 PM
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Intelligence and being socially competent are actually strongly correlated. I don't understand why you'd imply that being intelligent is somehow a negative when it comes to social interaction.
Because I think it's pretty obvious that someone spending a large amount of time posting long, nerdy posts on an internet discussion forum is obviously much more likely to be lacking social grace out in the real world simply on that basis alone. and yes, I think the extremely intelligent individuals are less likely to be very socially adjusted simply due to the nature of their overly analytical minds. yes some will take the time to get it straightened out but more often than not the people who are the most social are the ones who simply place a priority on going out with friends, partying, hanging out, and socializing instead of posting on the internet.

the most social of guys in high school/college that you meet are actually going out and socializing, partying, drinking, and talking to girls. Very intelligent people tend to have more interest in spending a lot of their time on things that cultivate their intellect, rather than socializing all the time since they have interest in more sophisticated endeavors... which is certainly warranted but also makes them less likely to be as socially competent. someone being extremely social and good with women having some secret obsession with debating on an internet message board for long hours is pretty rare to say the least.
10-09-2009 , 06:47 PM
good post boobies4me
10-09-2009 , 06:49 PM
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Originally Posted by boobies4me
and yes, I think the extremely intelligent individuals are less likely to be very socially adjusted simply due to the nature of their overly analytical minds.
Why do you believe that having an analytical mind makes you less likely to be socially adjusted?

There is actually no good reason to believe that other than as a way to make yourself feel better. You view having a analytical mind as a positive quality and so it compensates for lacking another quality -- being social. It allows you to remain smug by implying that people who are social are also stupid so it is actually a good thing that you are not one of them.


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yes some will take the time to get it straightened out but more often than not the people who are the most social are the ones who simply place a priority on going out with friends, partying, hanging out, and socializing instead of posting on the internet.
Why are the two mutually exclusive? I agree that someone who spends 50-60 hours playing MUDs or WoW is likely lacking in social skills. I manage to find time to go out every day and still participate on 2P2. Sometimes I actually do both at the same time. I think you are confusing living online with participating in a online forum. Given that we all share an activity that requires that we be online for a substantial amount of time I find it strange that you'd assume that also automatically means all of us must be nerds.

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the most social of guys in high school/college that you meet are actually going out and socializing, partying, drinking, and talking to girls. Very intelligent people tend to have more interest in spending a lot of their time on things that cultivate their intellect, rather than socializing all the time since they have interest in more sophisticated endeavors...
Again with the fake smugness. People who are actually intelligent can do both and still have time to spare. The people who lack social skills are not spending every waking hour pursuing grand intellectual activities. Your reasoning has very little to do with reality and seems mostly to be just a coping mechanism.

      
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