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Originally Posted by Peppmill
Tonight I'm at Chipotle (a Mexican fast food place, but more on the level of like a Panera bread fast food as opposed to Taco Bell), where I failed to open a set by inviting cute girl behind me in line to sit at my table.
Is this even an option? I go there 3 times a week (right next to my gym, go there after I work out), and am thinking of just approaching girls who are sitting alone and asking if they mind if I join them in some way, such as
"you deep in thought or mind if i sit here?" (in a joking way regarding the deep in thought), or "waiting for someone?"
i dunno, it sounds creepy when i type it out but i imagine that if i try to pull it off a few times it will be a good confidence builder
this worked very well for me in DC (metro, coffee shops etc.):
- you dont want to sit and have lunch w/ the girl. fail.
- you want to go up to her as you're leaving or as she's leaving and say something like "hi, i'm sorry but i just had to come over and introduce myself, im' barron. whats your name" (GOAL: short interaction, show you're a confident, great catch, leave her wanting more, get her #)
- if she looks you in the eye, smiles, and shakes your'e hand you're in.
- if she hesitates and needs 'calming' down you're like 1/2 in
- if she's obv disinterested/uninterested easy exit
first one is easy. keep it short, u live around here? work? stuff for fun? oh cool, hey lemme get you're number as i'd love to take you out sometime (said as statement). done.
second one is a bit trickier, may need some sidestepping jokes, way lower success rate but still good. "yea i know totally random right but i just moved here/live around here etc. and haven't met many new people so i thought i'd say hi. [segue into convo about her in some way. work. school. hobbies etc.]"
if you get the # its very good shot at first date and then its up to you.
AGAIN: DO NOT TRY TO HAVE SOME LONG HANGOUT TIME UPON FIRST MEETING. this is a failtrail. short, confident, # getting interactions are your best bet imo. after doing this a few times you'll know from the handshake if you're in or not and can just release immediately if you dont feel it.
you'll also get some really creative shut downs (i got some doozies lol...one time on the metro asked for her # as she was getting off and she said "ya know what, if i run into you again, i'll consider it fate and we'll go out"...i'm betting she was from out of town).
Barron