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12-12-2010 , 04:45 PM
When I told *Split* I would do a post on how to cope with stress, I had in mind some pretty basic things we all should know. Low and behold someone made this post for a COTW over a year ago!
http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/78...-poker-589822/ So, I suppose I'll have to take things a bit further.

Stress has been present since the first single celled organism came into existence. How fortunate that this has been passed on to humanity. While this at first seems a negative thing, you must truly look at the original purpose of a stress response. For hundreds of thousands of years the predominant stressors to humanity were physical ones. When you become stressed several things happen: blood flow increases, reaction time speeds up, focus and concentration heighten, memories become more elaborate, and bursts of energy abound. While this is especially useful when you are running from a lion or suffering from intense hunger, a long term stress response isn't so +EV as our body can only handle these benefits for so long. For whatever reason our bodies have adapted the stress response to also be triggered when a psychological stressor is present. Boy, aren't we poker players lucky...

If you were to lazy to click the link above (or you were confused by the OP and didn't satisfy your curiosity by scrolling down), then I'll tell you the first few things you really need to do in order to start coping with stress. Although most of these things seem obvious, a lot of people tend to neglect to do them and thus, their body suffers from excess for their lack of action. It should be noted that generally stress does not CAUSE disease, it does do several things that make you much, much more susceptible to disease.

1. Sleep 7-8 hrs a night. More if your younger, less if your older. Each sleep cycle lasts approx 1hr and 30min so don't set your alarm to wake you up during the last half as disrupting the 3rd and 4th stages of sleep have been shown to highly impair certain brain functions. If you have trouble sleeping, don't lay in bed for more than 30 minutes, get up, do something relaxing and try again later. Sleep aids are generally not recommended but if they must be used limit the use for a short period time.

2. Eat right. You are what you eat and you are a functioning, calculating machine. So do yourself a favor and put the right kind of gasoline in the tank. This is a massive topic so I'll be quite brief. First and foremost you need to stay hydrated! Water is required to digest your food and is also required among almost every other biologic function. Next, you typically want to avoid highly processed foods and choose "whole" foods. This isn't very practical in today's' world but there are a few general choices you can make like snacking on berries and nuts instead of chips, replacing red meat with lean meats such as chicken, turkey, or better yet, fish. You also need to make sure your getting enough fiber in your diet. Just to give you an idea, a male under age 50 needs 38grams of fiber a day. Fiber from oat meal, fruits, and vegetables is highly preferred over dietary supplements. FWIW carbohydrates naturally counteract glucocorticoids (a part of your stress response that provides energy, but will wreak havoc if too highly elevated for too long). I suggest eating a small carb heavy, low fat snack before a session but please, don't go overboard here. Lastly, drop or limit the soda habit! If you are afraid you are caffeine dependent, then you should know that tea, especially green tea, is a natural WHOLE source of caffeine.

3. Socialize often. I don't have a lot to say here, probably because I'm an introverted person, however, it should be obvious how social interaction will help combating stress and stressors. Also, I do know that for men, having a romantic partner will greatly reduce the effects of stress on you (unless of course she is a raving bitch). As for women, they tend to be more picky here and require a "good" relationship (how ever in the hell you quantify that...) to reduces the effects of stress.

4. Exercise regularly. Daily exercise was, like the stress response, bred into us over hundreds of thousands of years and now many of us don't do much of it at all. While general exercise will help your body handle the various effects caused by prolonged exposure to stress, it will also CAUSE stress if you're doing something you don't enjoy. Thus, you need to choose something you enjoy. If you are not a runner, don't force yourself to run for exercise. Generally you should exercise for a minimum of 30 minuets a day and typically no longer than 1.5hrs. Please do not pick an activity that is highly skillful unless it is something you truly, truly enjoy. Finally, be diverse in your physical activities. There isn't sufficient scientific research saying that one type is better than any other or what ratio is best but mixing cardio with strength training along with flexibility training all have various benefits to the physical and mental body.

5. Find more Hobbies. It is estimated that to really learn a new skill it takes, on average, 10,000 hours. That should be plenty of time to get your mind off of stressful things. Here is another spot where you must choose something you enjoy. IMO becoming healthy is a great hobbies to get started on. Here is a good post on the subject: http://archives1.twoplustwo.com/show...Number=9464588

6. Practice mental health. This is a blanket for everything that is about to follow.

-Be honest with yourself. There are no free lunches, a miracle cure-all does not exist, and everything comes at a cost. Once you accept the truth of the matter, you can begin getting a handle on your psychological stress response.

-Limit alcohol/drug use. Pretty much self explanatory. Some types of alcohol have been shown to produce positive effects upon health but again, moderation is key. One hard shot of liquor each month has been shown to help in the formation of memories. Red wine has powerful antioxidants (that can be gotten from eating red grapes...) and has shown to be beneficial to heart health. It is still recommended that if you have never drank you should start for these benefits.

-Get some sun. I don't say this to tell you to leave the house, I say this because there are many benefits to getting natural light. Not only does sunlight cause your body to produce vitamin D, it also helps in setting your circadian rhythms and aids in preventing depression.

-Avoid negative inner dialog. Like Pringles, "Once ya pop, ya just can't stop." Although I tell you to avoid this, you can learn a lot if you can add one more step to your dialog. Explain to yourself why your saying what you are saying. This simple step will help you react mindfully to the situation thus giving you an edge on how to respond next.

-As Katt Williams says, "Get your 7 laughs a day in mother ****er cause if you aint, you're doing something wrong." Laughter ironically evokes a similar reaction to working out when it comes to stress. Even smiling has also been shown to produce similar effects. Either way, laughing or smiling for no reason will do wonders towards putting you in a good mood.

-Develop spirituality. This is helpful because it allows you to fee less accountable for certain actions. Take this too far and you get yourself into denial. While denial is great when looking at the initial stress response, it is truly horrific when your denial is counterfeited.

-Take Naps. Naps should last around 20 minutes. If you can't go to sleep, at the very least close your eyes, relax, and clear your mind for 10-15min. I think you can see how and why this will help you to cope with stress.

-Breath! Breathing is something most of us take for granted. Each time you exhale you activate the parasympathetic nervous system. The purpose of the parasympathetic nervous system is to calm you down and return your body to a steady state.

-Practice a form of meditation. Like exercise, you must choose something that is good for you. Yoga is a good place to start if traditional meditation isn't appealing.

-Practice mindfulness. This is the foundation of almost everything I have written and can be simply put as "living in the moment". Mindfulness is the exact opposite of multi-tasking (multi tasking is a pretty taxing operation to be honest). Mindfulness requires you to concentrate on one task to the point where you become engulfed by that task. Do you remember getting lost in play as a child? Get lost in the actions required brushing your teeth each morning, get lost in your breath and the way your body reacts to it, be aware and consistently correct your posture. That is how you begin to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness will help you to combat going on autopilot. Autopilot is your enemy at the tables and in your day to day life. Mindfulness will allow you to turn off or limit your psychological stress response.

I hope that this slightly different COTW will add some +EV to your game as well a whole lot of +EV to your life. If you have any tips you would like to share, please do. I also have some other information I'm willing to share regarding diet and exercise if you want more in-depth information. Thanks for reading and happy grinding!

tl;dr Cliffs Notes:
Read the 16 underlined words you lazy mofo.
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12-12-2010 , 04:48 PM
1th reading
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12-12-2010 , 05:04 PM
you forgot:

-Dont play poker
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12-12-2010 , 05:05 PM
4thst
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12-12-2010 , 05:53 PM
Sun doesn't shine in the netherlands

good post. Need to sleep moar
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12-12-2010 , 06:33 PM
Yeah, tips for getting sun in the winter?
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12-12-2010 , 06:55 PM
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Yeah, tips for getting sun in the winter?
Hit your local Tan World.
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12-12-2010 , 07:02 PM
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Originally Posted by M22
Hit your local Tan World.
Enjoy your melanoma, also
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12-12-2010 , 07:26 PM
IMO, we need a COTW on eating right when you're just cooking for yourself and are lazy.
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12-12-2010 , 07:55 PM
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IMO, we need a COTW on eating right when you're just cooking for yourself and are lazy.
Jenny Craig
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12-12-2010 , 09:39 PM
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Originally Posted by udbrky
Yeah, tips for getting sun in the winter?
Sit under a Sun Lamp for 30 minutes a day.
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12-12-2010 , 09:58 PM
ha! i knew i wasnt ghey for to the tanning booth!
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12-12-2010 , 11:47 PM
Good summary of results of stress and how to cope with stress, much like the reference op.

What I feel was missed was the source of stress. I found as the source of stress was trying to control something that you have no control over. Plain and simple, the best way to cope with stress is not to create it in the first place. Learn what you can control and what you can't. If you can't, then don't even try. And live a stress free life!
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12-13-2010 , 12:59 AM
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Originally Posted by udbrky
IMO, we need a COTW on eating right when you're just cooking for yourself and are lazy.
I can do one.

That's my job/specialty/what I'm going to school for in real life, actually....
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12-13-2010 , 06:06 AM
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Originally Posted by donkey xote
I can do one.

That's my job/specialty/what I'm going to school for in real life, actually....
Please do. While you are at it, make a version that will fit someone who does not eat vegetables/fruits besides two select beans .

Nice COTW btw.
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12-13-2010 , 11:19 AM
Try some V8. Not the best source of vegetables but its better than nothing.

Also, here's a book I highly recommend : Stress for Success http://www.amazon.com/Stress-Success...2253647&sr=8-1

In it you learn to see stress not as a negative thing, but as a necessary stimulus for growth. It also talks about the importance of "world class recovery", which is just as important, if not more, to your overall success. Basically, it says that the problem is not stress (which is good by itself), but the imbalance that most people have between stress & recovery, which leads to burnout. Highly recommended read for serious players.
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12-13-2010 , 12:44 PM
I heard smack was a good cure for stress.
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12-13-2010 , 03:37 PM
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why do people do this?
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12-13-2010 , 03:46 PM
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Originally Posted by JL514
why do people do this?
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Ah, philosophonical question. The answer will be the same as to "Why does the wind blow" or something like that.

Nice COTW.

If youre lazy for exercises i reccomend tai chi. Quite effective compared to effort you need to put in it. Actually its like resting when you exercise.
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12-13-2010 , 03:46 PM
Easy way to cope with stress is to not marry strippers.
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12-13-2010 , 04:23 PM
Exercise works for me, and the higher the intensity the better.

The nice thing about high intensity exercise is that you don't have to do it as long, and you have more free time. Look at the Olympic 100m sprinters, who run a race that lasts less than 10 seconds (for most of them). You'll notice that they are gasping at the end, and they are the best athletes in the world.

Also, chicks notice when you exercise regularly.
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12-13-2010 , 04:40 PM
Nice read ty.
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12-13-2010 , 07:59 PM
This thread is great.

I need to fix: training, sleeping and eating. Guess it costs to be tired around the tables.
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12-13-2010 , 08:18 PM
Thx every1 for the e-love. If this post helps just one person then I feel its a success, thus, I feel like a BALLA now(even if I seem to be running terrabad)!!!
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Originally Posted by udbrky
Yeah, tips for getting sun in the winter?
High pressure sodium lamps or metal hallied blubls give you the spectrum benefits you get from the sun. Just opening a window while u play is a cheaper alternative.

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Originally Posted by phebous
Good summary of results of stress and how to cope with stress, much like the reference op.

What I feel was missed was the source of stress. I found as the source of stress was trying to control something that you have no control over. Plain and simple, the best way to cope with stress is not to create it in the first place. Learn what you can control and what you can't. If you can't, then don't even try. And live a stress free life!
I thought about adding something like the prayer "God grant me the strength to change what I can, the serenity to accept what I cannot, and the windom to know the difference." But i've been out of town working and havn't had time to do a review.

As for the sources of stress, I was going to mention this and the adverse health affects associated with them but I didn't wanna make a sick long COTW.

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Originally Posted by whateverer
21rd

Ah, philosophonical question. The answer will be the same as to "Why does the wind blow" or something like that.

Nice COTW.

If youre lazy for exercises i reccomend tai chi. Quite effective compared to effort you need to put in it. Actually its like resting when you exercise.
haha, 22nd here too. I guess they want their post count up.

I was going to list Tai chi too but I was afraid it would be considered a "traditional" form of meditation.
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