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Originally Posted by goofyballer
I don't understand why it's douchey to try to help someone get better.
Would you consider it a douche move if someone came up to you at the gym and was like "hey dude you're squatting all wrong...let me tell you how to get better" (i would)
What if you were driving and someone honked at you and rolled down their window at a red light and yelled "use your turn signal"?
I view these very similarly- you guys aren't friends and you don't know each other. I don't think the fact that you just played a game against each other matters- in fact, it often exacerbates the problem since everyone hates losing. If he messaged you and was like "hey man, gg" and you responded, and then he said "you mind if i tell you why i think i beat you?" then it'd be totally different.
Maybe I'm the weird one. I just think messaging someone out of the blue and saying "dude you needed spores", while potentially helpful, is mean.
This is coming from someone who is the biggest proponent out there that people need to stop being so sensitive/defensive about things they need improvement with, so it's not just me being "like that", either.