"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2014 Year of the Petite Brunette and Pissing On Dudes - Page 906

i'm going to a concert this weekend. i don't know anyone that is familiar with the band. if i did, they'd be my first choice. assuming all things are equal, am i better off inviting a (unattractive) girl or a guy for the purposes of meeting girls? i'm going to go and enjoy the concert regardless, but in the past i've found that concerts of bands that i like are one of the best places for meeting girls. i typically am more their type and they're typically more mine.

Go with the one that makes you look less weird (not implying you are weird, I hope you get my point).

03-29-2011 , 01:40 PM

#22627

fishmeout

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going alone would be 100% weird in my book tho

03-29-2011 , 01:40 PM

#22628

Christophersen

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what band

03-29-2011 , 01:49 PM

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GoCubsGo

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if i can't find anyone to go with, i will definitely go alone, as i have been lookin forward to this and tickets are cheap. the band is very obscure rock band, can guarantee that nobody has heard of them.

hipster gonna hip i know.

03-29-2011 , 01:56 PM

#22630

GoodGame

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i'd pay for someones ticket to go. maybe pay for their drinks too if u think they wont really like it.

maybe i'm different but i'll try any type of venue out if i'm going and getting drunk for free

03-29-2011 , 02:05 PM

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il_martilo

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Henry17

zzthe3rd,

I don't think that is true. When I listen to guys talk there is always a lot of stories where they are dealing with a lot of BS. I think there is a natural tendency for people to push things and see what they can get away with. That doesn't mean they can't control themselves but that they just choose not to because it is easier. If you establish early on that there will be server consequences for acting like that then people keep themselves in check. If you don't then they are going to push to see how far they can get, they are going to use you for as a proxy to take out their frustrations, they are going to pick fights over stupid ****, etc

Relationships involve a lot of power dynamics. It is really a thin line between being a nice guy who treats a girl like a princess and being a chump. I find having a no **** policy keeps you squarely on the right side of that line. If someone is still using the ******* card that is different and none of this applies.

A no **** policy beyond keeping your life drama free also helps with projecting value. It shows a lot of confidence to just end it with a hot girl over a medium level negative. My entire approach to casual dating was always about branding and the long game. A lot of my policies involve short-term loss but it is always because I see it as having a long-term benefit.

My zero tolerance policy also applies to friends. Other than there is a lack of sex the dynamics are not that different.

I'm actually intrigued by this a bit. Can you explain exactly how you go about this in more detail?

03-29-2011 , 02:07 PM

#22632

il_martilo

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I think you are better off going with a dude that will also want to meet girls (obviously you have hipster dude friends right?). I feel like if you take a female friend to this thing and then just hit on girls the whole time it's not going to be very fun for her.

03-29-2011 , 02:12 PM

#22633

GoCubsGo

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No I have no hipster dude friends because I hate hipsters. This girl is pretty chill and doesn't really care about much, also I won't be hitting on girls all the time, probably just chatting a couple up between sets.

03-29-2011 , 02:16 PM

#22634

Spurious

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Originally Posted by GoCubsGo

Seems like you made up your mind already.

03-29-2011 , 02:43 PM

#22635

Henry17

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Guy is better. Girls are great for picking up if they are part of your group but as a twosome it is best to have another guy.

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il_martilo,

You basically just behave that way and then allow the information to spread. You can be the source of that information but it is better if it just happens naturally though 3rd parties. It is like anything else related to reputation. I wish i could articulate it better but basically it is just behave like that and then allow the information to spread and that is it.

03-29-2011 , 02:46 PM

#22636

yeotaJMU

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why dont you just go to the concert to watch music?

03-29-2011 , 02:49 PM

#22637

Mittens

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I've got to agree with the raging animal here, concerts are great places to meet girls without going out of your way, but I can't imagine the feeble sex that results from two people meeting at an indie rock concert.

03-29-2011 , 05:05 PM

#22638

GoCubsGo

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Not feeble, just tender, compassionate, and ironic.

Really though, in my very limited experience, indie girls are freaks, creative and up for anything.

03-29-2011 , 05:20 PM

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Placido

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Originally Posted by Placido

What's up guys, long time lurker, so I'd thought I might as well introduce myself. I'm a freshman 2nd semester in college, looking for some advice with girls, since I'm pretty terrible with reading girls. I'm turning 19 this weekend, and with that comes some things from the hall of shame. I haven't really had any interaction with the opposite sex, whatsoever, I'm just a really shy guy, and I guess I'd rather keep to myself most of the time, and for that I suffered in high school when I should have been ballin. I just have extremely bad luck with women, and it's just my luck really. Anyways, I've already had my string of failures last semester, things just didn't work out, or I was uterly clueless when to esclate things, probably because it's never happened before. I'm not a completely inept person socially, I have a lot of girl friends, and bros, but just platonic, I'm just horrible with reading girls and things like partying all the time. I'm really the overanyalzing type, which isn't really good. I'm one of those "relationship seekers" that won't go for the idea of a one night stand.

Fastfoward to now, recently I've been trying to talk to this Chinese girl that's the same age as me, met in a class this semester, and recently we have become I'd say close friends, through a lot of mutal friends, w/e. We flirt with each other often, as a matter of fact, I didn't ask for her number for a like a month like an idiot, and eventually she found out my number through a mutual friend and sent me a request on facebook after we started hanging out outside of class more. We text each other quite a bit, about every other day, about non-school things. We've ate together a couple of times for lunch, dinner, w/e not what most would call an official date. There has however been a little physical escalation lately, enough to make me think she might be interested. Anyway, I'm pretty into her, and I'd like to get some advice to what I can do from here.

Thanks.

I thought I might as well update this, on what's happened in the last couple of weeks. Well, I lost her, probably simply because I didn't have the balls to ask her out or something, and some other guy jumped on and beat me to it. So now she has a boyfriend as of about a week ago. Eh. It's really tough trying to move on, but eh. She basically hasn't even told me, I had to find it out for myself, which is kind of heartbreaking. Maybe I'll just play the waiting game, and eventually I might have another shot. I was positive she liked me, but I figured she was tired of me not doing anything, so it's my own fault.

03-29-2011 , 05:36 PM

#22640

Pleex

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What's a good way to arrange casual meetings with girls you have known for a while? Usually, when I start hanging out with a girl a lot it's no problem for me to score but I find it hard to arrange situations to hang out in the first place.

Also, I don't think that it's the other way round and only girls hang out with me who plan on making out with me.

Last edited by Pleex; 03-29-2011 at 05:55 PM.

03-29-2011 , 05:37 PM

#22641

Zeth

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Placido: might not be consolation but it's likely you're mistaken about her being into you.

03-29-2011 , 05:38 PM

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Zeth

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Pleex: I'm not sure I understand your question. What do you mean "arrange"? How is this different from simply going places where girls hang out, clubs, shows, parties, etc.?

03-29-2011 , 05:44 PM

#22643

Placido

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Zeth

Placido: might not be consolation but it's likely you're mistaken about her being into you.

I guess I have been oblivious to things like that before. =/

There was just so much more to it seemed.

03-29-2011 , 05:58 PM

#22644

Mittens

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Pleex

What's a good way to arrange casual meetings? Usually, when I start hanging out with a girl a lot it's no problem for me to score but I find it hard to arrange situations to hang out in the first place.

Also, I don't think that it's the other way round and only girls hang out with me who plan on making out with me.

By asking the girl to hang out with you. People often want the answer to be more complicated, so I've stretched it to a paragraph:

Just. Ask. Girls. To. Have. A. Single. Drink. With. You. And. Then. You. Touch. Her. Flirtatiously. That's. It.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Placido

See above. Next time have the balls.

Also, meet more women and improve your life if you're getting heartbroken over a girl who you've never hooked up with doing what appears to be some pretty low-level dating.

03-29-2011 , 05:59 PM

#22645

Pleex

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Zeth

Pleex: I'm not sure I understand your question. What do you mean "arrange"? How is this different from simply going places where girls hang out, clubs, shows, parties, etc.?

Edited it, hope it's more clear now. I'm looking for ways to meet with girls I've known for a while, without making it obvious that I want to sex them - I think it many cases it would be too weird to be that straightforward.

03-29-2011 , 06:00 PM

#22646

Zeth

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Pleex: So the goal is to get them into your place without them immediately realizing the point is sex? Still trying to understand what we're getting at here.

03-29-2011 , 06:01 PM

#22647

Mittens

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He wants to know how to ask a girl out on a date, but is avoiding using the term date for some reason I can't fathom. Again, the answer is you ask them if they'd like to do something specific with you and then you arrange a time.

03-29-2011 , 06:01 PM

#22648

goofyballer

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Originally Posted by Placido

Maybe I'll just play the waiting game, and eventually I might have another shot.

NO. NO NO NO NO NO.

03-29-2011 , 06:04 PM

#22649

Mittens

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Tangent: When I was 18 I also though dates were super structured things that only adults did, so when I liked a girl I would just try and figure out times when we could be drunk together, but I'd never do anything to try and make that more likely. I could never figure out why I wasn't hooking up with everyone I expected to.

Right before I turned 19 I suddenly "got" that asking girls to hang out 1x1 was not a commitment, wasn't weird, and didn't mean we were getting married, and that it made it really easy to do all the stuff I was hoping would happen spontaneously while out.

03-29-2011 , 06:05 PM

#22650

Henry17

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Mittens

He wants to know how to ask a girl out on a date, but is avoiding using the term date for some reason I can't fathom.

It is the horrible friend play. Doesn't have the balls to ask her out but figures if it is just a friend thing he can use the opportunity to show how awesome he is. Despite the fact that this has never worked people still think that it will.

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