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Originally Posted by il_martilo
Of course I can't talk about some guy stuff with some of them. There is a lot of variety in terms of permiscuity here. Ranging from 0 to ~15 sexual partners. With one in particular, I can absolutely 100% talk to her about anything sex related. With the more conservative ones I wouldn't dream of it.
I can talk to any of the 10 about dating and I learn a lot from it. Again, some of them barely date at all and others date almost as much as I do. So it helps to get a variety of responses if I have a question. Basically, I can pick out which of them I think is most like the girl I'm after and then see how that friend reacts to the situation. This has helped on numerous occasions. You also learn a lot about the commonalities between all girls and where they differ as well. Of the 4 guys in our group we also have a lot of variety. The one guy has made out with exactly 3 girls ever and has never been on a date. Guy #2 has had 3 long term girlfriends his whole life. Finally, there is guy #3 and I who have pretty similar styles although he is now dating someone. That means when they have guy questions they can hit us up and get a lot of good insight as well.
We have a lot of variety wrt careers (Finance to Pre-med) so we talk about that stuff a little bit. But how much can you really talk about your career type goals without going bored? Obviously we care about each other but I feel like there is only so much to talk about there. I think 8/14 will be pursuing graduate degrees of some description.
We don't really do politics and such that much. We are mostly all from the midwest and upper-middle class families so you won't get that much variety here.
I would say I'm good friends with every one in this group. My absolute best friend goes to school elsewhere, but these are all close friends of mine. Of course I'm closer to some like MF than others but I go out with every one of these people at least once a week. But I could talk to all of them about most things.
We've all been friends since Freshman/Sophomore year with one exception, we were friends from before college.
When I was about 12 one of my best friends from that era of my life told me to be friends with ugly girls because every girl has at least one cute friend. The older I get the more I realize how much of a genius he was. Especially in my case since 90% of the girls I've so much as gone on a date with I have met through friends.
I would never have it any other way.
Thanks for the thorough reply!
I guess the biggest difference between me and you is the cycle of friends.
I've lived all over the place in the last 3 years, but my best friends are all from back home and there are only 2 I've known for less than 10 years, my best friend I've known for almost 18 years. The group consists probably of 10 people and only 2 of them are girls.
Henry would maybe call this some sort of tree house behavior.
I can talk to them about almost anything, but with the girls there are some topics that they just not connect. With three of the male friends I can talk about everything.
I just couldnt imagine having more girl than guy friends.