Negative. The proper damsel has yet to present herself.

ps when i said i wish i had ilm's life, i figured it was obvious that i would be sexing these girls.

but i sort of respect ilm's temperance, in an odd way. that's got to take lots of self control

and lots of beating off

Well that's just being a dude with a functioning hand.

Indeed it does.

It's gotta be easier when you don't quite know what you're missing out on. I dated a chick who hadn't had sex for a year before me and said the first few weeks was the hardest, but after that it wasn't really even a concern.

SNOW DAY

i'll def do that once hang out with her a couple of times.

not sure how it matters but alright

re: using big words in convo

i think there is a difference between dropping big words for the purpose of showing off, and using them to express yourself. and it's usually obvious by the way that you say it. like if you drop a fancy word, and then pause and hold your head up high for a sec, your just being a douche.

for me, i was socially isolated for the longest time from everyday conversation, and all my time was spent on here reading the local geniuses at the science, math, and philosophy forum. so my "natural" vocabulary is built around sophisticated language, and personally i kinda like it that way. but i'm also aware of that when i'm in a conversation with other people, and i feel myself ready to use a fancy word, i'll express it in a way that is non-condescending, and clear that i'm not showing off. it's hard to convey emotion over the internet, but i kind of don't stress the word, and follow it with a "or whatever"

subsides is definitely a commonly used word though.

what? hanging out with her a few times first?

i think she probably would be creeped out if i asked to take a picture with her now.

How do you guys read this?

i. Girl I have a history with was in a fb relatonship until a few weeks ago and so was the dude;

ii. neither are anymore (no breakup or single posted, just nothing);

iii. girl posts new years pics and other recent pics but he's not in any of them

iv. pics of them are still up, but they're a little old

Does this mean they are likely broken up or just going through a rough patch?

I want to ask this girl out. Am I over-analyzing?

LKJ,

FWIW, using "subsides" there will be a little odd sounding to most people, but I am a strong believer in speaking in as close to your natural voice as possible in written communications. So, if you would say "I hope these storms subside soon" when discussing the weather with a friend, go ahead and write that.

over analyzing? yes. but your logic is on point. they're likely seperated. u'd need more info to be able to know whether they are permanently broken up or just going through a rough patch.

Yeah, I constantly get told by people I know that they can absolutely hear my voice when they read an e-mail or Facebook posting or whatever by me. I don't really even consciously set out to replicate my own voice on paper...it just happens.

So had a snowday = went partying.

partyed at my friends normal place, girl mentioned in my last tr as "overall good catch" or w/e came, by herself(usually she'd come w/ her roommate, but not always).

She texted me about it instead of people who lived there, which was weird but nice. When she got there I was busy pwning the pong table; it was more of a like pong + social thing, not really a dance party.
I was dominating in pong for a long time and she was just sitting on the couch alone but right next to where I was standing so we'd talk a bit.

Eventually my partner was too busy behind the bar w/ girls and we let others take the table(we dont lose), so obviously I just sat next to her and talked for a while, the conversation wasn't great but neither of us were very drunk(bad excuse, I know..) and we kinda just commented on what was going on around us.

Pretty quickly we decided to play pong together and we rocked the table until everybody left. We joked and stuff it was fun, but not a ton of physical interaction beyond like high fives etc.

After a lot of people left most people were divided into couples(obv me and her) so we talked a lot and the conversation was pretty good at this point and we were both having fun. We also made snow angels(we did at last party too, lol).

Everybody left and it was just like 5 of us and she went to the bathroom, I was planning to tell her that people are all leaving and we could head to my place and chill(I live closer than her to where we were, but in opposite directions) since everybod is leaving. But she came out and instantly said she shuold get going and also another girl was leaving w/ my friend(he was walking her home). So we all left together and even though she did offer to let us in to warm up, the 3 of us decided to get going.

I didn't cockblock my friend obv and left when he got to that girls place, but sucks overall.

I guess I'm happy me and her had a lot more interaction, but not a ton developed.
Where would y'all go from here?
Good chance I'll see her this weekend/we are decently friends now so I feel comfortable talking to her on fb IM when bored etc.

depends on the house layout but i can't say i've never casually followed to the bathroom and banged in that situation

edit- might as well post a not so interesting update of "A". i told her i'd text her and never did as i assumed. next 2 classes we didn't talk at all. i think friday during the day i sent her a text saying 1 to 10 how do you like [our school]. she said srry idk why i don't have your =( # who is this? so ya she had deleted my #. she said sorry and that she figured we'd never see or talk (can't remember which word she used) again. i said some joke about how i'm sure there's more black people at this school but on the bright side there's less attractive girls as competition for her.

she went along with the convo w/smileys and ahhaha's all that stuff but obv it means little. i ended the convo fast saying i actually have to go do something but i expect to hear the v-card college story at some point.

today we had class and walked in the building at the exact same time. she was a few steps in front of me so i said elloooo A. she said hi and we talked+walked in together. i sat by her obv and at the end of class she said something about how fast it went by.

i do these tiny updates so that if/when something epic happens i'll be able to quote everything in succession

haha not sure she'd be down for that.

in this type of situation though, by end of the night a lot of people are making out etc, any suggestions how to get to this point??

I feel it this weekend its another dance-type party scenario and we dance again that making amove could be in order..

hahahaha you know youre doing something right, either in life or in posting, when you can type this and have someone 50/50 on whether its seriously true or a play on your persona.

Toph,

I figured she would text you again soon. It seems pretty likely that she is into you (but keep in mind that this is coming from a guy who currently has 0 female friends, wonder why). Given that there has been almost no physical interaction, I'd start with innocent stuff like more high fiving or any excuse to touch her. Compare hand size or evaluate her nails or look at her earrings or something, to a) see how she reacts and b) increase her comfort level with touching you in return. This should help determine how she feels about you.

awesome post zz, was exactly the feeling i had but couldn't articulate it.

only giving advice because you solicited for it. not saying it's optimal but it's what i do.

as i mentioned before i do the casual butt slap a lot. it lets girls know you're interested, not a vagine, etc. example: you two were playing pong together so if she makes same cup you slap it in front of everyone. you gotta look genuinely pumped she made the same cup though and add some one liner to it like "sooo clutch". can't remember actually doing it but i'm sure i have.

but ya as far as the bathroom thing goes it has to be down a hallway or something like that. majority of girls have a fantasy of being banged on a sink like they see in movies. u can usually tell if a girl will **** or not on the first time you make a move. i've been in the situation where i'm sure the girl wont or in my head i've built her up to be someone too good for that. if that's the case i make out with her and leave in the middle saying we should get back out there people are probably wondering whats up. make sure you're the first one walking back into the room of other people. also it's probably not a good idea if you're not good at kissing. bad kissing = inexperienced = a bad lay. so if anyone falls under that category i'd probably not do that and just wait until she's DTF on a bed before trying to kiss her.

lol i was being somewhat serious. just edited/added in a very humbling update of "A" in case someone was going to think i look like the situation again

good game,

if u don't mind me asking, where do you think your success comes from getting with girls? like what do you think that you do that other guys don't? a cool/fun/chill/****-it attitude? or maybe the circles you run with have sluttier than average girls?

not trying to hate on u in any way, just interested in learning from people who are more successful than i am...

He does openly say that he doesn't claim to bang girls who are actually all that hot.

oh ok, cool

He gets hella drunk and his full personality comes out