lol "kids our age". Im 20 bro. Its weird, meet girls in real life.

I do meet girls in real life lol, but in london girls are more stuck up, so you will basically get nowere unless your really attractive.

meh, i think the general rule of thumb should be if you're like 85%+ sure you'll never have an opportunity to run into her in person then doing it through online is fine

meh facebook is a "safe" way to talk to someone. i dont see a problem with it particularly, not much different than a dating website anyway.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Kind of thinking out loud here. Feel free to comment.

Going back to school Friday. Decided I think I'd like to go on a date Friday or Saturday, since I haven't had much female interaction here at home for the last 4 weeks haha.

There's a couple girls I'm a lock to be able to set something up with, but there's another one I'm not so sure what's going on and I'd like to see about going out with her. she's the one that asked me to dinner near the end of the semester, but it was slightly awk since we were crushed by the stress of finals, and I really couldn't be myself haha.

I don't know her all too well aside from hanging out with her roommate (who has a boyfriend but that's another story entirely) quite a bit. Trying to think of the best line here...

I could text her as I get in town Friday asking when she's in town. Pending her response I can offer an activity I'd like to do (I'll think of something... maybe a concert/bar/cultural event of some sort) and invite her to come along.

Or... I could call and do the same thing. Meh. My instinct is to text, but that seems so lame... but then again calling seems too up-front for me since I don't know her all that well.

I could also invite her and her roommate to do something with me, but that could get... interesting. I dunno. I don't remember how much of that situation I've relayed here. There were some interesting dynamics going on involving me and the two of them near the end of the semester. I dunno if things will pick up where they were before or not.

breaks suck. just text her and feel her out.

lol she just called me and asked me to dinner with her roommate and her roommate's bf. my other friend wanted to hangout and drink tonight with some girl he's talking to so i texted him and he might meet up with us too. after dinner the plan is to come back to my house and hopefully have more ppl over. will update

/blog

Karak vs GoodGame battle for ownership of this thread? Good to see some good action back in this thread, keep it up always a good read

karak get a threesome.

I personally don't do it but yeah if you're absolutely positive there is no way that you can ever meet the girl in person, then go right ahead and message them on facebook. Only if you're sure you can never see her. There's nothing to lose in that situation.

Last time I posted on this thread I said I was going to talk to the hottest girl in my class. I didn't. However I did get chatting to her at our course Xmas party. Went well, and now I can regularly chat to her in class and stuff which is cool. Gay thing is she has a Bf, fml. backburner for now.

On we march, and there's another very nice girl in my class (more of a 'my type' sort of girl than an obvious beauty) who I got chatting with on a night out and we had a good time. Spoke a lot of Fb chat and although we're both on there like 24/7, she dropped her number in one of the convos, saying I should "text her sometime".
Not wanting to be a keeno, I did so, but just to wish her happy christmas, and happy new year. As I say, we're always on fb chat so it's a bit stupid, though I take it as a sign of wanting similar to be, in getting to know each other and potential sexytimez.

Arranged to have a few drinks together when we get back to university next week which is cool. However, the fb chat conversations never last very long and die out easily! I don't have this problem with most girls, but I just don't know what to talk about. Especially over fb chat which I find a bit awkward. Worried this might translate to real life too and we'll both be sitting there like "so...". I like to think I'm too laid back and chatty to let that happen though. Hopefully she just seems a bit quiet because I don't know her very well yet.
Will update with how it goes.

This.

Also, Karak, I don't see that situation as awk very much tbh. Just be straightforward and hit her up.

Also, not to go all 4L on you, but pics?

If you've had good conversation in person on a night out, why would this be any different? Alcohol will be present to lubricate the situation. You might find yourself to not be compatible for dating, but the only way it'll be an awkward spot in general is if you psyche yourself out in advance like this.

lol that's not what i was inferring, but rereading my post i can see why someone would say that

butnahhhhhhhhh

yeah ill never post pics. i prob will just hit her up. i dunno there's another girl i might hit up too. i gotta see what is what coming out of break.

on another note, for some reason ive been having serial dreams about my ex-gf in the past few days. (i hesitate to post this since she used to stalk my posts on here and im nearly 100 % sure she still does, but **** it whatever) there's absolutely nothing that happened IRL to cause me to have these dreams. i didnt see her, talk to her, think about her, see anything that reminds me of her, nothing. it's completely unprovoked. im pretty much over the entire situation, but im just curious why my subconscious is now deciding to have dreams about her again (obviously in the wake of the break up they happened frequently).

i read pretty heavily into my dreams, and im usually able to figure out what my subconscious is dealing with/processing/trying to tell me by dreaming a certain thing, but i must admit im at a loss here. i just see no practical reason, chemically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually, for my brain to be processing these memories and/or fictional events (ie i had a dream about her begging me to take her back in which i declined) at night.

anyone? my only theory is that it has been a while (7 months, but that doesnt seem like a long time to me) since ive allowed myself to be emotionally close to a woman, and my brain is just conjuring the last person i allowed this to happen with (ironically enough since it's her fault ive kept myself at arm's length with women ever since), but why? ive gone through stretches single before with no issues. and it's not like im having problems finding girls to involve myself with.

meh. im just annoyed at my brain atm i guess. sorry for the long pointless rant.

My theory is that she used to sex you up back in the day, and it's been a little while, so your subconscious is telling you that you need to go out and get a little.

no there were no sexual overtones to the dreams in any way. if there were it would serve an obvious purpose.

ok i did some reading on ex-gf dreams

i read that having an ex dream long after the ex is gone and you are over her usually has nothing to do with that ex specifically, but is an indication that someone in your life right now is similar to your ex and is evoking similar feelings and emotions from you

i also read that this is your brain's way of telling you you are going to have to go through a similar behavioral process with this new person as your ex. this can either be a good thing or a warning.

if i apply this interpretation, i know exactly who in my life presently this is about. and if that's the case, then it's a warning to run away from this girl... which i already knew 2 months ago, but chose to ignore.

To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or that you and your ex got back together again, suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learn from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do no repeat the same mistake. Alternatively, past lovers often highlight the

edit - now that i think about this it makes perfect sense and i feel better now. sorry for thinking outloud on the thread here, haha. carry on.

I was hoping she had somehow programmed/hypnotized you so that after a few months you would remember how great she was.

she gave you her # to invite her out to things... soo i would do that. lol

holy **** you sound just like me. i posted yesterday in the ssnl life thread about me having a dream that lasted pretty long and the whole time was me having sex with my ex. she used to also read my posts and we actually broke up because of a post i made asking for advice on my relationship but it was more like the last straw that broke the camels back. IF YOUR READING MY POSTS RIGHT NOW HIII JENNIFER

at least in my case i think this is true. i haven't had sex in i think 2 weeks which obv isn't a big deal but i haven't gone a month without sex for like a year and a half so i'm wanting it.

update:
we went out to dinner and everything went really well. my other friend and his girl met up with the 4 of us and we all headed back to her apartment. when we were there her cat puked on her bed and her other roommate needed her to do her hair since some guy was coming over and she's a hair dresser. so she said she'd try to meet up with us after at my house where we were having ppl over but she never did. i expected it though because she said she doesn't play beer pong or really do the whole highschool/college like party scene.

this whole time i just wanted to hook up with her since she's older, for sure an alpha female, and has tattoo's and **** which is totally the opposite of the girls i usually get, but now i'm actually starting to like her bitchy personality. i feel like i always have to be on my toes around her which is kind of exciting (this sounds lame i know).

overall the night probably comes off as a fail, with her at least, but i think it was solid ground work and i still drank with people after so i didn't make her my whole night or anything.

lol yeah knowing my ex i'd bet a lot of $$ she's stalked my posts multiple times since we broke up. she used to (almost to a creepy standard) stalk any girl i talked to IRL when we were dating and she thought might be a threat to her. she also used to keep tabs on all of her former love interests too. there is honestly no doubt in my mind she's stalked my posts on 2+2 or on the law school forums i post on. if you are reading now, hiiii!

TR-
Stopped by her apartment just after 6, and she accuses me of being late, but jokingly and with a huge smile on her face.
"Wat? I said shortly after 6" I say, and pulled out my ipod to show her that it was ~6:10. I'm actually fairly surprised how excited she appears to be to see me. She asks if we're in a rush, to which I obv reply that we aren't, so she says that she wants to stop by campus to pick up her other shoes (she was wearing really funny sneakers at the time fwiw).
We get to the place where we're eventually going, and our table happens to be right beside my roommate and her boyfriend's, which isn't really a big deal I suppose.
I mention that I had Subway at like 3 and that I'm not incredibly hungry, but we decide to order food anyway. (I got a ****ing burger for some reason and regretted ti immediately when I saw the size of it. This thing was ****ing massive. I immediately got scared that I was going to look like a goat trying to eat the thing.)
Over the ~3.5 hrs that we were together, I think I stopped laughing like twice. My face actually really hurts from smiling so much, and she was smiling and laughing just as much. I really thought things were going well. As we were leaving, we run in the guy that I know who was playing and he tells us a really funny story and I almost piss myself, and as I'm walking her home we talk about him and how I know him and such. I'm not done talking by the time we get to her place, so she suggests that we continue just walking around randomly. (Brag? I mean she could have just said "okay I'm home, bye!" but she didn't) We walk around aimlessly for another half an hour for whatever reason, talking about nonsense.
When we get back to her place I ask her to put her number in to my phone, but she replies that she doesn't have a phone. She's just barely weird enough that I believe her. I'm so thrown off be the fact that someone can actually not have a phone in this day and age that I'm pretty much silenced for the remainder of the exchange.
I give her my phone number and tell her that I enjoyed myself "and would like to get together again" to which she replies, and I quote: "Mmmm, perhaps." Body language didn't really match what she said at any point when she was joking around earlier or w/e, and I just got a really weird vibe completely different than what I was getting for the other 3.49 hours we were together.

Cliffs:
girl wears funny shoes, but gets different shoes so as to have regular looking shoes.
Eat without being hungry for some reason.
We both laughed our heads off.
She wants to hang out a little while longer, though she doesn't invite me up.
I suggest we get together again and she seems meh about it.

my reaction:

1) why end things there. im not saying you have to have sex with her, but why not try to do another activity that night
2) your phone approach was decent, but i would have rather tried to lead into it than spring it on her
3) i wouldnt read too much into it. weird girls like to say **** like that, especially ones who are acutely aware of the whole push-and-pull dynamic of relationships. if she's weird enough to not have a phone, she's weird enough to play odd ****ing games with a guy she likes.

distance for a little, then re-initiate contact and see where it goes. not an awful result at all. weird girls are just... weird though... so you never know what to expect.

i kind of had to poop