"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2014 Year of the Petite Brunette and Pissing On Dudes
10-15-2010
, 12:49 AM
10-15-2010
, 12:54 AM
I just got back from a two hour long walk with the girl I’ve got a huge crush on. She is from here on known as FG. She’s like 5’ 3”, beautiful face, long light brown hair, thin, and elegant looking. More cute/adorable than hot. If I had to give her a celeb doppelganger, it would be:
TL;DR cliffs at bottom.
I ran into her today and asked her if she wanted to take a walk to the water, she agreed, and seemed pretty eager. I figured I’m in good shape given her enthusiasm, but I noticed she has a ring on her marriage finger.
We head out and I turn the conversation into something more serious, talking about her family and her close friends. Getting her to open up created a sense of familiarity more quickly. It made it feel like we’ve known each other for longer than just a couple days. And, cha ching! it becomes clear to me she is single.
But before things took on a serious/negative tone, I shifted the atmosphere to something more playful, lightly teasing her and creating more laughter. This worked, but it was a little more difficult than usual, because a lot gets lost in language/cultural translation. My sense of humor is pretty dry, sarcastic, and subtle. I had to shift to being overt, goofy, lowest common denominator type jokes. I wasn’t nearly as funny as I normally can be, but she was still laughing so I think I did okay.
At the water I picked her up like I was gonna throw her in, which was a risky move. There’s a saying about not ****ting where you eat, and that applies to this girl. We could totally date and as long as it was somewhat on the DL, there would be no problem. But a poorly calculated advance could be disastrous on my part, so I had to be more conservative than usual. So as I picked her up I was like “What the **** am I doing?!” and she started panicking as if I was really gonna throw her in. I was hoping she would more playfully beg me to put her down, but she just freaked out, so I put her down immediately. It’s really hard to tell, but it seemed like when I put her down, she leaned into me just a bit.
Then we went and sat down in a romantic spot, talked for like an hour or so. Conversation went from being serious to silly and back again, but was consistently good. I made plans with her for Saturday afternoon and I’ll see her tomorrow for a short time as well. She seems to like me at least as a friend, cause she said lots of things suggesting that we’ll be hanging out consistently. For example, “You have to teach me to play guitar.”
The whole time I was using every excuse to touch her and see if she reciprocated, how she reacted, etc. I felt her cold hands and she didn’t pull away. I playfully pushed her and stuff, but it was just hard to tell if she likes me back. She didn’t ever reciprocate my touching, but she also walked/sat pretty close to me and her body language was really open. Also, she is very quiet and reserved, and said this herself (which I disputed, not wanting to reinforce her to be closed off).
I also tried to give a bit of a romantic spin to things, playing the question game. I asked her a little bit about what kinds of guys she likes, she asked me a couple questions about girls I like and stuff, but she seemed to be less flirty than I was. Again, hard to tell, cause I have to account for the fact that she is from another culture and also is shy.
At the end I walk her to her door, open my arms for a hug and she stares at me, bedazzled. I explain that this is what we do around her, and she gives me a hug.
I don’t really have any idea where I stand as of now, but I don’t really care. She seems like the type of girl that will want to take it slow either way, which is fine, I’ve got other things going on as well. She’s fun to hang out with, has a cute personality, and super attractive. She’s also really intelligent but I often lose sight of that cause her English is poor.
Cliffs: Went for a walk with a girl I really like; it was fun and she's cool. She enjoyed herself, but I dunno if she sees me as a friend or something more cause she is shy.
Spoiler:
TL;DR cliffs at bottom.
I ran into her today and asked her if she wanted to take a walk to the water, she agreed, and seemed pretty eager. I figured I’m in good shape given her enthusiasm, but I noticed she has a ring on her marriage finger.
We head out and I turn the conversation into something more serious, talking about her family and her close friends. Getting her to open up created a sense of familiarity more quickly. It made it feel like we’ve known each other for longer than just a couple days. And, cha ching! it becomes clear to me she is single.
But before things took on a serious/negative tone, I shifted the atmosphere to something more playful, lightly teasing her and creating more laughter. This worked, but it was a little more difficult than usual, because a lot gets lost in language/cultural translation. My sense of humor is pretty dry, sarcastic, and subtle. I had to shift to being overt, goofy, lowest common denominator type jokes. I wasn’t nearly as funny as I normally can be, but she was still laughing so I think I did okay.
At the water I picked her up like I was gonna throw her in, which was a risky move. There’s a saying about not ****ting where you eat, and that applies to this girl. We could totally date and as long as it was somewhat on the DL, there would be no problem. But a poorly calculated advance could be disastrous on my part, so I had to be more conservative than usual. So as I picked her up I was like “What the **** am I doing?!” and she started panicking as if I was really gonna throw her in. I was hoping she would more playfully beg me to put her down, but she just freaked out, so I put her down immediately. It’s really hard to tell, but it seemed like when I put her down, she leaned into me just a bit.
Then we went and sat down in a romantic spot, talked for like an hour or so. Conversation went from being serious to silly and back again, but was consistently good. I made plans with her for Saturday afternoon and I’ll see her tomorrow for a short time as well. She seems to like me at least as a friend, cause she said lots of things suggesting that we’ll be hanging out consistently. For example, “You have to teach me to play guitar.”
The whole time I was using every excuse to touch her and see if she reciprocated, how she reacted, etc. I felt her cold hands and she didn’t pull away. I playfully pushed her and stuff, but it was just hard to tell if she likes me back. She didn’t ever reciprocate my touching, but she also walked/sat pretty close to me and her body language was really open. Also, she is very quiet and reserved, and said this herself (which I disputed, not wanting to reinforce her to be closed off).
I also tried to give a bit of a romantic spin to things, playing the question game. I asked her a little bit about what kinds of guys she likes, she asked me a couple questions about girls I like and stuff, but she seemed to be less flirty than I was. Again, hard to tell, cause I have to account for the fact that she is from another culture and also is shy.
At the end I walk her to her door, open my arms for a hug and she stares at me, bedazzled. I explain that this is what we do around her, and she gives me a hug.
I don’t really have any idea where I stand as of now, but I don’t really care. She seems like the type of girl that will want to take it slow either way, which is fine, I’ve got other things going on as well. She’s fun to hang out with, has a cute personality, and super attractive. She’s also really intelligent but I often lose sight of that cause her English is poor.
Cliffs: Went for a walk with a girl I really like; it was fun and she's cool. She enjoyed herself, but I dunno if she sees me as a friend or something more cause she is shy.
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