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Originally Posted by wsopmichael
Hey guys
i am a 18 year old student from london and i've been single for a while now. The girl im interested in lives close to me, i dont know her that well but she has real potential.
So i was texting her today then i asked her about a guy she told me she was SEEING, then she replied telling me he was only using her for sex.. This became a huge turn off for me because i thought she was a more conservative person and i found it really funny that she would have sex with someone she was only seeing.
Should i still try to make her my gf or should i just forget about her?
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Originally Posted by abcdefghijk
text her back "are you saying this to try to make me jealous and want you. i'm not falling for that crap."
worst case scenario--she doesn't like that and stops talking to you
best case--she becomes attracted to you
also, as for your question, that's up to you to figure out. does the benefit of wanting to be with her outweigh the cost of this turnoff?
lol no
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Originally Posted by onemustfall
I think the best thing you can do is expect women to be sexually active in advance. Don't paint them as holy virgins in your mind, that way you can't get bummed out when you find out she's been seeing some other guy recently. Everyone has a history in dating and stuff, and the older you get, the more likely it is that the girl your seeing has been with other guys, just get over it.
As for 'making her your girlfriend', you should try get some superficial random contact with her first. Take it slow, and approach her in a casual way at first
Maybe, but that she said what she said is concerning. What are her motives in saying that? What does that say about her? It might be meaningless, but it's something worth considering.
I wouldn't let this bother you and would pursue it further (what do you have to lose?), but I would be cautious. Also, if this would always bother you, then it likely wouldn't work out anyways.
The mindset of "make her my girlfriend" is bad. You don't have to do that, and it will lead to one-itis and sub-par actions on your part. Seek to casually date her and see where it goes from there. Keep your other options open.