hi

Random update. I had mentioned in the LC thread I thought I had lost my license but it turns out I just forgot it at girl B's apartment. I hooked up with her on friday night and was pretty s***faced so somehow it got lost in the shuffle I guess.

Anyway I just got back from picking it up and it felt so awkward. Like I wanted to get back here in time for the SL FF Draft LDO. So I basically said hey met her roommate said basically small talked for a bit, then said I had plans and had to jet.

I feel like I played this one bad but idk

it's not about luck.

Sort of a big difference, since you're Samuel L. Jackson in Changing Lanes.

"You know, booze isn't really your drug of choice anyway. You're addicted to chaos. For some of us, it's coke. For some of us, it's bourbon. But you? You got hooked on disaster."

first good post LKJ has made in like 4 weeks A+

Samuel L. Jackson makes everything better.

I texted M (Mila Kunis chick) when she is getting back in to town. She says she gets back on the 5th and asked who I was, meaning she didn't add my number when I texted everyone my new digits.

Me: It's GCG, your friend from xxx. I got a new number. How's [her hometown]?

M: Ah ya sweet. It's alright thanks

I really don't wanna give up on her cause she was so hot, but it doesn't seem like she's giving me anything at all to work with, and she doesn't seem interested. I'm thinking my best shot is to hope to run in to her some time and build a better connection then?

Yeah unfortunately the symptoms don't seem good from how you describe that.

Odds of running into her when she's back in town?

If she gives you that little response she isn't interested most likely

is there a way to open in a *gym?

this is one of those apartment gyms with 2 treadmills, 1 bike, a set of dumbbells, and one bowflex machine.

"If you came here for a workout I can help you with that..."

Wrane, I never tried this, but it's the most reasonable thing I've ever heard. If there's a girl you see there a lot and who wears headphones, go up to her one day and motion to her to take them off. Ask what she listens to. Say you noticed that she always seems to have so much energy and whatever she listens to must motivate her. You're looking for some good music to listen to at the gym to pump you up as well.

If that actually works and you get past the first 20 seconds, you should be well on your way to a full conversation on music tastes, workout routines, diet, health, etc.

Or, since it's a girl, you can probably be justified in just saying "You're doing it wrong."

That's a pretty good opener (she does wear headphones) but I don't know if I can pull off the 'you always seem to have so much energy'. Seems completely golden after that though as I can hold a music convo pretty well.

If the first one fails, I'll take you up on this one.

So there's a high likelyhood that I'll be meeting up with someone from POF pretty soonish. Wanted to run this by you guys for an opinion: she lives an hour away so the first date would either have to be at her town or at my town (ldo). As the guy, am I supposed to offer to go to her to meet (to make her feel more comfortable) or is it fair game for either one of us to travel?

i vote go to her.

Go to her. Not only does it make her feel more comfortable, but that also gets you off the hook regarding some of the planning duties. She should know some cool places around her area.

Do a little research ahead of time so that you aren't a complete blank slate. Got any friends in her area that can tell you the cooler places to go?

As the guy, maybe there is some expectation that you go to her. But there are a million other culturally prescribed behaviors for men and women that are stupid as well.

I have a very small sample size of 1 for each. The time I went to her town sucked - she led me around, I followed. It felt like she was the man and I was the girl. Another girl I met and brought to a party with my friends and then my place. I led her around like a puppy and she ate it up. Going to her area sets up a bad frame, having her come to your home turf is much to your advantage, imo.

Your best bet is to PM makin maneys, the resident pof expert. See what he says.

I was planning on doing some rough research to see what restaurants/acivities are there so I could suggest something and she could go "oh wow, how did you know? you're so awesome aao".

Surely it could work in my favour as she'd have some kind of pressure to please me?

I have no experience online dating, but I strongly agree with GCG. Take the opportunity to take charge and show her a good time. You get to demonstrate how fun being part of your world is, plus you can close much easier when you can invite her to her place instead of the other way around. I don't think this is a close decision at all.

Direct quote I had from a girl I took out on a first date from POF ( though this applies to all first dates imo )

" Wow I've never had a guy take charge and know what he was doing before. ( as she smiles ) "

Being a man and taking charge as opposed to a waffling "well where do you want to go?" type of guy is what the majority of women want. Of course you should not go overboard, and by listening to her likes and dislikes you can make better decisions when you decide what to do.

What's the optimal number of wingmen for your 21st birthday party?

Not sure how beneficial it'd be to bring a lady [of interest] on such occasion. Multiple girls seems out of the question, but I could be wrong.

Oh, and your place far outweighs hers imo also.

Only downside is she'll know where you live when she's crazy.

it only takes one man to talk to a lady.

bitches be drunkenly calling me at 4am to wake me up yo.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ic7KH1PpbMY

first mega party at the frat i live in this coming sunday (expecting a record 4-6 people, up 50% from last year).

pictures and reports to come.

heres to senior year, holla!