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Originally Posted by Flyingbanana
Okay, I'm actually stuck for what to do to progress a relationship. This girl that I liked all of last year had arranged to split up with her long term boyfriend last summer, but I think she didn't completely manage it, I'm not entirely sure about that so do I need to ask her about that before I try anything?
I've known her some time now, so I may be in the friend zone, but I think she knows I like her, haven't explicitly told her that though but she may be giving me a few signals that she may be interested, although I could be exaggerating them in my head. Latest example is a halloween house party where I was sitting in a corner chatting to a friend and then she came and sat next to me, when the friend wandered off we chatted for at least half an hour mostly discussing other peoples relationships and gossip about mutual friends, but with some flirting too until everyone left and I walked my housemate home.
Is my play just to lay it out there one night after we've both had a few drinks and see her reaction or is there a better way?
Ok well to give you a clear idea on what to do some questions must be answered. 1) Does she ever talked about her bf/ex bf. 2) Did she hang out with him on halloween or go to the parties with him. If the answer to both of those questions is "no" then chances are 85% that she does not have a bf. I think her coming over and chatting with you until you leave is definitely a sign of liking you. I think the whole asking while drinking this depends on you and her. Is she the type that likes for someone to come out and say "Look I like you, your amazing, etc, date me"? If so then no go on the drinking thing, just tell her when you guys are flirting one day. But if she is the type that well it really doesn't matter then yes go for the drinking thing. Make sure you have had only a half a drink or so. You want to come off sincer and genuine, because coming off sincer and genuine is the key to making it a success. Also make sure she is not plastered, you want to make sure she remembers lol. After the stage is set, make your move. Talk to her and wait for the moment. Now the moment...well you know after I explain it. When you start flirting and you get her to laugh and she pauses to take a breathe look at her straight in the eyes and then give her a big smile, and then boooom say your thing. If all goes well you will end the night making out and with the girl you want.
Also add some smooth remarks, you know. This is a crappy example but you will get the picture.
Her: I think I am going to go on a diet
You: Uhhhh why?
Her: I am getting fat
You: *laugh* are you serious? You are to perfect to be going on a diet
A thing to remember is girls like witty, funny, smooth, and nice guys. So it seems like you got the smooth, funny, and nice down. You just need the witty.