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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun
just remember, girls love to be ignored.
so after coffee, wait til her next text/phonecall after finals, and when she suggests you do something lame, you suggest how about dinner instead?
then shes all like zomgzzzzz im going to dinner with lkj, hes such a grinder!
this is truly terrible advice. the whole awkward "let's do dinner instead" thing has the potential to crucify you straight into the friend zone, especially since you are getting that vibe already. The "ask her out to dinner formally" move is awful in most situations, but especially this one.
You need to frame whatever you are doing casually. Any type of overt move to date, since you are getting the LJBF (let's just be friends) vibe already, is going to be completely stonewalled by her 75 % of the time. (You'll get lucky sometimes).
You need to initiate something on a casual basis and during that interaction build attraction. Escalate physical contact. Touching her lower back leading her through a door, touching her on the shoulder or arm while having conversation, etc. Take it from there. Obviously eventually try to initiate something more physical than that when the time comes for it. Since you guys are friends already and hang out a lot, getting her to that point shouldn't be difficult... it's just breaking through the LJBF wall.
What can be helpful is initiate some sort of playful/friendly contact... low level cuddling or something. Let her get comfortable and enjoying it. If you make a move and she LJBFs you, then freeze out. Cut all contact, move to the other side of the couch without saying a word. When she asks you why you went away, respond that you are just honoring her wishes (don't use those words haha). She's going to come over to you very often, because she was enjoying the contact before. Girls have this LJBF instinct for some reason, and I'll never understand it.