I see your point -- this, though:
is good news for IM.

I'm answering the wrong question, though. He asked us to rate his text game.

This is fine if it's a girl you know moderately well and see all the time and you're trying to hook up with. You're building her comfort and you're making things a little flirty.

If you met this girl recently or if you don't see her/talk to her that frequently, you should be trying to close by talking to her about when you'll see each other next, whether that's making a "date" or just telling her to see you at a party or something.

i agree with everything in this post. i think that text convo would have been fine had he turned it into something substantive.

except make it a firm time to do something. "see you at a party sometime" won't turn into anything.

Right. We're saying the same thing (I think). "See you at XYZ's party on Friday" is fine imo.

would be wayyyy too aggressive/desperate.

true he should just keep sending her fluffy texts constantly and never see her IRL

will probably work out

and if you cant work your way into that without looking desperate... uhh...

There isn't really any more info than what I gave. Beyond making eye contact during class pretty much everyday in class, we had spoken 3 or 4 times early in the semester just about stuff each other had said during the class or whatever, or a simple 'hi' if we run in to each other on campus, which is pretty rare. Something that I should probably mention is that 1) it's a really small class, and we sit on opposite sides of the room, but the tables are U-shaped, so we're kind of facing each other, and 2) of the 10-12 people in the class, there were myself and one other guy, and he rarely showed up, so despite not really ever talking to her much, she definitely knows who I am and I think being the only guy in a class has to be advantageous if she doesn't think I'm gay.

i think he sees her irl. why go from talking about farms to asking her out when he can do it in person. he stayed on topic and she seemed to not really care what she was saying, she was into it.

just add her on facebook. i think a lot of people get the urge to do exactly the slip the girl your number move, but it prob isnt the best way. adding her on facebook would be better. or talking to her after class.

Ah, the thread is still going... I thought the world was saved 2 days ago... guess I was wrong. Imma help ya save it in a bit!

I should have included this in the OP but this girl isn't someone I just ran into at a party or something. We have a ton of mutual friends and I run into her like 4 days a week at the gym. I haven't known her personally for more than a month probably but I see her all the time.

Since I'm semi-interested and hit and quit isn't an option (because she's friends with tons of my friends) I'm taking the "guy I'm sort of friends with but we flirt all the freaking time" line. Basically if I decide to ask her out later I want to be able to and if not then I'll friend zone myself. So for this specific conversation pushing for a time to hang out was not at the top of the list.

Karok, could you expand a little more on the "it feels forced" comment? I understand what you're saying but could you say which parts?

I'm like 99% sure this girl is interested but I guess I'm asking for commentary in more of a macro sense.

il martilo, im with wyman on this one. i think that is a pretty standard flirty text convo, i could imagine her having a constant smile on her face and waiting for each text. i agree that getting away from the fluff would have been nice, once you got talking about pinky swears and air fives it seemed like you both were texting for the sake of texting, which i guess can be OK from your perspective (in that she was willing to do this with you). imo your biggest mistake was not taking the naughty bait she gave you to get the convo turned a little more sexual, even if only light in nature.

I still just don't like the randomly give it to her approach. I mean if she thinks you're cute or w/e it'll work but I think talking to her after the exam, trying to make a decent conversation, and then going for the number kill is infinitely better/less weird if she's not interested.

yeah, I saw her on campus today and just straight up asked her to hang out and got her number. Stinks that we have exams coming up this next week, and then christmas break, but whatever.

well thats a good sign still

kinda wanna hear the full story.
also, dont text her today.

RE: my evaluation of the text game. This is a post I made on EDF a couple days ago:

This is why I try to only deal in meta-game. I approach a girl and say, "Now I will push and pull you while trying to increase your perception of my social value by simultaneously interacting with other attractive women present in the room. I'll also deliver several backhanded compliments in an effort to escalate my perceived status, but at the same time I will begin to make you feel warm and fuzzy and associate positive thoughts with my image. Prepare to be wooed." They usually run away at that point.

yea i'm in a similar situation. girl is at least a little interested, we've flirted a lot and are pretty good friends, we see each other once a day at the cafeteria, struggling to decide what to do to escalate it or drop it

also, fwiw, i'm joining the dance club on campus next semester to meet girls and when i mentioned i'm joining it, she said she's going to join it and would love to dance with me.

so any advice for specific girl/how to pick up chicks at college dance club

[] youre straight

lol no, i'm str8. i'm thinking its a great way to meet and impress chicks. i'm at least gonna try it out.

no, youre not. you like maroon 5 and are joining dance club.

[]wubbie412 would be your friend

Helpful addition to the thread.

FWIW I do salsa lessons and it is a GREAT way to meet girls if you know what you're doing.

I cant comment if you don't know what you're doing.

Helpful addition to the thread.

whats wrong with a dance club?

a.) chicks like a guy that can dance
b.) chicks will be in the dance club also
c.) good exercise
d.) some people like dancing


in my experience guys who dont like to dance have self confidence issues, further motioned by the fact that you have to question his sexuality in an effort to make yourself feel better

i'm gonna learn by dancing i guess. i don't want to suck and embarrass myself though.

agreed.

pretty sure im the last person who thinks calling a person gay is an insult.