Since this thread is in need of a bump...

I have Beer Olympics tomorrow. I'm on Team White vs Blue/Black/Red. Anything to wear that tops #WhiteLivesMatter written on a white vneck?

Lol gonna be tough to top that.

Savage

#WhiteTeamsMatter imo

but if you're hanging out with your black friends I think white lives matter would prob be funnier

They got hit by a car they're dead

No trolling please. Sorry for the length. Been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half. I'm 30, she's 28. I thought she was the one. About a month ago she started complaining that I was too focused on hobbies like gambling/friends/drinking and that she wasn't feeling loved enough. I didn't think much of it. A typical week is me hanging out with her 1-2 nights during the week, doing a date night Friday, brunch Saturday, and me hanging with friends either Saturday/Sunday along with her. Sometimes I forego the friends and hang most of the weekend with her.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I had planned a trip to visit a friend in another city. Since taking the trip I've hung out with her some nights and friends other nights. The weekend after I got back I ended up getting box seats for free to a NFL game and went. She texted me pissed during the game that I valued football over hanging out with her since I didn't see her the weekend before. This weekend I did a date night with her Friday, took her to a wine class Saturday, and brunch today. After brunch we separated and I dropped by to see friends for the 2nd half of the 4 PM games. At which point I started getting texts from her freaking out that I went to a bar with younger girls (her friend was there and texted her supposedly that she saw me) and the fact that I'm not taking this relationship seriously because I have to watch football instead of spending a full weekend with her.

She claims that now that I'm 30 I shouldn't be going to bars with young drunk girls and I should be putting more of an effort to being mature and spending time with a girl who I would want to marry. I personally have a good friend that I was hanging with today, who cheats on his girlfriend so she hates that I hang with him.

I think she's being crazy and believe everyone is going to side with me but I'm looking for a line check. Am I possibly being immature and there should be a transition away from this lifestyle? I personally don't think if I skip out for a few hours to meet friends (leaving her alone) I should be getting punished.

Is this situation a serious one or typical couples 101?

Lots of girls will want you to be with them as much as possible. You also aren't hanging with her all that much relative to many relationships.

Regardless, her having trust issues is a much bigger deal, and that needs to be addressed immediately.

Well, for a functioning relationship interests need to be aligned that doesn't seem to be the case here.

Secondly, I think you are handling it very badly. You either suck at communicating or reading people. "I didn't think much of it" is so ridiculously rude.

It won't work out for you two based upon your post. Has not a whole lot to do with her or you being crazy/immature/etc. but more with the fact that she is looking for someone a bit more settled down.

I know this sounds cliche but continue to do what you want to do. If you hang out with her more because you feel guilty she will lose respect for you.

It sounds like she wants to tie down a man NOW...it's ok if you don't want to be that guy. If you do decide to spend more time with her, make sure it's because that is what you want and it's not just to appease her.

Tinder is good when you start and gets worse gradually, I think because they initially flood your picture onto everyone else in the area, then take the people that swiped right for you and put them near the top of your queue. I'm pretty sure this is the case because every time I travel I immediately get a burst of matches, whereas in my hometown the matches come at a steady rate.

Unless you want to get married to her soon this relationship is basically over. She is directly/somewhat indirectly telling you she is thinking about and looking for someone to get married with w/o demanding you marry her. Her getting upset with you for being immature and hanging out with your friends is just her expressing her frustration with the fact your aren't progressing your relationship with her in that direction. None of this makes her crazy, it just makes her a girl that is getting older and is feeling the pressure to get married coming on strong.

You have to decide what you want in life. Do you want to get married anytime soon? If so, do you want to get married to her? Do you want to be single for awhile and have fun and date around(bc it seems like that's the life you're living the majority of the time even if you aren't dating around)?

There's nothing wrong with any of those paths but you have to pick one and get on it with some conviction. If you don't progress this relationship you're currently in towards marriage this girl is gonna get tired of it, emotionally detach from the relationship, and cheat/break up with you.

The best thing you can do is start asking yourself how you feel about her, marriage, relationships, being single, etc... Then sit down and have an honest conversation with her about how you feel, and ask her how she feels about not only what you've said but also what's going on in her mind. It sounds like you guys don't really communicate much about this stuff from your post, if that doesn't change, no relationship you have will every go well overall. You won't ever be able to figure out how to meet each others needs or if you even really want to and are on the same page to begin with until it's too late and lots of resentment has built up.

The best thing you can do is learn how to communicate honestly about what you want in any relationship, whether that be a one night stand, friends with benefits, dating around several girls, or a long term monogamous one that you see progressing towards marriage. As a man, you're expected to be the one that takes that lead. And anything other than doing so is just wasting both of your time dancing around trying to get what you both want without actually being direct about it and making it work.

Find a girl who lets you do your thang on your own at times. Unless you want to change your lifestyle and spend 100% of your free time with her, this isn't going to work.

Huge drinking day tomorrow night. Anyone got plans? Not sure if I will get too yucky. Last few years I could barely eat from the hangover and couldnt really enjoy drinking during thanksgiving get together.

May try to just invite any tinder match out to grab drinks or this girl I met at Beer Olympics who was trying super hard to catch a D. She was literally laying on every guy and did the stereotypical hold eye contact and smile with me. She added me on FB late Saturday night and I didn't accept yet but inboxed my number Monday night. Didn't really pursue her in person because I have a reputation for pulling in the group so I try to not look thirsty and I'm genuinely happy to get invites to stuff so I don't want guys to think I'm just there to **** girls all the time. I Thought she was cute enough to be in public with but kind of plain looking. Then see her fb that she was a promo model and has a bunch of cocktail dress pics so I'm clearly easily manipulated and my attraction increased. I'll post pics when I'm off work and once it's known whether she ignores the phone number or if she texts.

Also, may as well make that night a mini TR. A girl I made out with last year who has a bf purposely came up to me to say goodbye when I was alone. Hard to describe but she went in for the kiss. Her bf was somewhere in the house so I just like kissed her cheek and did an ass grab. I know they've both cheated on each other a ton but still was not worth the risk vs reward.

Definitely going out tomorrow. Still weighing options, but it's usually quite the **** show.

This. I think one of the most important things for relationships is that both people have their own lives. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you spending several days a week with her and wanting to spend some with your friends as well. Does she not have friends that she spends time with?

I think if you inbox someone on FB that you're not friends with the message goes into her "other" inbox so she might never see it.

Even if she sent a friend request?

That's my understanding as well unless you have mutual friends, which we do. No text yet so she was probably just adding ppl from the event page to be friends with. Although my number and nothing else isn't GTO. I didn't realize day before thanksgiving was coming up prob should have said like "hey you should come out this Wednesday night with us [number]". But still feel fine with it since it's such an insignificant interaction and attraction

Really good listen, for anyone who's interested or who haven't yet

Not that I should be saying lifting advice since I haven't made much progress in the last 2yrs, but Lefort was the first time I ever heard about lifting for a burn in that specific muscle and focusing your thoughts to that muscle during the workout to prevent your body from easing the workload. Example he uses is flat barbell bench for chest not being that optimal. He lifts purely for aesthetics what most of us want but judge results by increasing weight and not looking that much different in a tshirt which is what most ppl really want

The girl from the party never text. There's no read or not read notification in the FB web browser.

But I did just make a date for tonight off of bumble. Pretty attractive blonde girl. Found out in the convo she just moved here a couple months ago, which I swear is such a key to pulling most hot girls. The ones born and raised in one city have way too defined of a social network and every guy from middle school and on jacking off to her photos. Will post convo and profile photos before I leave. Not even home from work yet and still need to lift+eat+shave+iron clothes in the next 3hrs and surgically handle this pimple I have going on.

hair in first pic is obnoxious. looks good in second

Sent the confirmation text. 10minutes and no response yet. Hereeee comes the flake.