But there's no risk of actually having to change your avatar. DUCY?

Just be glad we've all made those LOLbad mistakes in the past and (at least theoretically) don't do them anymore.

like when BG asked me when i was hammered why i liked her and i replied "because you are blonde and thin"

Of all the things I've blown myself out of the water with, I don't think drunken emo stuff ever came into play.

So, I don't totally identify with this whole "really bad drunk text" stuff.

(Oh wait, I just thought of a couple of bad instances of emo...but they were sober. That's even worse. Multiple years ago, I assure you.)

I go drunken friendly/clingy and send lots of "hey come to X" texts at like 1:30am or whatever, which is pretty bad but I think just annoying. The sober "why don't you like me!!!!!" stuff is my preferred method of crashing and burning.

Don't worry, I told a girl I was dating I loved her on accident (she didn't speak English FWIW and at the time I didn't speak her language all that well). She said a phrase, which I thought meant "I like you a lot" but it apparently means "I love you." Naturally I reciprocated at the time. I only found out later when I told one of my friends and he was like "wow I didn't know you guys were nearly that serious".

Whoops.

And no emo stuff here since I got over my first breakup. FWIW that took 2+ years.

tbh im just getting ready to declare myself 100% over my last break up very soon and it's nearly been a year (and it was a 2 year relationship)

although i hit the 97% over it hurdle a long time ago... that last 3% sticks around for a while. i think it has more to do with a bruised ego than any issues with that specific girl, but still it counts imo.

Also just so you guys are ready there is a strong possibility of another drunken Karant tomorrow night about B.

I swore on my life that I'd go to a semi-friend's 21st birthday, and naturally B will be there since she's ****ing friends with all my friends.

This could get messy.

I dated the girl for 3 months AND I broke up with her. It still baffles my mind how it took that long.

Or maybe it has to do with counting percentage points

I can certainly remember my last real girlfriend trying to test the "ILY" waters. We had been exclusive for like 7 months at this point, togetherish for almost a year after a long period of LDRishness. She asked me at one point if I had ever been in love, to which I said no and saw her the look on her face go sour. then she asked if I had ever said ILY to a girlfriend, whether I had meant it or not, to which I lied no, but that wasn't really the point, since I'm way smarter than she is; I could clearly see that she was trying to open the door for me to say it first so that she could say it back, so I got up and went to Subway.

I broke up with her not long after, maybe 3 weeks- 1 month. She called me drunk a few nights later wanting me to go bang her, and afterwards she asked me if I remembered "that time about a month ago when we were talking about being in love." "You mean the time YOU were talking about being in love, which is coincidentally the same time that I was avoiding the question by eating a sandwich? Yes, I do. I didn't want you to feel embarrassed at how one-sided our relationship was for the last 6 weeks of it." She told me that she loved me that night. I answered with "Oh, I better go" and stopped at subway on the way home.

loolllllll TBE a+

lolol I love TBE TR's. Maybe I just love this one tho cause I'm drunk.

George appreciates you pulling the old switcheroo on his behalf.

lol that was good TBE. i think the first time i said it my gf said it first while getting up and leaving in the morning. i didn't know how to respond and was dead tired so i just laid back down.

couple days later she stayed back over for the weekend and that's when i realized how intense the sex would be if you say it during it. we had like movie-esque sex where we made what people would call slow passionate love.

as soon as we had our first real argument/fight i went back to just banging her as i would any other girl. there were times where i'd be caught up in the moment and felt like i wanted to marry the girl but there were also times i'd be thinking of other girls in my head while doing it. i think this all comes up with being young and dumb though.

so, looking for advice on a situation, basically a "whats your play" with general/distant acquaintances.

i met this girl during my orientation and the two of us talked a great deal when we were both waiting for something towards the end of the last day, and we exchanged facebooks and what not as would be standard. i kept in light contact with her throughout the past 2 years, but nothing outside of exchanging a few funny facebook comments now and then. (as an aside, since beginning college, every time we walked past each other on campus she would notice me and wave and vice versa, even just this past year.) so this girl is spending the summer at school here, and while i wont be, i will visit on occasion and feel that this is a premium opportunity to (re?)connect. this situation brings up a general question, and then some residual questions.

1) is sending some facebook chat messages a standard and reasonable way to reinitialize contact? i have been advised that either that or a fb wall post is the way to go, and a fb message is not the way to go, which i think i agree with.

1b) this is a more general question, but related to this situation too. this girl lists her AIM sn in her facebook profile information. is it 100% off limits to cold IM her on that name? i've added the sn and i see that she is almost always on AIM, but almost never on facebook chat.

2) this too is a general question. i've noticed over time that this girl goes through "friend purges" on facebook from time to time, probably from adding a bunch of randos either throughout school or from before it started. i have not been defriended, though. is this any sort of indication that i'd have a significantly "better than random" position to approach from? should knowing this information change my approach in some way?

You can send her a msg on facebook, but honestly if you see her around campus often enough it'd be better to stop and talk to her a couple times and then eventually suggest you hang out together sometime.

everyone over thinks things. look at it in her point of view. if she sent you a facebook message or went up to you in person would it really matter? nope, you'd be happy either way.

also look at it as to why girls hook up with guys they normally weren't interested in. its the same reason you hookedup with a girl at a party you weren't interested in. they came up to you and initiated it.

basically what i'm saying is she's probably not writing about you in her diary but that doesn't mean she won't hookup with you if you initiate it. if you get turned down don't take it as "damn she probably thinks i'm weird for randomly facebooking her" because that has very little to do with it.

absolutely agree with this

GG's best post ever.

solid mackin the fly honeys advice. thanks all

@goofy the only thing is that those runnings-into are rather/somewhat infrequent and in no way a reliable way to re-initiate contact. i do see how thats preferable but especially with our semester ending a few days ago means that it's not really an option :[

btw if you guys want a new thread title feel free to throw out ideas

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