yeah G&B , go for another one as that project seems pretty lost.

my situation; i got her home from school like i said i would, played her an episode of Seinfeld (was the excuse to get her home, she said she'd never seen it), didnt realize it was the "The Virgin" episode until like 10 mins in and thought oh well lols.

ended up making up heaviely right after, only for her to all of a sudden become really awkward and leave in high haste and i was like wtf. same night found out she had texted some guy she appearently was seeing telling him it was over. i think im in the green now.

btw did not PM Rekrul as i got the good news just before i was about to - thx for the pointer though, might still happend if more things seem off

- this thread is pretty solid, will try to contribute more when i have the time~gj guys

sup guys.

thought i would finally sort my situation out,

shes my flatmate and baically i want to ask her out, we hit it off from the moment i meant her in september, we stayed up alot and just talked about relationships she doesnt go to town without me, she never stop laffing at my stupid jokes.etc and there has been times were we have nearly kissed/i told her i like her, for example we all went to town the other week big night out and my fellow room mate wanted to go early but i wanted to stay out, me and her stayed out for like 4 hours more just walking around town talking, i never built the courage up to kiss her, then a few nights ago she invited just me to a flat party held by a guy she knws from home, well i was a bit drunk chatting aload of **** about woman and how i hate the hot ones that complain about putting on half a pound when they looks hot, and i have said this to here alot(my ****way to say your hot). blah blah, she knws i have slept with a few rotters since september, and the convo get to the point were she is saying you should try to get hotter woman(am sure she was on about herself because she said they wont hurt you i promise. in the past i said i have never tired to date girls like her because there 2 gd. she was going on like you shud go for it! so i kinda pussy out going for it there and then. then we go into town, and go to a club were i see a girl i have been talking to so i go over and leave her talking to her friend from home, well i talk to this girl for like 30 mins. i turn around and my flatmate has gone, am like WTF. i find out the next day she slept with him!!! however i found out becoz she told the other girl in my flat this but told her not to tell me, (i wa listening). i have since spoke to her about it and she kinda likes to aviod the subject.

sorry for spelling.

so whats my play?

Warning: This advice may suck.

I think you just need to man up and ask her out (if you want to). I think she likes you and is probably going through all kinds of girl drama thinking about you.

"i turn around and my flatmate has gone, am like WTF. i find out the next day she slept with him!!! however i found out becoz she told the other girl in my flat this but told her not to tell me, (i wa listening)."
You should stop bringing this up. It feels really jealous/possessive, and you haven't asked her out yet. She's not your girlfriend.

I'm sure you've already thought bout it but definately be wary of fatc that u are going to be both flatmates and going out. it'll will most definately place some extra strain on both relationships. consider that fact u are living together is like taking a step that most ppl take years into a relationship so jst be a bit careful. also jst be a bit wary/talk to ya other flatmate about it, keep them in the loop becuase it might affect rent payments (you might pay for her one month or wateva). but defs go ahead with said advances above just dont take this co-existence lightly

I think the following is really good advice:
If she likes you, ask her out.
If she doesn't like you, move on.
If you don't know whether or not she likes you, then it gets more complicated.

thanks guys, this next part is weird i have never really asked a girl out i.e for a propa date, i have always been drunk in town. how would i go about it.

do i just knock on her door and say fancy doing something tonight, how do i make sure she knows were going for a date?

i would say its 3 tbh.

hey guys lets get a discussion going on guys who get laid all the time ( isnt this what the majority of us want?)

handling little micro issues of relationships, dating etc. just seem completely banal to me. I mean yes, if you want to work with what you have currently then its relevant to have solid text/logistical game to get better results. But isn't the reason girls flake and feel uncomfortable in the first place because of our mediocre value? ex. Mr. Popular asks a girl who has a BF out for a good time and she will go a hell of a lot easier then with Mr. Mediocre. And the funny thing is that Mr. Mediocre will try and fail to incorporate an attitude of "I don't care" while Mr. Popular will naturally feel like its no big deal if the girl comes or not.

it just seems that for guys who get laid constantly, they don't deal with these issues. to the extent that we do.

well am sorry that we arnt all jocks, its easy to get laid but when it comes to asking a girl out that you like then its a problem. i didnt have the cool school were everyone wa a jock and wasnt arsed about girls, guess what i had to be there friends and it sucked. uni has changed this tho so i cant complain, but i have never asked a girl out on a date without me actually knowing she likes me,

i mean you were hanging out with this chick since september? one of those times you couldnt have been like "lets go get dinner tonight?" or something of that sort?

its weird becoz i have but then people in the flat end up coming along.

i literally have no idea what you just said. 2+2 has a spellcheck wtf.

and you don't seem to quite grasp my point. You say you haven't asked a girl out beforehand unless you knew she liked you. Fine. But if you worked to improve yourself do you think this would go away? Instead of being told to pretend to not care you actually wouldn't care is my point. If you improved yourself you would have options and wouldn't fixate.

the point that people keep missing is that if its hard to ask out a girl you like, you are doing it wrong. Its exactly the same as getting laid. If you treat the two the same, they are just as easy.

am baked and poor typer sorry

yer i get it knw. its just there whole jock geek problem. and that i cant treat them different because you have feeling for the girl you like, but non about the girl you want to **** bar sexual.

cant see how thats possible.
you: wanna grab dinner and go see an overpriced movie on friday (im guessing you are in europe where seeing movies were soooooo expensive wtf is up with that)
her: o yeaaa yDONKy, then you can teach me how to play 8 game like a champ.
you: sounds like a plan (except with cool slang like in your previous posts)

Learn to ****ing write.

lol, am in cardiff uk.

only asked if she wants to grap a movie tbh, am gona try the dinner one on thursday. what you think to this?

chris: fancy going to grab a chinese havent ate all day.

lol @ "grab a chinese" best phrase ever. time to incoporate it.

after some facebook stalking, it appears her bf does go to the same school as us and also they went to highschool together.

ihaveazeropercentchance,girlwasjustmessingwithme.g if

how i see it:
if she didnt have a bf, something obv woulda happened. in moments of weakness she appears interested, for reasons unknown to me. she seems interested in a friendship that doesnt require hanging out, hence her texting me, but her reluctance to do anything else.

however, i am a senior. and everyone has followed this story. so i will just straight up ask her the truth. if she woulda been interested if she wasnt with her bf. gonna have to be in a few weeks though when class is over, cause im not sitting next to her in class after asking her ya knowwww.

General rule: carry over relationships from high school never, ever work. If they do work, they end in divorce. Period. This applies to nearly 99.9999 % of relationships. I'm too inebriated to respond to any other posts in this thread at the moment.

n + 1

been there, done that. not worth the time - it won't last

This is so true.

guys w/ low self-esteem fixate too much. They gather what they have and try to present it to a girl in a best way, so they score as much of 'like you' points as possible.

People, I say people, cuz this applies to girls and guys ..will often lie about themselves. Who they are, what they do...
It's not unusual to see a guy, whom you know, talk to girl saying he's working out, got plenty of sports to do, and is up for any action. Even tho' you know his dumbbell are laying underneath his bed all year untouched. His only sport is chatting over internet and he barely goes out when asked to.
If the girl likes him for that, he may actually start turning all his lies into truths, not to feel stupid should she find out he lied in the first place.

Improving yourself, or being yourself and thinking of yourself in high regard is the key to success. More confidence you have, more easy going you will be. You will approach a lot of girls, or let 'em approach you and won't feel stuck should you talk to them.

Be TAG, honest, presenting your good value hands, don't lie.

And as for girls not liking you, there's too many fish in the sea to shed a tear for a signle one. Some are worth it, but that's after you had a long long relationship and that's completely different topic.

Wow, this thread is 5 star again... thanks, guys.




Btw, I like yDONKYy's style of writing...

While I agree in a way I also disagree. I would like to see numbers on how many of those relationships actually last and if they do how many end in divorce. Something that is true that in all the advice we give in this thread is not for certain. There is no guaranteed way to get a woman or to get laid. Yes, many ways "work" and will get you the end result, but that doesn't mean its guaranteed. And the same goes with the high school to college relationships. Yes, some may not work out, but many do. I for one know of 3 different couples that are still together and even some that are older than myself that have gotten married and live happily.

Thus the 99.999 %. Sample size/variance LDO :-P.