update from #4054 on pg 271

Was chatting with the girl who works the airport with me,catching up, discussing each others weekends and NCAA brackets (girls that make brackets=awesome, hot girls that make brackets= omg!). I made the asking out part fairly natural and threw it into the conversation after we asked each other work schedules for the week. This is a fairly accurate transcript

"We should get dinner sometime"

"Yeah..um, the only thing is i'm kind of seeing someone right now(was not told or given any hint about until this point) . I mean it's not that serious and we could still do something.."

"I don't want to make things complicated. I just dig talking to you and thought it could be fun"

"I'm going away though.." (moving to the UK indefinately on May.1st, which I found out while we talked about travelling going for coffee the other day)

"You going away has absolutely no impact on whether I want to spend time together away from work"

"Yeah........ i mean, we could still do something.."

"Listen Girl X, if you're seeing somebody and it's going to be weird for you then it's probably not a good idea. Just thought it was worth asking"

Talk for another minute about music tastes because she does some promo work for a local radio station, because I didn't want to leave right away and leave on a poor note.

She walks by my counter later and smiles as she walks by as she always does.

So guys, if you had one month with a girl you're very attracted to and are basically starting from scratch, WWYD? Is this the right line in this case? I def didn't want to look needy and negoiate a date when she wasn't completely into it.

What does it mean when..

You bump into a girl 2 years after university at a party through mutual randoms, give her 10 minutes of chitchat, then ignore her for your date mostly. Then you post on her facebook wall "you and the girl you were with looked lovely last night, nice bumpin." (she was with a girl), then she immediately deletes your wall post and sends you a long enthusiastic email asking about your life?

She thinks that your date might see the post and get suspicious.

Was party date your g/f? If not, all systems are go for this chick.

mehhhhhhhhhh. this is similar to the whole "let's go out" as opposed to "do you want to go out?" thing.

Just because you don't care that she's going away doesn't mean that she doesn't either, and i think that's probably the biggest deal. based on what you've said, she seems at least somewhat in to you, so i prob wouldn't really give up on it. How long is she in the UK? you could def keep in touch over the internet or w/e while she's gone.

what are the chances that you saying that you don't care about her going away gives off an "I like you but would be satisfied with just banging you until you're gone" type of vibe?

man even long after the fact when you are 99.999999 % over it, ex-girlfriend dreams are such a bad beat

FYP

i used to dream of ex gf's all the time. lately i dream about cats jumping around all over the place for some reason.

lol I slept 90 minutes last night cause I had a huge assignment due

after I got home from school rather than immediately going to sleep I walked down to a bar and had a few beers with lunch

then I was walking home in one of those really weird sleep deprived trances and a little tipsy on top of it and i saw a cat

i talked to it im pretty sure. i think it understood me. anyone who saw me must have thought i was ****ing insane.

cool story bro i know

If I didn't semi-know your personality, it would be...



But since I can picture it,



btw is the inline photos rule site wide? Or do 4L mods just have a stick up their asses?

if any of the ppl in the SL tourney on sunday remember me leaving early to go hangout with that 16yr old here's small TR.

i ended up going to the river for like 2hours with her then back to her house. we made out and i fingered her while her mom was walking in and out of the room. i felt like i was in highschool again lol. i started to initiate more cuz i wanted a BJ and sex was near impossible but i decided to give up since it'd be a lot of work to not get caught.

i'm just putting in the work now to have a solid booty call hopefully for years but she's definitely going to get a bf down the line and i'm sure i'll be cut out of the picture completely as soon as she hits her prime

OHHH and i did end up getting carls jr but waited until after we hungout. i got two of those bacon cheese things and a medium coke. although the mediums are big it's still probably optimal to get large considering it's only like 20 cents more. even more of a misplay when i got like 70 cents back in change and i always give away or throw away my change

OHHH +2 and i went to some kickback later that night. my brother was driving and we dropped off a friend. the door was still open and i went to grab it right as my brother whipped his truck around. i ended up falling out of the truck and my back is pretty scrapped up. i was told i passed out on the toilet when i got home.

LOOL how old are you?

iirc 19

The fact that you included this in the TR makes me happy. That's what I thought of after I read the "for those of you in the SL tournament...." line.

Also, still undecided on the whole 16 yr old situation.

confirmed

16 is fine for a 19 yr old. 1/2 your age + 7 is the golden rule.

Little non-update on my situation. The cheerleader girl who hurt her ankle went out for drinks with a small group of us last night. We chatted quite a bit but there was no real vibe or connection so I didn't even pursue anything. I think I did the opposite in fact and tried to set her up with my housemate with a bet.

She's taken the bet that by the end of semester she has to lay on his bed in bra and panties and surprise him as he comes into his room. In return another one of my housemates has to go across the street completely naked to the newly single girl who went to school with cheerleader girl and ring the doorbell and get her to answer the door.

B "update" -- TL/DR

Cliffs first.

I've known the girl for ~2.5 years. We've never been "friends" just had a class together a LONG time ago and had always been acquaintances that got along well. I never pursued it because I was seeing someone shortly after we met, then I went abroad for a year, then she went abroad after I got back and now here we are.

End of Feb-- she gets my number from a mutual friend and texts me to come to a bar I was already at. I figure out it was her, we talk a lot that night, goes fine.

~March 1st-- we're supposed to grab coffee before break. She cancels on me about an hour before we meet to study (which I take to be legit b/c I knew she had a long going on).

~Mar 14-- I don't talk to her over my entire break while in Europe. The day I get back she texts me how it went and we have a good, short talk. I call her the following day to ask her out on Weds, she doesn't pick up and I leave an awful message. She calls me back that night and we go out on St. Pat's day.

St. Pat's day date goes great IMO. Physical contact is limited per the setting but the convo was excellent.

I call her last Friday and left a message if she's up for doing a local thing Sat afternoon. She leaves me a message saying it sounds like fun but can't because her family was coming into town to visit.

I haven't talked to her beyond a "hi how's it going" in passing since then. I'm totally booked until the weekend so my current plan is to wait for her to talk to me at some point this week.

Is this the right line or should I continue to take the initiative here? I'm just worried about becoming the chaser and her not having to do anything.
EDIT-- So far I've initiated probably 60% of the contact between us. The only reason I'm having difficulty here is I'm used to dating girls that are contacting me all the time, not the other way. As for this girl, it's just not her personality. Like I said I want to avoid being the one constantly initiating with her.

Thanks in advance.

Ilm, I'd wait a day or two, and then call her.

Or you could try talking to her when you see her.

Amazing how quick some transitions happen. Went from actively wanting to hook up with B, to being kind of apathetic and not caring how things went, to being kind of actively disinterested but still liking her as a friend...now I've gotta say that she's quickly becoming nothing short of annoying to me, and nobody I really care to be friends with. She was drunk texting me after midnight last night and being goofy, and I was just rolling my eyes at how irritating I now find her to be.

Anyway, my edition of B is definitely, definitely a dead entity in this thread. Mostly just giving the thread a bump since it isn't very active this week and hope others will post updates.

how do you guys go about getting girls with boyfriends? theres this chick ive been talking to a lot and weve hung out once, with another girl present. shes got a boyfriend at another school and they see each other probably like 1-2 times a month. im not sure how to go about this here.

Hit me with some details first:

1) How do you know her?
2) How old are you? How old is she? What year in school are you guys? (if you are in school)
3) How long has she been with the boyfriend?
4) How attractive is she? (serious question)

If you guys want real advice with girls, Check out this guys youtube page.

http://www.youtube.com/user/arkady39

He also answered the controversial question "do girls like jerks?"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rf_SSurXtVw

GoodGame,

that was a really solid trip report. i lold

1)we officially met last semester in class and we have another class together this semester. we lived in the same town before college and knew of each other but had never met.
2)im 19 and im pretty sure shes the same. shes either 18 or 19. we are both freshmen
3)im not sure how long shes been with this guy, but then again shes never said a word to me about him. the only reason i know he exists is because one of our mutual friends told me he existed.
4)i think shes pretty attractive. i dont really like to toss out ratings but i would say shes like a 7 out of 10. tough to say i think though because im biased in this situation, so you guys might rate lower.

Oh, sweet, a question I can answer. Pretend she doesn't have a boyfriend. Don't talk about him, if she mentions him change the subject. Just act as if she was single and see where it goes. She'll stop you if the boyfriend is an issue.