Right in first pic >> left

drunk TR from tonight. went to some party, it was cool. went home with a group of ppl and our roommate (brother of our other roommate) who rents the couch started to bug out. he started talking about shooting whoever came in the house. i have way to much respect for myself and the ppl i hangout with to deal with this stupid **** so i'm moving out tomorrow.

you heard it here first student life forum! hollerrrrr

Agreed. And I'm not even partial to blondes.

Off to Vegas tonight. I'd rather be lucky at the blackjack tables than be lucky with the women, but here's hoping for both. I'll be back on Thursday morning.

gl LKJ

I have no idea which one in the pictures is hotter to be honest, my hotness scale is kinda broken. I'd have to choose the one on the right in the first picture only because I have a thing against curly hair for some strange reason.

how is the girl on the right in pic one hotter than anything? left girl is legit.

Both girls are fine, girl on right is hotter because of that weird nose/mouth/annoying girl thing the one on the left is doing. Anyone being "shocked" at anyone finding either hot is stupid.

I'll take that as a compliment

lol my girl has tonisilitis. wtf.

big, fat, hanging curveball over the middle of the plate...

AND

swing and a miss

you still got this though

that tonsil's only gonna get in the way anyway AMIRITE

Heyhey, another quick checkup about this speeddating get in contact thing. I have her name, is it standard just to add her on facebook and then leave a private message like the one yeota suggested a while back if she accepts?

Hi guys. I've been reading this for a while but I haven't noticed anything on the subject of approaching girls. I'm usually fine chatting and having a laugh with a girl in a club, but the conversation usually starts after an incident (like treading on foot, or spilling drinks). If you see a hot girl on the dance floor do any of you have a usual 'opening line' to initiate conversation?

Also, for the sake of curiosity, I was wondering what UK students do when they get a 19-20 yr old girls phone number. Do you ring or text? I always tended to ring but I was speaking to my female house mate and a couple of random girls of that age and they said ringing was creepy! I know its a small sample but I thought maybe most girls of that age have grown up texting in the UK and ringing might seem weird.

I pretty much always text as I usually only want to say a few things. Never really thought about it before. Most people just text as they get a load of them free.

Can't help you with the first one, but as for calling or texting, I think now it's becoming more common to just text. What with not knowing people's schedules, whereabouts, and activities, texting is a lot more convenient and open ended than calling and having to saddle something together in 2 minutes and hang up.

Girl on left is a million times hotter.

Without the curly hair factor she'd easily be hotter imo. With it she comes second.




Added my girl on fb anyways.

The only thing better about the girl on the right is her hair. I'll take the one on the left

Awwwww you guys...

Thanks to everyone who took the time to read and respond to my original post. I appreciate all the advice. I would like to say a little more in response. At this point I am really just confused and would like to understand what actually happened over the last few months. I want to know if at some point she was interested romantically and that just faded, or if there was never any interest at all. If the latter, why did she agree to go out with me several times, and continue to text? On the 4th date, when I was explaining how I felt, one of the things I told her is that, it seems like I am forcing her to go out since it takes so much work to get her to make the time, in response to this she told me that she is a grown woman and that she doesn't do things that she doesn't want to do, and that I was not forcing her. Don't really know what to make of that.

In the beginning it was VERY hard on me. I would get sick to my stomach trying to guess at how things were going, or what she was thinking. I am past that now. I am not nearly as affected as I was a few weeks ago over this. Now I am just wondering if there is any chance left at all of this going anywhere. If there is any move I could make to turn things around. I had considered coming completely clean to her and explaining that she is the first girl I have ever asked out, so that is why I may have been acting a little out of the ordinary, although my guess is that this would just make me seem pathetic to her.

It just doesn't make sense to me. We got along great during the time we spent together. I am very attracted to her and feel that I could be very good for her. She seems to be dealing with a lot in her life right now in terms of work, and getting her career together. I feel like I could make life better for her, both emotionally, and not that she is looking for it, but also financially. Although one of the things she told me on that 4th date was that she does not want to be dependent on someone. So the big question in my mind really is, what happened here? Is it worth asking her to explain to me exactly what was going on in her mind throughout our relationship, if for no other reason just so I can have an understanding of what occurred?

I am several years younger than her, I am a good guy, I would be very caring for her and make a VERY good living. I have to assume she had some level of attraction to me to let things get this far. I just don't understand why she would not be interested.

Thank you again to all who take time out of their day to give attention to this.

I need to catch up on the thread and really am in no shape to respond to posts atm, but I couldn't let this one go.

Instead of responding analytically, which I will do at a later time/tomorrow night/Monday, I am just going to bold all the places in your post that you need to seriously reevaluate... aka I'm going to bold all the places you are going/went wrong.

Bold and blunt cliffnotes of my analysis: you were obsessive, over-emotional, subservient, needy, clingy, passive and probably started spewing creep vibe pretty hard. You basically acted completely opposite of every way you should have acted in every situation.

I don't mean to sound nasty, but you asked for our blunt analysis and that's pretty much it.

yeah you were just way too over eager, but thatll stop with experience. definitely do not have the define the relationship talk after 4 dates. Thats insane. Also, the part I bolded is definitely a bad idea. youve been on 4 dates with this girl, you dont get to know things like that and its weird to ask (I mean making a gesture is fine I guess, like saying "are you ok" or whatever, but definitely dont push it at all)

also, making this post mostly to say that that girls hair is really freaking me out. She has such a hot face and would be so much hotter with normal hair, but now she just looks so ****ing weird

really need life advice itt. I never thought I'd do something like this but if I can do anything to get an edge here I'll take it + you guys are like the most awesome people I know, so much wisdom and you've all helped me out so much in the past.


theres a girl who basically is my dream girl. she works at a pool hall I go to all the time, and I'm really good friends with the owner. she has this super dbag boyfriend.
we really never talked or anything just hi's and maybe a joke here and there for like 6-9months.
a few weeks ago she asks to see my phone so I give it to her, she grabbed my # and started texting me (at first as a prank, but since then she had texted me almost every day). Another day she asks if she can play pool with me and we do that, the next day again but this time at the end of the night she asks the owner to take her home because she's tired. About an hour later the owner calls me all excited saying that she told him that she really likes me and wishes she wasn't going out with that guy and how great i am etc etc... after this her texting/calling me frequency went way up, she opens up w me starts asking why i don't have a girlfriend, telling me she wishes she wasn't with that guy, saying she wants to hang out.
We made plans two different times to hang out away from the pool hall and both times she flaked out the day of when I asked what time to meet up and she'd say something like "I dunno I have to _________ and then i'll call you" but the calls ended up being "can't do it today sorry i really do want to hang out tho".... When I asked her about it she finally admited that it was because she was still going out with her boyfriend even if she didn't want to and that would be cheating and it's not fair etc etc... but also said shes going to try to get him to break up with her (because she felt bad breaking up with him)
the next day she texts me first thing in the morning to let me know she got him to break up with her... she asks me to go to the pool hall to hang out with her, I do, she's being really nice, we made plans to go to dinner that night, she also asked me to meet up with her and her friend the next day because her friend wanted to meet me and "approve" of me - she seemed excited - then a few hours later she tells me shes not hungry but she'll go if i want, I'm like plz don't do me any favors we'll go another time... then today (when i was supposed to meet her friend) I text her to ask what time, she sends back "I dunno I'm at my dads house for a few hours do you want me to text you later?" I said "no" she asked why I asked her why every time we make plans she ends up sending me a "i dunno" line that ends up with us not meeting up. I said I wasn't trying to be rude but it just had me confused... she said "it's not that I don't want to hang out, im not trying to be rude either" I said "it's ok don't worry about it see you later"


a few hours I get "i don't want you to think i didn't want to go to dinner with you tonight because i do like you but i have been thinking right now like we should just remain friends because i need to figure out things and get back on track and i don't want you to think im leading you on and i don't wana hurt you because i really enjoy hanging out with you... i really hope you understand."

my first reaction is lol wtf this girl went from "omg i like him a lot" to "hey lets just be friends (code for: lol ******* i don't want you but i don't want to hurt your feelings either)".. **** HER!!!!... my second reaction about an hour later is if I have any chance I want to fight for the chance to be with her.

I spoke to an ex about it who imo is pretty honest, basically she told me just tell her that you like her but you're not ready for a relationship and you always did just want to be friends, get to know each other, and see where it goes. So I sent a text pretty much exactly like that. No reply, but she's prob asleep because I sent it at like 3am and she silences her phone when she goes to bed.


I'm so used to just getting frustrated and giving up in these spots. I don't know if I should give up, or make some super sweet gesture and go after her as hard as i can.

You are the prize, not her.
With your attitude, you will never be in a happy relationship, it's not about making her happy, even caring for her financially.

It's about making each other happy. Right now, the whole relationship would be about her, you would do everything for her and she would have to do minimal things in return.
This behavior (as I stated above) only works with manipulative girls.

The only way you will ever have a chance to get together with her is by meeting/dating other girls.

The bold part sounded like trouble and as it turns out, she is trouble.

I would definitely stay away from her for a while.
Dunno what to think about the line your ex gave you, but possibly a good line.

To be honest, you might have been a little bit too passive, but it's hard to tell from your post.