Rotel- u screwed up.

GCG- good TR, seems like u were out with a lot of shallow women if u ask me. Didnt really seem like u did much wrong. Try to go for chicks who seem to be keen on you. Theres no point investing time on chicks who for whatever reason are not into you.

I lol'd really hard when GCG said she was slightly fat.

Good luck SL Spring Breakers. Wrap it up and get yucky imo

Do you ever use smiles in texts? Sometimes I feel like the only way to get my playful message across is to use them, but at the same time they feel so childish. Opinions?

It depends who I am texting. If the person I'm texting doesn't use them I will almost never use them but if I'm texting a girl that uses smiley faces in lieu of punctuation (which is like 75% of girls) then I'll throw in a couple every now and again.

Yet another reason not to serially text and to keep conversations brief when doing so.

exactly why text/email/etc all suck for conversations

there is no easy way to convey meaning/context

I use them occasionally with with girl friends (2 words) who are big fans of them, but would never do it to girl I'm pursuing

Smileys are only supposed to be used ironically, as a trolling tool.

To 19 year old girls who quite literally use smileys as punctuation if you don't use any they will often be confused. Kind of a sacrifice you have to make when you're a young male in 2012 and girls are afraid of using the phone.

I know many girls who don't like talking on the phone to guys, they prefer to text so they can think about what they're going to type rather than being put on the spot.

The occasional thing like "haha" does the trick without making you appeal to females by being feminine. As a sarcastic piece of **** myself, I know how there's a need to take the edge off of your electronic message sometimes, but it seems that there's ways around the emoticon thing.

*obligatory bitches love smileys post*

and no, I would never/have used smileys and don't plan on it in the future. If something genuinely makes me laugh I'll toss out a 'lol' but that's pretty much it.

Seems like I have to post the goddamned video every week because someone asks the same damn questions about smileys.

Obviously:





Now for the real answer. It is girl/age dependent. I'd say after college, it's pretty much unacceptable to use smileys, but there are plenty of young college girls who love that ****. So figure it out and don't spam the **** out of her with them.

No self-respecting male should use emoticons IMO. Stick with "haha".

title of your next album obv

In line with my irl humor which is very deadpan, I never use smileys unless I'm actively trying to troll someone. I might go with a 'haha', but even then I usually prefer a dry 'heh' if absolutely necessary, but would rather leave it up to the reader to infer my intentions. If my jokes aren't understood that usually leads to a (for me) funny situation as well, which is fine by me.

Then again, if using a smiley can ever lead to a followup of showing that video, using the smiley would be sooo worth it.

Now a TR from last weekend, where I once again end up in a bed unknown to me but this time consensual.
I pregamed a bit with my housemates and then went out with a buddy I met a few weeks ago. Off to what has become my standard weekend place. There is never a line so I always come relatively late, when it's almost full.
I grab us a round of drinks, and stroll up to my favorite spot. I overhear people speaking my language instead of English, and I'm quite sure there's an unwritten rule foreign students have to stick together. However, I'm just happy I can speak my native language again with someone for the first time in weeks, so I approach them.
Conversation is easy when connecting with someone from your home country when you meet each other in a bar halfway across the world. It's one Dutch guy and two girls, and two German girls and guys. I learn my buddy actually speaks a few words of German, and mine is good enough to understand most of it.
Neither my buddy or the Germans understand any of our Dutch brabbling though.
I soon find out they're not getting along all that well, the German guys are intentionally being massive jerks because they don't like the Dutch guy, and that guy is slandering the (gorgeous) German redhead (in Dutch). Guess the it's just the girls that kept these two groups together. They haven't been here as long as me yet, so I give them an imaginary tour of the city, most of which is just regurgitating what I heard from others in my own words. One Dutch girl is pretty captivated by me, and my buddy is doing pretty well with aforementioned redhead.
However, bars close here way too early, so we're trying to organize an afterparty. I volunteer my house, which is ****ty but it's better than nothing. At that point my friend divulges he has access to a pretty baller apartment from his aunt. Apparently he comes from an old money family, which I didn't know. So we go over there, and although I don't have much comparison material, this must be one of the nicest places I've ever been. We drink a bit more, but eventually the German guys get too pissed off over whatever petty thing they're worrying about, so they want to leave. Fine by us of course.
Even though they don't seem to like us at all, they manage to do us a big favor by convincing everyone to come with them, except for my Dutch girl and the redhead which (coincidentally) live at another place so they couldn't share a cab anyway. Logistics have instantly been solved.
From there on out, it's smooth sailing, just avoid any major ****ups or nazi jokes. There's a fantastic guest room for me, with one wall being completely made of mirrors. Never seen anything like that before in this situation, and neither had she so we had a lot of fun figuring out fun visual positions.
There was one major drawback however, my own bed doesn't have a headboard and this one did which I kept forgetting. The result is that I now have a pretty nasty bruise on the back of my head. Ah well, be proud of your battle scars I guess.
As the chance I'll see her again is near-zero it was kind of a meaningless connection, just for the physical but there's not many ways to better spend a weekend night.
However, even here I just feel like I happened to be in the right spot at the right time and got lucky, and just had to not **** up. I have some friends who seem to be able to pick any girl and do with her what they want, and I've never felt that level of control. I'm pretty sad I have no idea how to do that, and feel like I've hit some sort of pick-up roadblock but for now can't figure out yet what to change.

Also, the girl I went on a date with I posted about in one of my last posts, we went out two more times and I had a lot of fun with her. Unlike the one night stands I pick up I actually feel like I genuinely like her for her personality. That barely ever happens for me (I can think of like, 10 people off the top of my head for the last 12 years, and that includes good friends on top of romantic interests), and I'm pretty sure it's influencing my behavior around her. This might be way too broad/general but what is the best way to combat that? Either forget about her/give up and run away (lol commitment issues) or figure out the best course of action to tie her down?
I won't see her for two weeks now, which should give me enough time to clear my head and think of the next thing to do.

You don't get her # to meet up back home in the Netherlands or anything? Seems like it would be +EV.

+1

Totally agree.

Wait WTF just happened.

That is one of maybe a 12-15 lifetime uses of the an emoticon. Good work in remembering it.

fine line between cute and lame. i think they're cute when they're from a dude i'm actually interested in. if it's not your thing don't do it! I used to text a dude who never used emoticons and then in one particular text he used it and it just felt extra sweet.

what do you want from her in the short term... the long term? You'd be stupid to run away when it's rare for you to actually like someone. think about what YOU want. do you want to get to know her better and potentially get serious? are you willing to give up your flings and random ****s? think about her too, don't just lead her on and randomly bail in a couple of weeks because you freak out.

Haha, I legitimately laughed at this post. Good one GJG, but sometimes I do try to make sensible posts.

I didn't get her number but I got her facebook/e-mail, but while she's going back pretty soon I'm staying here for a few more months, then probably not staying very long in the Netherlands before moving to another country again. Good point though, I forgot to mention that and it's always worth a shot.

I don't disagree it'd be stupid to run, but this is the first time anyone that I liked has actually seemed reciprocating that feeling, so that kind of scares me since I have no idea what to do and that freaks me out (I'm the kind of guy that reads manuals before using new products). I'm definitely trying to think about her as well, and the fact that we're working together (only for like, 3 more months) kind of complicates it as well for me, that's a big part of why I don't know what to do or how to handle this.
I do plan this for the long term though, but as I said I have no experience with that, hence the actual question.

Been gone from thread for a while.
Has the question of the century been answered: Is Henry real?


Who are you visiting for SB/Who is visiting you? (meaning SLer's), I feel this needs to happen so LT5 can see how easy he can hook up with da womenz.

I mean, he met Mittens in person and brought his girlfriend along. Thremp was involved too but I try to forget that part. In any case, that's as much confirmation as we could reasonably get. He also sometimes broaches the possibility of meeting others around here.

I don't think that there's a lot of reasonable doubt that he's for real.