Then what is MF?

MF= mother ****ing psycho

LOL this page is off to an awesome start.

I guess this girl should be A then because she's smart, conservative, a little shy, etc.

We need to create a standardized dictionary though (e.g. A = awesome, F = Freaky in bed, etc.).

Anyone else thinking that this line is way too weak? I mean she ditched you right before you went out. This would tilt me and it's pretty bad behavior on her part.

**** ppl are involved with Ds!? i can only juggle 3 potentials MAX at a time. youre all a bunch of overachievers

A is spot on.
B is close but who the hell pays attention to what other guys girls are flirting with?!
C yeah usually for me B is the hot/best in bed threat and C is the wishful thinking one I'm half-assing.

I.. I have never had a D but I have no interest in hanging out with a platonic soulmate or my sister.

It is bad behavior, but it's just as well that he doesn't let her know she phased him with it.

I considered this but what the hell else can you say in that situation.

Anything you say that shows anger is obviously not going to help your chances, so playing it off as no big deal is the better line. "It's cool" or "that's fine" or "oh that's too bad" all sounded way worse to me. So I went with what sounded least bad and tried to make a little bit if humor out of the situation.

Although I'm a little displeased we ended up texting for most of the rest of the night... we basically exchanged face to face contact for a text convo.

nah i think the text was fine

cut her off, you=busy=good thing

she will be dying to talk to you again if she's interested

Well, but it shows her, that she can pull that **** off whenever she wants.

You dont have to show anger, but you can show that you are a little bit pissed. Something like: "An earlier notice would have been better" (terrible line, but you get the idea).

I think you showed her, that she can basically blow you off in the last minute. You dont have to show anger, but being pissed is absolutely normal and you were pissed, if she cant deal with it, she isnt right anyways.

I think a one-word text like, "Okay," or "Alright," followed by no further replies might get the point across without treading all the way into the territory you're advocating...which I would still advocate against.

I don't think it was best for ILM to allow her to text with him all night after she blew him off. With all due respect, that's puppy dog stuff. We all fall victim to it at times, but it's obviously to be avoided when possible.

"all night" was misleading. We were sending about 3 an hour for a period of about 5 hours so maybe 15 total. I still should have cut it off though.

not a fan of your idea tbh spurious. i think showing any anger or anything like that is a bad play. i like how il_martilo turned a positive spin to it (humor == +).

as for the texting after, i mean its no biggie but hindsight is 20/20 and perhaps cutting back on that a little bit would have been optimal, but i mean you cant think so much about something as inconsequential as the frequency of your texting last night.

that is all night. I have never sent more than like.. 5-6 texts to a single girl in a day. 15 is a looot. Yeah I woulda cut her off at some point too. Not because I'm trying to fake being cool or busy or gaming or anything.. I would have definitely slipped in something snarky about why we're not just talking face to face and then not reply anymore.

i wouldnt necessarily have gone snarky, but if she tried to text me later after 1 or 2 texts i would probably say something along the lines of "yeah thats cool (in response to her text). i gotta go though cya"


as for the line he actually used, i see no problem with it and probably would have done something similar.

i think going with "ok" or snarky is fine if u do it very very rarely. they'll never be used to it and will always go out of their way to make things right between you two. so basically if you need a confidence boost that she still likes you and all then say that.

How about not answering at all? She doesn't get to know you're angry, which she should be able to decipher had you just said "okay." or "alright."

Or is the silent treatment too immature?

if u don't respond she'll just think you're busy or ignoring her either way she's not gunna text u again. unless you plan to text the next day, who knows how long you'll go not talking

Maybe a little less passive-aggressive would be better, but this stuff is really pissing me off. We got a date, it's been scheduled for several days, you are supposed to fit it in your schedule, if it doesnt work out for you, at least have the decency to say it 1 or 2 days earlier not WHEN I AM ABOUT TO LEAVE THE HOUSE FFS.

I think the line shows her, that she can do what ever the hell she want. I mean it's not a big mistake if ILM has something to balance it with (like other girls). The texting afterwards was a big mistake imo, but that's been pointed out.

i would probably prefer it over the 3h conversation and probably over the line he sent.

I guess I am in the minority though. I dont want to be right, those are just my thoughts.

Who cares? She screwed up big time ! (EY EM OH!)

It's eye em oh.

Meh. Contacted the girl with the temporarily sick father in an attempt to get last week's plans rescheduled to tomorrow night, she wasn't able to do it because she made plans to go to a play with a couple of her girl friends. I'm sure that excuse was real, but I threw out some bait trying to get her to offer another time and she didn't take that bait.

I said something to the effect of, "Bah, too bad, guess you're just going to have to take my word for it that the in-person version of me is charming too. " There was an inside joke contained within this that isn't worth explaining, but seriously I've just talked to her a handful of times in person (and always just at school) since I met her a few weeks ago, longer conversations have come over IM with a couple of text convos thrown in.

She said, "Oh I can already tell that you're uber-charming in person too. " I said, "Haha, but we're practically just online friends so far." She said, "Well, not for long, haha." (she was referring to the Vegas trip being just over a week away.) I cut the conversation off within two minutes of this (it was over IM), but I kind of thought that if she cared about hanging in person before Vegas that she would have taken the bait and said so since she was the one who (understandably) canceled on me last week. Anyway, nothing fatal here, but I'm probably not going to be hanging out with her alone before next weekend.

I'm going to see if I can't get another of the girls I've been working a little bit on to do dinner tomorrow night.

Yeah she's turning you down for sure. That doesn't mean you can't try on the vegas trip, just that she's not immediately overwhelmed by your looks and a couple of texts. This is normal for most reasonably attractive girls.

She's still chatting you up so enjoy your trip but asking her out again before the trip is a definite nono.

i disagree, i think she is into him given the nature of her text messages

I really don't think there are truly strong conclusions to draw either way. Unless something truly overt happens through text/IM exchanges, a person is usually making a mistake to draw too much from them.

A week ago, she tried harder to make something happen before unforeseen circumstances occurred, this week she didn't, but for all I know the reason she didn't extend an offer for this weekend could be because she's booked for the other nights too; I know that I'm personally booked for Friday night at least, not sure about Saturday yet but Th/F/Sa is essentially the weekend for those of us who generally end up cramming all of our law school homework into Sunday.

I lean toward pessimism, but that's just because I'm in a slump. Objectively I don't think I'm either in horrible or great shape here.

Again, I'll pursue another option in the meantime...but it's late now and I'll just get in touch with that one during the day tomorrow.