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Originally Posted by Henry17
Spurious,
What is the value in keeping in touch with people you never see?
I have FB and I have people who I've moved away from or who have moved away as FB friends. To use an example Mark -- he was in the top three closest friends while in law school and probably my closest friend during articling year. I would see him minimum twice a week and we went to Europe for two months together. Next thing you know he gets a new job and leaves Toronto. Our total interaction is now limited to writing happy birthday on each others walls when FB tells us it is the other person's birthday. He got married and has kids. I can't tell you their names, ages, or even gender. If I find myself in his city I'll call him up to go for a drink and if he comes to Ottawa or Toronto I'd expect the same but I just have zero interest in talking about the minutia of my life with him or hearing about his. Once someone moves out of the sphere of people you interact with they get replaced by other people. If I was going to keep in touch with everyone who was a close friend once but who I don't see now I'd need two personal assistants just to manage that.
If you dont see the value in keeping in touch with them, then we are different.
Also, I cant keep track of the different phone numbers everyone has, especially if you move within Europe and you have to get a different number. So having Facebook is the only way to keep track of their contacts.
There might be an age difference, but I very well see a point in keeping contact with former close friends. And they usually dont get married and get completely disconnected from their former lifestyle, as they do in your case.
For example, I recently flew to London for a job interview, I got a few friends there, but not their phone number. I checked beforehand if they are in town and if they were free to meet up. When I fly in at noon and want to meet them for drinks the same night, it is less likely to happen if I call them after I land.
There is also the notion, that you replace people in your social circle. This is only the case, if you, yourself, stay in the same spot for the entire time. I tend to move around and move from city to city. So having contacts there is a major advantage.