ya i just didnt know what to do. and she's not just like casual it may or may not happen. it was like 100% she likes me. i wakeup late, ldo poker player, and for the past like 2 months i've woken up to a text from her. and honestly i think this is making her want me even more

take 1 girl in the future, who is ridiculously hot, and you don't care if you hook up/go out with her (technically should be doing that regardless but it's pretty much impossible), turn it into an experiment?

I know very well that this is the problem I've just been having loads of trouble being my true self when interested.

Neither am I. The point of my story was to discourage it, not encourage it. Sorry I did not make that clearer (although I think I did).

why?

im the same way. i always seem to put on some sort of show like im really trying to impress a girl, even though i think she already is interested. probly a self esteem issue (like i have trouble believing a hot girl is interested in me, so i try harder when i dont have to).

grunch on the f5 but (martilo correct me if im wrong ) guys i think hes saying that the dick stroker is a girl that he DOESNT care about and DOESNT wana hook up with but the other one IS a girl he cares about. and martilo just balls hard so why bother hooking up with girls that you dont want to

ETA: ughhhh GG at that text message lol

I think I'm actually the opposite now, I come off better with girls I'm interested in because I care more about putting effort into the conversation. Sometimes if I'm less interested I just get lazy and don't try very hard to get to know someone. I think this is probably kind of weird...

This is pretty close. But just in general I'm trying to make random hook-ups less frequent. If she had been super hot I might have but since she's not I decided that sleeping would be a better use of my time.

And I think it's pretty close to what TUTS said... when I meet a hot girl I feel like I have to try super hard to impress her but in reality that ends up sabotaging me. If I could just be myself it would be game over.

so the girl i sent that text message to wants me to come over on thursday "just to hangout". pretty sure this is the classic 'maybe if we hookup he'll like me more' scenario

this is EXACTLY what i was getting at with my story

your. words. mean. nothing. to women

your behavior means everything

bang her tho.

this is the result i wanted. she's still on me but understands why i'm not making plans to hangout with her, etc.

then if it nothing comes with the other girl this girl will be there

now that i think about it, i attract an awful lot of fat chicks. I drink an incredible amount and I'm a giant *******. Perhaps they're in to that.

I'm a little late to the party, but I like to see the TRs from people continue. I enjoy reading them.

heres a tr.
i was 50/200 in a tournament where first place was 1.1 mil.
i had played 9 hours of awesome poker, only tiny mistakes at unimportant times.
then i gave away my stack with a5.
how bout that tr.
hate everything.
oo more tr'ing.
really big quiz tomorrow.
havent studied.
and its on a ton of stuff.
that i dont know.
good times good times.
cant wait to tell the girl in my class that i already blew it with that i failed the quiz cause i was playing internet poker.
"o that sounds lame, how much did you lose?"
"well i got 144th but i won.."
lol 144th thats really bad isnt it tee hee tee hee you arent very good"

fffffffff pokerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Need advice here on a unique-ish situation...

Sent a msg to a chick on an online dating site, she writes back, seems receptive. She includes her e-mail address at the bottom and it's basically hername@gmail and I'm like "holy ****, did I go to high school with her??" Didn't recognize her in pics. Looked her up by e-mail on Facebook (which she suggested, I haven't friend requested/sent a msg or anything yet) and sure enough, we have 20 mutual friends from HS.

My HS was pretty small, my grad class had like 125 students, I didn't ever really talk to her in HS though. But anyway, we both live in the same city now (San Fran) and I need to figure out how to play the "lol, didn't we go to HS together?" card when I send her my next msg without it coming off creepy or anything and still keeping her interested (she might find it weird to go on a date w/ someone she went to HS with as a default). She was fairly attractive in HS and it looks like she got hotter since then so I'm def interested in going out with her. I was a nerd in HS but she prob doesn't remember, and I wasn't unpopular or anything, most everyone was cool w/ everyone else due to the small size of our school.

So, what do I say?

eh, id probably just say nothing and wait for her to bring it up. if she doesnt, then you can bring it up after you are actually friends on facebook and it wont be creepy.

I feel like that'll be awkward, she'd obv instantly notice when she sees my facebook profile that we have 20 mutual friends and then think I'm ******ed if I didn't notice (or that I did and didn't say anything, which seems creepy)

there is no easy way out, i think you should just say it in your next msg and see how she reacts, if she feels weird, this was never going to happen anyways (as you said she will find out soon) and if she doesnt care, the problem is solved.

dont really see how its a big deal

you: just realized where i recognized you from, didnt you go to goofyballer high?
her: omg i thought that was you, we sooooo have to catch up

"when i added u on facebook i noticed we had 20mutual friends loll. did we go to hs together?"

seems easy to me

I'm 25 and have never had a girlfriend and I'm totally normal and ok!

(****, FML)

Lots of ppl already do this in the thread and it's quite readable, and I enjoy it and find it entertaining (both Karak's posts and yours). Stop hating. Can't we all get along?

My roommate's dated two chicks in the last few months he met online, had good first dates with both, didn't kiss either of them on the first date, but still went on to date each for >a month (still with one of them atm) and got sexytime pretty quickly. So, I guess the moral is, don't feel like you have to.


I think you guys are right about the HS thing, I'll just bring it up casually, I'm overthinking it (as always)

"haha thats weird i went to HS with a girl who had the exact same name" unless her name is like Jane Smith lol

Update on my situation:
First off, thanks to the people who gave me some feedback. I went on a date with the girl and we went to yogurtland, talked there for a while and then went to a park nearby my place. We sat and chatted there for a while before it started raining and we proceeded to go back to the car. Somehow we start talking about making out and she tells me she hasn't been with a good kisser and then I say "maybe I can change that" (lol corny, I know) and go in for the kiss. We end up making out for like 10-15 min off and on. I drop her off and right before she leaves we kiss some more and I pull away and just look at her and she says "one more please" I say "you gotta come get it", so she grabs my face/head with both hands and kisses me passionately and we say goodnight and she goes inside her place.