Yeah strange how people above a 6 aren't gross and desperate, eh?

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i qould just ask her and see what she says, wow this thread got a lot of publicity lol

would*

probally a easy question but i wanted to ask it any way.

I work part time at a store, where a girl (girl A) also works. This girl and me often work together. when we work together we gennerally talk to each other, also we laugh a lot with each other.

any way last monday i was at school and a girl (girl B already has a boyfriend and is not really relevant to the story) from work (who i also know from outside work) texts me if i can work for her this week. I can't because of other appointments and tell her that she should ask some one else. She says she already has and that she has agreed to change shifts with girl a. I text back to B and say with a joke good job for you.
I get a text from girl A (whose number i didn't have before this) and she replies with the same joke. she must have gotten my number from girl b.

anyhow, today i had to buy i gift certificate for my father for his birthday at the store where i work. when i go to the register girl a is behind it and we talk, mean while she makes a small mistake in the procedure at the register.

when i get home from the shop i send here a text teasingly that i won't tell the boss she made a mistake (she also does this to me sometimes)

afther she responds i asks if she has to work in the weekend (she doesn't have to, i however have to do it.) then we discuss plans for the weekend, both me and her have plans for tomorrow. however we both don't have plans for saturday. after a these text i gather my courage and say in a text that we don't have plans we could always plan a date together. (perhaps it is good to say that up untill this point there have been around 5 text back and forth.) and that after this text i have to go to work. (she is finisht for the day) this takes place in about two to three hours (during the time she was working)

after i don't get a reply after a half an hour i get cold feet and send a text, that my previous text could be miserunderstood (action of a p##sy i know) she responds with that she understood that i could be misunderstood but that she didn't have much money for the weekend and she wasn't sure about wether she was going out or not.

after this i send back a text about seeing someone at work who has been sick for a long time. she responds to this and i respond that i have to start working.

after that she responds something to the lines of have a good time and we will text about saturday. i respond that we will text about saturday.



my question now is what do i do:
do i text her tomorrow
do i text on saturday
do i let her text me
obvliously i want to go on the date.

English is not my first language, so if anyting remains unclear i will try to elobarate on it.

This is so brutal right here. Sending that second text is bad.

I'd wait until tomorrow afternoon/evening to text her, hopefully she'll text you beforehand. I mean, you still have a pretty good shot here, but I'd let her have a bit of space and time. Let her come to you. Absolutely do not text her today. Try not to text her until you're done with work/school on Friday.

Tuts, if she's not comfortable going to the bar, don't try to force her. (note to self: take your own advice).

where i live it is now around midnight. so i won't text her this today. also what might be worth to say is that she brought up the fact about texting each other about saturday on her own.

i also dont believe in ditching out on my friends for a girl i dont know.
im not really sure what to do, because none of the options are really that good.
id prefer to go with my friends to the show friday night and then hang out with her at my apartment or do something with her on saturday night, but i said friday and i dont want to flake.

That's why you don't exactly flake, you broach Friday as promised and then try to guide her in another direction if her response is anything but enthusiastic.

These girls are nowhere near desperate and gross. I just run like god with girls I'm not really interested in.

omg I cringed so hard reading that sentence, you gotta think about what mel gibson would do in braveheart

HOOOOLDD!!!! HOOOOLLLLLDDDD!! HOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!

Yeah, if she's underage and hasn't been to a bar before, trying to smuggle her in (what would you even do, get her a fake ID somehow?) is prob a bad idea

Since I got nothing to contribute for a while as I'm feeling down and don't want to go out I thought I'd share a lol at how bad I failed miserably at detecting if a girl was interested lol.

I was cleaning my inbox and found emails from a solid 8 a few years ago. Brings back memories. She literally msned me every single day for at least an hour for a few years. When I wasn't online she emailed me a ton. She even set me up a myspace and piczo account and posted pics of her in a bikini on it. Reading back through them makes me seriously lol at how I could possibly not ship this. Here is an example..

"XXXXXXX!!!
im so prud of u for ur quick reply. my school was closed at about 7pm tonight even if there is no snow tommrow its still close!!
which i really good but weird coz they neva close the school unless the snow is really deep and it hasnt even started snowing yet!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOPY WOO
i really dont no wat to do. hmm im sure will find something ! we have to do something!!!
we could have a sleepover u me iain and er whoever else and im sure yyyyyy will want to come the perfect chance to perve on me!!
heheheheheheh.

and the 2 of us oculd meet up earlier in the day and just hang round or something. we will discuss propa when we realise what the snow is doing

it had beta snow or i will cry:'(

the best time to do it for me is the saturday sunday or monday night if we have a sleepova
coz like all my friends are going skiing apart form u of course. hehee"


I think I've improved at detecting when someone likes me since then but its still lolbad.

bars dont care if youre underage. but also there is a band playing so id get her a ticket, so then they really really wouldnt care if she was underage.

6+6=12. 3some or bust.

This is so true. If they're that desperate to maul you, you get to name the conditions right?

+1. Could not get through that part without squirming uncomfortably in my chair. And I thought it said an hour and a half on first read, not a half hour. Bad either way, but the half hour thing is...wow.

What on earth? I still get carded at most bars, and I was able to successfully pass for 21 and gamble in Vegas as a 16-year-old.

srsly. assuming they know each other... "if you wanna hook up so bad, do each other. and let me watch."

Seriously? Every bar I've ever been to in a college town is ridic careful about checking IDs, but maybe California laws are harsher or something if an establishment gets caught letting minors in

I did this awhile ago and found some convo (which I'd apparently completely forgotten about) I had with a girl I was hopelessly in love with (and obv failed with) in my early college years where she said that maybe if circumstances were different when we met (her not getting back together with her ex, which wound up not working out anyway) things could have turned out differently w/ us

put me on serious lifetilt even reading it 5 years later

I get carded so hard it's ridiculous. I do look pretty young (I'm 22), and I look about 12 years old in my picture, so whoever is IDing me usually either makes a joke at my expense (which I don't mind) or goes through every step possible to check if it's a fake.

True story, I got carded the other day to buy a knife. You have to be 16 to buy a knife.

Okay, so I just followed up with this girl, she had mentioned during this night wanting to have me over to watch some HBO special she liked. Would rather go out, but I don't even know if she's wanting breathing room after her breakup at this point or what her mental state is, so I figured that in order to hang out I'd just go with the in she gave me and see how things go.

Texted her, asked her when she wanted to do that, she said, "We should plan that soon. Maybe this weekend." I mentioned that I was planning on going to a function going on at a downtown bar tomorrow night, but that otherwise I wasn't sure what was up this weekend, and she should just call or text if she feels like hanging out. She replied, "Yeah, I was thinking about going to that thing tomorrow night too." I said, "Cool, hopefully run into you there then," to which she said, "Yeah, definitely."

So...sounds like a good chance I'll run into her tomorrow, hopefully will hang out with her this weekend at some point in any case.

bars here are soooooo lax about letting in underagers.
if you have a fake, any fake at all, you get in.
at some bars, you dont need an of-age id at all.
this last summer, me and some friends went to a bar, and only some of us were 21. half of us got in with ids that said we were 21, the other half just showed their normal, real, underage id, and got in.
another story: it was pouring rain earlier this year and the bouncer had to stand outside in it and check ids. he was saying outloud "i dont care just keep walking" as he would grab the id and then give it back, without even looking at it. "i dont care if i get fired i hate everything just go inside"...was really funny.

I feel like putting the ball in their court like this never, ever works out. But that could just be years of negative reinforcement and variance.

give me some pointers, as you seem to be the best at guiding girls to exactly where you want them

I do agree on some level, but the fact is that I left her in person the other night with a similar line (while fully intending to do the following up myself)...once I did follow up tonight though, and she gave me a fairly positive but non-committal response, I decided I would both
A) Leave it in her court,
B) Throw tomorrow's function into the same text in hopes that she would take the bait and want to go too (which she indicated she did).
There's not some loudly ticking clock working against me here in all likelihood. If I don't run into her this weekend and she doesn't get back to me, I could initiate contact again in a week or so without any real loss.

With some girls, I would agree it's a better play to try to force plans right there and then, but considering her situation, in case she still wants space, I'd just as soon leave it there.

Oh FFS...

As long as this thread goes on, I'll curse the day I even started posting about that situation.

heh all good.

i wanted to add something about my thing. a while ago, there was a convo about how if you know the girl's name but you havent been introduced, is it ok to call her by her name and not look like a creeper.

well when i got her number, i was just upfront and said i know your name is XXXXX, but im not sure how you spell it. wasnt awkward or anything, except i boo'd her when she didnt know my name. basically, it was the most confidence i have ever had towards a girl. i just went for it, and it seemingly worked.

LOL @ people not realizing how easy it is to get into bars with someone else's ID.