Omfg she's tilting me so hard. So we're all good, but obv the chat from last night comes up and we talk about her situation. See below...
Joe:
so we're good?
16:31Samantha
we're good
well..
it feels a bit up in the air
16:31Joe
what, after the "chat"?
16:32Samantha
er yeah
16:32Joe
well, its pretty much up to you..
16:32Samantha
well obviously I told you my situation with Robin *****her bf**** drunkenly..and expect you to keep that under locks as its a very gentle situation
16:32Joe
of course
16:32Samantha
and the Joe bristol thing..****the other guy not me****
its just a complicated time so..and like I said Iv tried to make these decisions..and I cant
16:33Joe
im not asking you to at all
16:33Samantha
no i know, but like just understand and that would be ciik
cool*
16:34Joe
as i said, its not like theres any rush. just do what you want to do, i know you obviously worry about other people but you gotta be a bit selfish
16:35Samantha
yeah..but i would much rather sacrifice my happyness for him
16:35Joe
but thats silly cos you're not actually gonna make him happy by not being honest with him
16:37Joe
i know its cringingly cliche but if he loves you then he'll just want you to be happy surely
16:38Samantha
yeah but if he thinks im happy then all is well
16:39Joe
so you're just gonna pretend everythings fine for the rest of your lives to avoid having to actually be honest?
16:40Samantha
yup
iv told u i cant hurt him so im not going to..
saves him, saves my familys judgement
16:42Joe
but you're still hurting him by making him think everythings fine when it isnt. be realistic, you're gonna be able to keep up that lie forever
so your family members have never broken up with anyone in their life ever..
16:43Samantha
you dont get it..it would be awful lol
they would get over it but urghhhhhh
16:44Joe
of course they would
their your family, not robins
*theyre
16:45Samantha
ughhh and then robins family...ah god haha
this situ is too deep
16:45Joe
sam im not being funnt, buts its a barely 2 year relationship. obviously its hard but christ, its hardly a 25 year marriage
*funny
16:47Samantha
this is my point..you dont get it
and im nto expecting you to
but like..saying that is so unhelpful
16:47Joe
a mum and dad splitting up, leaving 3 kids after being together for 20 years is a deep situation. i dont mean to be harsh, a but a teenage romance breaking up is so incredibly standard
im trying to be realistic..
no i know i dont get it
16:49Samantha
yeah, standard for you! Your longest relationship was 6 weeks..i would get over it, my family would get over it..obviously..but he wouldnt..and im not about to ruin his first year of uni for him. Considering everything he has done..to be here with me.
16:49Joe
my relationships are irrelevant, im talking in general
it was his choice.
16:51Joe
im just struggling to get my head around how naieve you're being about it. im really, really sorry if it sounds like im being a bit harsh.
Lord give me effing strength.