I'm generally an adept at knowing when a girl is interested but I've dug myself into a bizarre situation and would appreciate third-party perspective.

*Girl X and I have been friends since high school. We hung out fairly regularly in high school but over the past seven years we've lived in different regions. During these years we kept in touch through texting (around once per month) and getting together for drinks during winter/summer school breaks. We've been living in the same city again since May and have hung out twice: (1) I met up with her and her friends at a bar, and (2) she invited me to a BBQ where the only attendees were her parents, her sister and sister's fiance.

*Girl X might be a lesbian. She's easily an 8-9 looks-wise and a arguably a 10 when factoring in personality and other intangibles. X has never had a serious boyfriend and I've never seen her with a guy. In fact, she almost always goes solo to events (such as weddings). It's very hard for me to believe any human being could be this picky, so the only possible explanation is that she's a lesbian. To put it in perspective: I've said on this forum that I have no desire to have a girlfriend, get married or have kids because giving up my sexual freedom is just too big of a compromise. I'd consider giving it up for X.

*X and I have hooked up before (no intercourse) but we were both very drunk. We never spoke about this.

*I slept with X's friend 3-4 years ago. Afterward, X's friend pleaded with me to keep it between us because X "would be really upset" if she found out.

*Anyone with half of a brain would be able to see I'm into X. I'm never too direct because I want to avoid making the friendship awkward but she's smart enough to know when I'm flirting. X never gives me a positive reaction, she just laughs it off (much in the same way a random girl at a bar would if she were uninterested). Aside from the one hook-up, X has never verbally or physically given me any reason to believe she's interested.

*I got a text from X this weekend asking when we were going on a double date with friends Y and Z. I usually wouldn't think anything of this but this is very out of character for X as she's always been very careful to avoid leading me on. I responded with an inside joke and a "when" and the next text I got back was unrelated. I haven't responded.

I'm 99% sure she's not interested but thought I'd throw this out there for your entertainment purposes.

take out your wang and see what she does

oh my gosh you used grammar

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Once you introduce the possibility that she might be gay it becomes impossible to rea the situation from a distance.

lol only bc its a long post. it'd be too hard to read otherwise

is there any other explanation for why a beautiful 26 year old girl has never had a boyfriend? she can certainly afford to be picky but her selectivity is beyond insane.

I know that readability for others is a great concern of yours.

If you would marry, have kids and get a house with X there will be other girls that you would feel the same way about.

Anyway, X was a lesbian but she's now into dudes also.

maybe she has social anxiety?

doubt it bc she's very social and outgoing. went to a big party school for UG (think ohio st, usc, florida, texas) and is always out partying on the weekends with her girlfriends.

i'm convinced its either: (1) lesbian or (2) some crazy biological thing that she doesn't want ppl to see.

Good looking people don't have social anxiety.

She could be a lesbian or she could have had relationships that you never knew about.

Cite?

I'm not really looking to derail this topic into a debate about psychology and made-up illnesses so just ignore I said that.

and all women are whores

YA **** CHIXXXXX D0000D0ZZZ

thanks for reassurance earlier all.

Admittedly I just got her a pretty ****ing awesome "sorry I'm such an *******" gift.

He hand-carved a whole statue out of a huge block of wood.

Well I'd still like to respond. To think that physically attractive people can't have issues with social anxiety is wrong, though it'd probably be correct to say it's much less likely in attractive women. And feelings of anxiety are real, whether you want to classify them as a disorder or not.

I consider this situation impossible to judge from an outside perspective. Except,

Yeah that sounds like the GCG "gay guy checking me out" thing from the other day. Think about their perspective. If you've also never had a gf, and think she's gay for never having had a bf...

It comes back to his thing where he's certain that 99% of women only care about getting married.

i don't have serious gfs (defined as relationships where youre expected to attend bull**** like gf's great uncles 50th bday party) but i have always dated/slept with many women and X knows this for a fact.

in contrast, X is virtually never seen with a non-friend guy under any circumstances.

also, the "no relationship" mentality is much more common for guys than girls.

cosigned.

To think mental illnesses are made up is just ignorance

an AKspartan vs. Henry17 debate would give me half a stock

Umm...I think not: