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Originally Posted by supafrey
Why would you ever have "the talk" instead of just asking the person out on a date?
Everything I've ever experienced just tells me girls hate boys that talk about their feelings or what they want instead of acting upon it. Someone confessing their "like" for you just makes dating them into this whole big pressure situation.
This is all valid, except that the nature of the situation is such that asking this girl on a date doesn't result in her viewing it as one. She says yes to asking her out to dinner one-on-one, she says yes to asking her out to the movies, etc., but nothing indicates that she then sees it as a date.
A single guy asking a single girl, "Hey, you wanna go out to dinner tomorrow night?" That's a date FFS. It'd be one thing if it was a last-minute, "Hey, you hungry? Let's go eat." Premeditating it by at least a day is a different thing in my opinion. But again, her accepting and then going to dinner doesn't actually mean anything.
Aside from actually using the word "date" in the question, I don't know what else I could have done in these attempts to ask her out.
I understand that in all likelihood the whole thing is completely futile now, and that I'm essentially just dealing with aftermath, but it can't honestly be said that I didn't both (1) ask her out or (2) try put myself in a position to make a physical move. I did.