Also unless you and your sister are twins than your at least a year young or older...curious as to which.

haha i saw it. i think my initial reaction was just 'lol gg,' but then i realized it could be potentially embarrassing had i been looking for a job in your town or happened to know anyone there. i mentioned to yeota that he should prob avoid posting pics of me/any other chick he might get serious with in the future.

I got the feeling she was a younger sister.

Anyways, Goofy is right. The sister is a natural starting point here so I'd be working through her. I would probably even go as far as asking the sister if A had ever dropped a hint at thinking I was good looking or whatever. Use the resources you have (your sister) to your advantage.

And how have you NEVER been 1 on 1 with her? When on vacation and the group is hanging out say you're going to the store or something and ask if anyone wants to come with. IF she's interested, she'll bite.

yeotawife itt?

fyp, but yeah

fwiw i live on the opposite side of the country, only did it once, and it only lasted a day. there's an infinitely greater chance that a site doing "meet local singles" ads on random porn sites would use your fb default than that ever affecting you.

have you and yeota hookedup post breakup?

If its a younger sister he probably has a better chance, because usually siblings look up to older siblings so her positive view of her brother would in turn get sent to her friends. If its a older sister she might view her brother as a tag along or a nuisance a lot of the time so this might get conveyed to her friends.

I'm 24, and no I will not be changing my school. I'm applying to post-bac 1 year masters programs beginning this fall, one of which happens to be located in the same city where she goes to school, which in and of itself is a fairly big co-incidence seeing as there are only a few programs of this type around. Quality wise there is little difference between this and say the absolute top-flight program. Where this would factor in is if I'm accepted to multiple programs, at which point I visit each, see which is the best fit etc etc. Close proximity to A is nowhere near the most important criteria in my mind atm and it never has been. But it's on the list.

You would guess correctly, younger sister by about 3 years. Maybe it was wrong to say there has never been any 1 on 1 interaction of any type, when she around all the normal **** happens, grocery runs, dog walking, watching TV etc, basically your general roommate level stuff. During which we get along great, but again when she's around her priority is to spend time with my sis and not me, so where my sis goes she goes which is understandable from my point of view.

As for my sis I've never directly come out and said "I want to bang A", since even tho she ok'ed it so to speak I'm not sure how it would go over, definitely alluded to it on a few occasions but I don't think it ever sank in. Rest of the family seems similarly clueless, despite the fact that I have been getting less subtle of late.

lol good timing with this...

Zugzwang life update
FFG and I have spent essentially every second together since she broke up with the boyfriend. Still not sure how much I LIKE like her though.. In any case it has been great because like I said once upon a time she is a great gf material kind of person. Has been doing tons of little stuff that when added up is awesome.. Cooking, laundry, coming to drive me home when I get too drunk, the works.

Right now the point we are at is she said when she broke up with the bf she only wanted to see me, has dropped the L bomb a few times (drunkenly to be fair), expressed a desire for me to not hookup with anyone else and I said that if I did I would let her know so we would stop as she doesnt want to be in any sort of rotation.

Last night at like 12:15am I fell asleep right after a BJ and when I woke up 45 minutes later she was like "Are you still going to the gas station to get black and milds before you go to the gym?"

Yes of course I am.

Paraphrase: "Can you just take me home? I don't want to go to workout anymore and if I stay here tonight I won't get to sleep until like 4am (she has a 11am class). And tomorrow I can just be by myself all day and clear my head and get stuff done yada yada yada."

Me: WTFlook!?!?

"Aw ok do you want me to stay that badly?"

Well, really I just don't want to drive you home.

This was the first night we didnt spend together in like 3 weeks and I mean I have definitely been missing my alone time BADLY but didn't want to say anything to her about it out of fear of it coming across the wrong way. I digress.

Now this would've been totally cool with me except for the fact that she could have thought of this sooner in the day at 8 - when she picked me up from soccer, we essentially pass her apartment on the way to my place. So I was mildly annoyed at the lack of foresight on her end. But like when I expressed this annoyance she got all distant and ****. Like, not a word in the car on the way to drop her off, when we got there she got out of the car, grabbed some stuff from the backseat, and went inside not a word. Furthermore after I got back from working out at like 4am, she was on facebook. For Fk Sake!

So she is either mad about something I said in the 45 minutes I was asleep, or perhaps the drive-you-home comment but that wouldnt make sense as she already wanted to leave. Or maybe she is mad about 2 things. A distant possibility is that her ex-ex-bf (the one she dated for like 3years) just got back in the country so maybe she is rethinking her never-date-him-again policy. In any case she hasn't contacted me at all today and I fear is expecting some sort of apology. I am normally not one to pander to people in this regard - apologizing is no big deal to me if I am actually in the wrong, but I never would do it just to make someone feel better.

This is where you come in SL! I leave the fate of the potential apology in the hands of the top 9 posters. Wouldve done 10 but Hank never comes round these parts anymore. And what could be more fun than a goosebumps choose your adventure type TR! So we vote!

Apologize or no?
Karak:
LKJ:
Vintage:
GCG:
CCuster:
GG:
TBE:
Yeota:
Goofy:

FWIW she is almost as stubborn as I am so I fear if the apology does not happen, things with FFG have a decent chance of being buried. So it goes.

Last time I checked, the first 3-6 months couples are "the greatest couple in the world". You are not supposed to be having talks before you are really dating.

Just break it off. Why do you think this relationship has any potential?

Haha, I'm honored zugz - I'd say don't apologize, because you have no f-ing idea what you're supposed to be apologizing for. I might ask her if something's bothering her but I'm not gonna just throw out an apology and hope it lands on something.

Hell no you don't apologize. As far as you know, you didn't do anything wrong. Keep the pimp hand strong.

Talk to her as if it had never happened, refuse to acknowledge inexplicable distance if it persists.

Tbh its been pretty good other than this **** w katie. Maybe im making too big a deal of it itt but basically I just wanted to remove katie from the picture and let jenn know that I am not going to be a bitch about handling it. I've been friends with both of them for almost 3 years (katie a lot more so than jenn) and katie is just being jealous.

Not sure if the 2nd part is rhetorical or not but ill give an answer. Primarily, we relate extremely well to eachother. Have almost the exact same story when looking at post HS onward (Srsly it is scary), both have direction and want to get out of sofla, she understands my humor and has her own quirky sense of humor (very important to me), into sports/active lifestyle, and for the ppl itt she has prob the nicest body of any girl I've ever met w/out the flagrant bitchiness you would expect from a girl who knows she looks good. She is very respectful about some of my close friends that she doesn't exactly care for herself. She is the complete opposite of a "what do u want to do...idk what do u want to do" type of girl. Etc w/e.

Maybe the smart move is to drop it...the last girl I dated started off similarly w a friend of hers getting psycho and I did just break it off but I feel like this has the potential to be something more serious and this thing with katie has only reached a certain level of annoyance. If it persists I'm done. If I lose momentum w jenn and I...done. I really think the next time we see eachother will be very telling.

Last night jenn couldn't sleep and we ended up talking for an hour or so w no mention of katie fwiw.

Also ...go heat

we were doing so well too.

@ zugs, iirc:

1) she's not your girlfriend?
2) you wanted her to stay, albeit technically and for a different reason, which I'm sure she looked in to at least mentally
3) hasn't she done this kind of **** before to you? like you hooked up with some other girl or you told her you were gonna stop hooking up with her or something?

I remember GG making a post that LKJ can dig up in a few minutes for me when he reads this, about some kid of prediction about what girls who want to date you do when you're sleeping with them but don't want to date them.

Don't apologize if you find out that this is what she's mad about. Reserve the right to talk it out and change up your strategy on the fly if you realize that you messed up somewhere during the conversation, but tbh, you probably worded something wrong in a sentence that completely threw her off because she's a young girl and completely ****ed in the head.

Or period. P-U-R-E-U-H-D. You say she's been around for ~3 weeks now...

slight fyp; +1
not exactly sure what this means =/

i vaguely remember making this post. lkj should dig it up i'm curious what i said now

Sorry, I don't remember that post. I have this photographic memory that will cling to a key word or phrase or sentence forever, and that's how I can quickly track things down...but that post just isn't ringing a bell at all.

zugz --

I'm with the others, don't apologize. At least not until you know what you did "wrong". I'm not of the "keep the pimp hand strong no matter what" camp, as I will totally apologize for some bull**** behind closed doors if it gets my dick wet, principles be damned. However, I wouldn't want you to set the precedent of just rolling over whenever she pulls this passive/aggressive **** where she's mad about something that you (apparently) did but won't tell you about it. **** that noise, and **** those games.

Also, if this chick isn't your girlfriend but is spending the night every night for 3 weeks, how are you going through such major withdrawals when she decides not to spend one night with you? I got "clinger" vibes from you when I read that -- maybe she did too?

vintage i didn't think it was clingy, he just didn't wanna bring her home. but maybe she perceived it as clingy?

anyway, zz, i would not exactly apologize, but come at it from a sincere approach that, though you don't know what you did, you are sorry that you made her upset. ask her about it, get clarification, whatever you did that pissed her off, apologize for the misunderstanding and clarify that you care about her and all that **** girls need to hear.

it seems like you're getting a way better deal, i mean she is a DD and does laundry wtf you can't drive her home one night? yeah maybe her timing irrational but whatever it's like zz 56, ffg 1. i think you can let it slide.

and who is ffg again? sorry i can't distinguish btwn the numerous members of your harem

what girl would get mad when the guy that she clearly wants to date gets clingy?

heh i think i may have misunderstood those two posts

Zugz- she was obv mad because you didnt beg her to stay with you


therefore, i wouldnt apologize. i wouldn't even ask what the problem was, she'll bring it up. then she'll say that it hurt her that you didnt beg her to stay with you, to which you can reply "you told me you wanted to go home" and she'll say "i didnt mean that, i wanted you to want me to stay" to which you reply "well why dont you freaking say that". then she will likely apologize for being girl cryptic.

either way youre gonna be in a tough spot soon- it seems like when she is wanting more of a full committal from you.

Ugh I want to contribute more to this thread but it seems I'm always busy and on my phone and can't get decent replies in. Trying to be less of a moochy noob to this thread

Btw who are sharks fans rooting for goofy? I was actually hoping they made it to the cup I felt they deserved it 4 real this year

There's some hockey discussion in the LC thread, but I guess most of us are rooting for Boston, cause **** Vancouver.