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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun
yea i realized like 45 seconds after that i ****ed it up. i was like noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
then i realized how easy it would have been to say "you should stop by" after she said "cute" about the party.
i suck.
seriously.
on friday how direct should i be?
should i be like "i wish i saw you last night, i wish i got your number so you could have come"
or something like "we should meet up to night, ill text you when im heading out"
thoughts?
"Trying too hard" comes immediately to mind.
You asked her to eat with you. She said no.
Not a big deal. Doesn't even qualify as embarassing rejection. That is why saying "you hungry?" works. No pressure, no embarassment.
She did say "thanks for asking" which either means that she isn't interested in you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings or that she actually wasn't interested in eating with you on that day. The first means that she likes you and you have a friend, the second means that you may have a shot at a date in the future.
You did act kind of ******ed after that, but you are a boy, so she is used to that. Your take on how ******ed you acted is probably exaggerated.
Just calm down. If she isn't into you, there isn't much you can do, and at least some girl is talking to you. If she is into you, well, that is complicated. Personally, I have never had a girl who was interested in me say no to eating lunch. I have heard stories of drawn out courtship, but I don't have the attention span, I guess.
As far as what you should do tomorrow: Tell her where you are going. Tell her how much you are looking forward to going. Ask if she wants to go. Listen to what she says. If she says yes, ask if she wants you to stop by her place to walk her there. Give her directions if she says yes. At any point in which she says no (to either of the prior two questions), don't geek out and ask the same question a second time or try to convince her. Also, don't invite yourself to whatever plans she has. Both are stalkery.