Quote:
Originally Posted by jon89
So I am in my third of four years at uni and live with two close guy mates. We all get on well and live in a small house and things are cool. But we all do the same course and my social life has definately died down because I see less people now. But I still enjoy what we have as a house, though maybe feel a bit empty at times.
Anyway, two pretty hot girls do medicine and their mates all leave uni this year and they have asked us to live with them next year. They know one of my mates fairly well and me and the other lad hardly know them but know they are sensible and fun. But we have NO relationship with them at all, there is no friendship or anything there because we have spent so little time with them.
Anyway I got to make a decision whether to live with them. I watched 'Yes Man' about 2 hours before I found out they wanted to live with us and it made me just think '**** it, yeh just live with them'. But it could damage our house friendship, and we may not end up getting on well with them at all...
Its a risk that could pay off if we live with them (meet new people, meet hot girls, new friends), but it could turn out pretty badly. Or I could play it safe and live in this comfortable house and at times feel pretty bored.
Help!
The decision is as easy or as difficult as you make it, depending on how much thought you give it. If you are one of these people that over-thinks a lot or likes to plan ahead and have security etc then the decision ultimately becomes harder than it perhaps should be.
You are at university for a reason but you are also there for enjoyment - finding a balance between the two is the right answer. At the moment you probably have a pretty sweet time but the grass is always greener... you find little things that you may not be happy with and assume the answer is radical change, as opposed to sorting the current situation out. The adjustment that is required from going from one extreme to the other shouldn't be underestimated..
The fact that in your 3rd year now you will have a lot of work and have LESS time for going out when comparing with the last two years should be considered alongside the fact that you will have less time again next year..
If you want to play poker after a day at uni and grind for the night..will that be entirely plausible without being anti-social? Will you have to alter your behaviour because you live with two girls? Will you have the same freedom that you probably enjoy now?
Definitely go out with them a couple of times before making a decision.. go out to neutral surroundings first, like a bar, where people will feel more comfortable and then on a separate night invite them round to yours and cool. They get the chance to see how you live and a decision can be reached afterwards.. GL