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Originally Posted by zikzak
That was a weird move. Don't understand that at all.
I asked for it to be moved. Timeline was this:
1. I post thread
2. Minutes after posting, I ask mods to move it to TLDR figuring that trolls would be more likely to try and derail my thread in OOT.
3. That was confirmed when slipslope started posting there
4. I complained about said trolling
5. Thread was moved
Probably will get less responses. But I think that less can be more.
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Originally Posted by A-Rod's Cousin
I applaud SUB for "coming out" about this. People who voluntarily try to educate others about life eccentricities should be welcomed not made to feel bad, or like they are seeking attention.
The latter response was exactly what I expected trolls to say because it appears to be a common negative response to claiming that you have a mental disorder. I believe people say that because many mental disorders cannot be seen immediately. If I have a broken leg and I'm wearing a cast, then nobody is going to question whether or not I'm lying when I tell them that I can't help them carry anything. If I tell somebody that I can't lift anything heavy because I strained a back muscle, a skeptical person might think I'm just saying that to avoid helping somebody lift furniture because there's no physical evidence to show that I have a strained muscle.
Honestly, there are times where I act normal (or what I perceive to be normal) and you wouldn't know that I had any problem at all. But if you were my roommate, you would see what I'm like in more intimate details and realize that yeah, something is messed up.
If you saw me as a child, you wouldn't need to see me to know something was up with me. When I was a child, I had difficulty speaking. I used to just repeat verbatim what another person would ask me before answering the question. As a matter of fact, it's something that I still occasionally do though it's not as bad as it once was because I adjust for grammar when responding.
Person: SUB, how are you doing?
Me: How am I doing? [short pause] Oh! I'm fine. You?
I also used to ramble when being asked just as simple question. I would make connections that others would not see. Again, it's something I still do but it isn't quite as bad as the transitions between topics are more sensible than in the past. Example:
As a child:
Person: What's your favorite fruit?
SUB: I like green apples. The Jets are playing the Seahawks.
You can tell what the connection is when it is in writing (the color). When in conversation, you would probably do a bit of a double take and be confused by that kind of response.
As an adult:
Person: What's your favorite fruit?
Me: I like green apples. They taste a bit tart but that's what makes them so good. Used to eat them a lot when I was a kid. Though to be fair, I was more fond of bananas than apples when I was younger.
Still can't stay on topic but at least the transition is more logical.
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I also feel like a dick now for some of the ways I've treated SUB in the past, as well as another SE reg who recently revealed Aspergers. I'm 36 and I'm slowly starting to think more sensitively about people around me.
The last thing I want is to have people walk on eggshells when I'm around. Unfortunately, that may just be the immediate response to my condition if I told a person at the wrong place/time.
I guess revealing my condition can be a lose-lose situation. Either I don't tell them my condition and they think I'm a weirdo or I tell them and while it explains my behavior, they don't know how to adjust their own behavior and it creates a different uncomfortable situation because of their lack of knowledge. Mostt people perceive autistic people as minimally functional whereas I am not. When they hear that I am autistic, it changes their perspective on what it means to be autistic.
It's hard to say "approach all people with ASDs [this way]" because the sheer diversity of both the people who have it and their exact symptoms is too complex for generalizations. Even among classifications, there can be significant differences between patients. In that matter, I can really only speak for myself.
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SUB your friends probably acted indifferent because either they have little idea of ASD, or they do and they either already painted you for that, or they just don't care since it doesn't technically change how the two of you should expect to interact moving forward.
Yeah, that's what I figured after staying up and thinking about it some more.
Last edited by SuperUberBob; 04-21-2015 at 08:05 AM.