I know I'm being silly. I think I'm just somewhat kinda nervous. I want a child, I just am not sure about the whole infant stage. I was never a kid person, so having babies around or young children always made me a bit nervous.
I think I'll be ok. She'll be mine, and the home will be fun with her in it. Just gotta deal with the poop.
I wouldn't worry too much about the poop - generally it is contained in the diaper (but not always...)
Last week my 8 month old daughter was ill and threw up all over my back and a significant part of the floor of my bedroom. Funny thing is I didn't mind at all.
Being a medic in ths army, stuff like this doesn't bother me. I had to hold my wife's leg while she pushed. She only had to do 20 min of pushing so it wasn't terribly long. Being helpless to stop the pain was the worst part for me. When u see ur loved one on pain u want to help but you can't.
Once I could see my sons head coming out it started to get real for me. I was just praying they both would be safe and everything ok. Seeing the birth didn't make me less attracted to my wife whatsoever. Knowing my wife was brave enough to endure these past 10 months and labor for our boy made me love her even more.
The labor went smooth but unfortunately our 4 day old son was admitted to a Korean hospital here in Seoul yesterday for seizures. On day 2 he would have these mini "fits" where he would tense up, turn red, eyes start to roll and temp not breathe. The dumb nurses told us it was just hiccups and not to worry.
Well yesterday they started to happen every 15 min or so and got more intense do we took him to the ER. They said it could be seizures and rushed him to a local Korean hospital. He is now there for a few days up to a few weeks while they run tests and find out what's wrong. We only get to see him 20 min twice a day. I know I don't know anyone personally on here but your prayers for our son would be most appreciated.
Sending best thoughts Josh. I know how scared you must be. If I had to guess, he'll stop doing this, and some doctor will say "There are things we just don't know. He seems fine now," and then everything will be fine for the next 83 years or so.
thx for the support everyone. test results came back this morning and heart, lungs and brain are normal. small bruise on skull from birth which were told is normal. blood tests take up to 5 days to get results so its a waiting game right now. they have him on anti-biotics in the mean time, so if it turns out to be a bacterial infection(which the doc said she most likely believes it is and not seizures) then he has a head start on treatment.
dont mean to be a debbie downer in such an awesome and positive thread. just venting my wife and my frustrations...
Never mind the fact that it's not advice at all, just a douchey "you'll never understand how meaningful life is until you wipe the **** off of a noisy oversized grub" directed at people who don't have children.
It's been a rough go so far for us tbh. Tayden was admitted with seizures and has been in an incubator for 7 days now. We can't even touch him. He was having these fits at the army hospital he was born at the 2 days after birth and the nurses told us to ignore it because it was just burps.
2 days later they were more intense and frequent so we went to the ER. They rushed him to a Korean hospital where he has been since.
Just Friday we got test results showing its epilepsy. He's been sedated on 3 anti seizure meds for 6 days. They r going to continue testing and figure out exactly what's wrong and exactly how to treat it.
On the army side of things an entire investigation has been launched into the clinic out baby was at and ignored us. Our four star general in Korea was briefed in Friday. Hopefully the right things will be done regarding those nurses and the pediatrician.
We will be moving stateside to the duty station of our choice that has the proper med facilities to accommodate our sons needs. Less than 60 days well be stateside.
A big question we face is about our sons medical care once we get out of the army in one year. Epilepsy is s life long diagnosis. Should we get in contact with lawyers about trying to fight for his med care the rest of his life? It's hard to know what grounds we have legally being in the army. But my son should be taken care out ESP regarding the nurses incompetence leading to possibly more brain damage due to days of seizures he had, refusing to look at him and telling us to stop overreacting because it was just burps.
Sorry for the rambling guys, it's just been an extremely chaotic week. And to top it off my grand mother who I lived with for many years is going to be passing within the week.